Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
hazy19
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Re: Looks like I'm going to be getting a c/s
Baby boy Henry born 2015.
Expecting our capstone baby (boy) early March 2018.
Ditto all PPs said. I'd add to have everything down stairs if you have a two story home. Stairs are a no no for several weeks. I went up ours at two weeks and it was too soon. Waited until three weeks and then only went up every couple days and gradually increased it.
Good luck!
I had an emergency c section, the spinal block is amazing, it was really quick and I didn't feel a thing, I just felt pressure on my upper abdomen, but it wasn't bad at all. The mesh underwear are great, but they did chafe alittle so that was uncomfortable, if you don't have granny panties already, invest now, the low rise underwear that hit right at the incision were a no go, and I recommend taking a night gown, or pants that you can pull up high, and a robe. That was my only issue, I wasn't prepared with clothes that fit comfortably higher than my incision line. Also DO NOT sit in bed, and reach over to the side to get the baby out of the bassinet! OMG! haha It's a pain but actually get up out of bed and pick them up, or make your spouse or whoever get them if you can't. That was a huge mistake, my husband was gone for the Air Force and my sister stayed the night with me, and I couldn't get her to wake up to get DS for me, so I leaned over and I pulled one of the internal sutures, awful pain and set me back recovery wise. It's true when they say that moving will help you recover faster. If they give you a pain pump... use it! And stool softeners are wonderful! Don't stress over it, I had a wonderful experience with my surgery, DS came out perfect and healthy, beautiful perfect round head, and my vagina is just as good as it was before! Plus we don't have to worry about snissing! YAY! haha Good Luck! I honestly hope and pray that the placenta moves though!
Yes, I was told no stairs for the first several days. I eased my way into stairs by taking a few a day starting at about five days after the c/s. If it's unavoidable, just take it extremely easy. Stairs and getting up from a seated position (and lying down, of course) were the hardest for me.
Another tip worth mentioning is to wear the binder your hospital should provide. Also, as you're standing up, coughing, sneezing, etc., it can help to hold a pillow against your abdomen. It's not an easy recovery, but absolutely doable.
Baby boy Henry born 2015.
Expecting our capstone baby (boy) early March 2018.
thanks! This actually made me feel much better and I'm glad to know about the whole getting out of bed to get baby thing!!! I definitely don't want to delay healing!!!