Going to work w seperation nxiety

Re: Going to work w seperation nxiety

• Valie18 member

  June 2013

  According to family lore I was the same and cried literally every day. I have no memories of it however, and have no lasting effects to report.

  Good luck! 

  
  
  

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• alizabethanne member

  June 2013

  I don't have advice but I am about to go through the same thing. I have been home with DD for a year and she's really attached right now. I can't even leave the room without her getting pretty upset and I start back to work on Tuesday! I just want to wish you luck and I hope she adjusts quickly! 

  

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• Karla CS member

  June 2013

  In college I nannied for an 18-month old in the same situation. The first day was.. rough. Really rough. He cried for pretty much the WHOLE time, didn't eat well, would finally sleep and then wake up crying.

  The second day, he cried for about half of the day. By the third day, it was easy peasy. Amusingly, the thing that worked the best was leaving the TV on to Golden Girls.. His mom apparently watched that show a lot, and just having it on in the back ground calmed him down a lot. Eventually, we didn't even need that, and by the end of the summer, he'd cry when I left.

  So basically, there is hope. It will probably be rough for some period of time, but your DCP should be used to similar situations and able to help her adjust. 

   

  

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• QueSrah member

  June 2013

  Even kids who have been in daycare since infancy go through separation anxiety around the same age, though maybe not as extreme.  Hopefully your daycare has strategies to comfort and distract kids who are upset, because it's bound to be a normal part of their business.  Give her some time to adjust, and it's bound to get better.

  

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• azuremama

  June 2013

  I would go in knowing that the transition will be rough and it may take a while for her to adjust. I'd think weeks rather than days, honestly. But hopefully as she bonds with her teachers, she'll get better. You might want to read some books about this with her. There's a Llama Llama Misses Mama book about how Mama always comes back, the Kissing Hand, and I'm sure there are others. I would also talk to her about what will happen during the day and how you'll come get her after lunch, after nap, etc. Good luck!

  

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• emberlee3 member

  June 2013

  I've had some rough transitions with DS. It may take a month or two for her to settle in. I like to keep other stresses to a minimum during these times. I try to plan DS's favorite foods for dinner, spend extra time snuggling, and just be there with him through the tantrums. GL!
  P.S. separation anxiety is normal, but the extremes are more of a personality thing.

  DS born 8/8/09 and DD born 6/12/12.
  

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• candygirl29 member

  June 2013

  alizabethanne:

  I don't have advice but I am about to go through the same thing. I have been home with DD for a year and she's really attached right now. I can't even leave the room without her getting pretty upset and I start back to work on Tuesday! I just want to wish you luck and I hope she adjusts quickly! 

   My DD behaves the same way. Best of luck to you as well and thanks for sharing   

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• Reilly626 member

  June 2013

  I'm in the same boat! I dread it bc my daughter is so attached to me. We start at 13 months old in August. I'm so sad and this makes it harder. Know you aren't alone.

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