October 2012 Moms
wedding ceremony attendance
I commented to two coworkers how I might skip the church ceremony of another coworker and just go to reception. A very common thing among my family/friends. Last wedding I went to, 20 or 30 people at church ceremony and 150 people at reception. they both thought that was rude and that attending the ceremony is 'mandatory' if you go to the reception. I stick by my beliefs, that it's not rude if I don't go, sometimes I just don't have all day to give to the bride/groom, ie if they have a 2pm ceremony and a 6pm reception.
What is your opinion? Rude or not rude? If it matters, I've never missed the ceremony of a good friend/very close family. Just, often the rest of them.
What is your opinion? Rude or not rude? If it matters, I've never missed the ceremony of a good friend/very close family. Just, often the rest of them.
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Re: wedding ceremony attendance
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I think it's rude. The whole point of a wedding is for two people to get married, which happens during the ceremony. The people think you're special enough to witness that so you should be there for that.
Honestly, sometimes I am just going to party, haha. I just don't always have all day to give to them, like MBM said, when there's gaps. I dunno, whatever. It's apparently normal for weddings I've been too, because the 10ish church ceremonies I've been to out of going to maybe 30 receptions, there was NEVER more than maybe 50 people at a church ceremony and still 100 at the reception. So clearly I'm not the only one.
For clarity, I'm talking about 1 or 2pm church ceremonies with a 6pm reception somewhere completely different. If there is an on site ceremony at 530 and a reception at 6, I will make every effort to be there at 530.
I think it depends on how close I am to the bride and groom and how much time is between the two and if the ceremony and reception are at different locations.
But in the end, I'd still probably want to go to both. If it were my wedding and a bunch of guests showed up just for the reception it would bother me.
DD: 10/23/2012
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Rude. But, it is nothing compared to when people RVSP that they will be there and you PAY for their plate, and then they either blow off the whole day, or just the reception.
Free dinner? I always give cash or a check as a gift, typically 150 to 200. I hardly call that a free dinner.
I personally do not feel comfortable going to the reception if I didn't go to the ceremony even I had a legitimate reason for not going to the ceremony. I missed one ceremony because of the LSATS and still went to the reception and it felt really weird.
I know this is a different situation as OP, but I find it EXTREMELY rude to bail on the reception if you've rsvp'd yes and haven't told the couple otherwise. 15 people "no showed/no called" for our wedding.
ETA I also think it SO rude to not show up when you've RSVP'd yes...and especially if you don't send a gift. Other than that situation, I would not expect any gift. But if I just paid hundreds of dollars for your family to come to my wedding and you didn't even show up, you better send a nice gift with a little apology! I still get frusrated about a certain family that did this to me. Actually, like 15ish people did this and it was such a waste of money and food.
Really? It is pretty common around here to have early ceremony and later reception. Wedding party usually books a limo and drives around to take pictures and then goes to reception. Now both sides of our family provided a house for everyone to go to during the in between but no everyone does that. It's pretty standard here