I'm 10 weeks pregnant and we got the news today that there is no heartbeat and the baby stopped developing at 7 weeks. Disappointing for both of us, but I'm also relieved that mother nature took over if there was a serious problem.
I'm hoping that nature will take its course and I'll start to miscarry - the doctor was ok with that and we set up an appointment for Tuesday to see where things are and I think we'll also discuss having a D&C.
I'd love to get your advice on this. I had a miscarriage about 5 years ago and don't remember it being horrific and I guess I know I can handle that but not sure about the D&C. It sounded like a major procedure from what little we discussed today.
Many thanks and so sorry that we all find ourselves here.
Re: Question about D&C
Began trying for a baby January 2012
BFP 4.25.2013 EDD 1.3.2014 MMC 6.3.2013 D&C 6.19.2013
BFP 11.3.2013 CP 11.6.2013
BFP 3.31.2014 EDD 12.10.2014 Baby boy Carlson born 12.19.2014
I am so sorry for your loss. I also had a miscarriage this week. I was supposed to be 12 weeks, but found out my baby's heart stopped beating at 8. Because it had been so long, the doctor recommended a D&C which I had performed on Tuesday. To be honest, the procedure wasn't bad. I went in, went to sleep, woke up and it was over. I have had some cramping and bleeding since then but nothing horrible and am relieved to have been spared actually seeing my little one. This way, I also know that nothing is left behind after the miscarriage. My doctor was concerned that because of how far along it was, I could have painful hemorrhaging and excessive bleeding at home which may lead to a D&C anyway.
Either way, I am so sorry for what you are going through. I recommend you talk the options through with your doctor thoroughly and choose whatever course you think is best.
Thank you everyone. I think this will probably hit me harder later, but right now I'm just sitting with it. H is so disappointed and its so hard to see him sad - I'm 43 and this was a surprise pregnancy, but it will also be our last.
I think I'll schedule a D&C when I see the doctor on Tuesday just because the risk of complications seems like a real possibility.
Sending support to all of you - its awful that we have to be in this group, but what a blessing to have someone who understands just a click away.
My procedure was very easy and quick and I had little to no pain and very minor bleeding afterwards.
Good luck on Tuesday.