Workout vent tl;dr

skooz · June 2013

So I might just be blowing this way out of proportion but its making me mad so I needed to share somewhere. About once a month DH brings up the fact that I don't workout much anymore or how I keep saying I want to get back into it, but I don't. He works out 7 days a week when he's home and everyday that isn't a 15 hour workday while deployed.

I know I need to workout more. I want to work out more, but I'm the only parent here right now so free time isn't exactly on my side. Since spring finally came (around April for us) I've been walking about 20-30 minutes almost everyday and I'm proud of that because it sure beats sitting around on the couch, but he acts like that doesn't even count for anything. I also run or do jillian michaels dvd probably 4-6 times a month at this point. And just so you think he's slightly less of a jerk, I played volleyball from middle school all the way through college so during high school and college I was working out 5-6 days a week and was in really good shape so he knows I can do it. And he's also not complaining about how I look because I look pretty much like I did before baby.

I guess I should be glad he cares about my health or something, but I wish he would just trust me that I want to work out more even if my progress is ridiculously slow. Also, I sent him a message this morning asking him to lay off so hopefully he will.

brandyleighxx · June 2013

I hope your H takes your text to heart and knocks it off! I agree, daily walks are a great way to ease back into a work out routine. I've also been trying to walk most days but it's been so dang rainy.

amaite · June 2013

If you really do want to work out more, and he's not currently deployed, ask him which days and times he'll be taking over the baby duties so that you can work out. Then you can come up with a regular schedule.

BluepointToasted · June 2013

To play devils advocate, I think this is kind of a double standard with men and women. I am guilty too of getting hurt and offended if DH makes a comment about me slacking at the gym or with my workouts. However, if he slacks I am all over his case. It's not because I think he is lazy or unattractive, quite the contrary, but because fitness it important to both of us and I want to live a long, healthy life together. Both of us feel so much better when we stick to our regular workout routines, physically and mentally. So while I get hurt by his initial comments when he says something, after I get off of my asssss and workout I feel so much better.

CaliVal · June 2013

Maybe he's more worried about your mental health than saying you look bad or something along those lines? I'm sure you know all about endorphins being released while working out and all that jazz. I know I feel better about myself, even if I dont look different, when I get a workout in.

But the half hour of working out definitely counts.

skooz · June 2013

I'm so glad I have some place to come vent, I felt better just getting it out and seeing your responses. When he got back to the computer we talked and worked through everything. It was partly just not communicating very well in our earlier conversation. He said he was trying to encourage me to workout more, not be down on me for how much I do now. He also said the reason he keeps bringing it up is because nobody in our immediate families work out and it shows. Not necessarily always weight wise, but definitely overall health and he doesn't want that for either of us.

Anyway I think we were both on the same page after we talked and when he gets home he'll be on baby duty at least twice a week so I can go to the gym by myself.

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