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Re: FFFC

• fellesferie member

  June 2013

  non-BF:

  I usually roll my eyes when people b!tch about the media, but I have about had it. I'm sick of the manufactured crises. I'm sick of everyone playing their parts and taking their sides and saying their lines. I'd be pretty okay if they all just went off the air/internet/paper. 

  BF:

  XH legally has a vote in this medication issue, but I honestly don't feel he's morally entitled to one. He made the choice to abdicate all the parenting to me, and I think it's kind of unfair to both of us that he's asked to weigh in. Unfair to me because I have to deal with everything. Unfair to him because he's asked to formulate an opinion from 1000+ miles away. It's hard for me to deal with this, and I imagine it's even harder (though in a different way) not seeing the behavior or talking with the teachers or doctors.  

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• 2chatter member

  June 2013

  If we do not close on our new home before we have the skids for an overnight (we have started packing and it is obvious we are about to move) we will skip the overnight.  Why?  DH accidentally sent our loan docs to BM instead of himself.  She thinks he is stupid and will never get a loan, and told him this.  Were she to think that he is really capable (DH is a professional in a super senior management role) she would cause problems and has said so.  She told DH she would inundate HR after the divorce until they fired him.  Six months later he was literally the only person in his office laid off, with no net change in performance.  She had previously threatened lawsuits, threatened to kill a partner of a client firm over the phone and told HR how she would spend his death benefit - in detail and gleefully.  Her behavior was on his previous performance review.  He cut all contact for years between BM and work, and then the divorce started and she flipped.

  Long story short, she would call the mortgage company and title company and god knows who else.  I just don't need that headache.  Skids would snap iphone pics of the boxes and send them to her upon hitting the door.  I am so stressed and want a closing date BEFORE they come over.  If they even show up (they always cancel).  UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  

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• MrsHetzel member

  June 2013

  2chatter:

  If we do not close on our new home before we have the skids for an overnight we have started packing and it is obvious we are about to move we will skip the overnight.nbsp; Why?nbsp; DH accidentally sent our loan docs to BM instead of himself.nbsp; She thinks he is stupid and will never get a loan, and told him this.nbsp; Were she to think that he is really capable DH is a professional in a super senior management role she would cause problems and has said so.nbsp; She told DH she would inundate HRnbsp;after the divorce until they fired him.nbsp;nbsp;Six months later he was literally the only person in his office laid off, with no net change in performance.nbsp; She had previously threatened lawsuits, threatened to kill a partner of a client firm over the phonenbsp;and told HR how she would spend his death benefit in detail and gleefully.nbsp; Her behavior was on his previous performance review.nbsp; He cut all contact for years between BM and work, and then the divorce started and she flipped.
  Long story short, she would call the mortgage company and title company and god knows who else.nbsp; I just don't need that headache.nbsp; Skids would snap iphone pics of the boxes and send them to her upon hitting the door.nbsp; I am so stressed and want a closing date BEFORE they come over.nbsp; If they even show up they always cancel.nbsp; UGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  
  
  Is it possible to hire an attorney and have them send BM a cease and desist letter? This sounds like harassment and you shouldn't let her get away with it.
  
  As for sending the loan docs to BM, wow that was a colossal misstep but I highly doubt there is anything she can do about your loan if you already have the docs. She can take you to court for more child support or something to make it difficult for you to pay your mortgage, but as for obtaining the mortgage, an underwriter isn't going to listen to some crazy lady run her mouth about a perspective customer. They have too much else on their plate.
  
  And I get what you mean about skids sending pics to BM tho. My older SD is 14 and I had to give her the heads up that pics of the baby being posted on her Facebook is absolutely not tolerated bc I won't have BM and her little crew poking fun of my son on fb like 12 year olds...

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