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July 2013 Moms
KatetheGreat79
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Want to punch my BIL
KatetheGreat79
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Just found out my brother in law and his wife are expecting. We are so completely thrilled because our baby will have a cousin close in age to grow up with. As thrilled as I am, I am so completely angry with my BIL because of how he is treating his wife.
He watches her like a hawk and is completely controlling about what she eats, how much she works out, etc. He even admitted to her that he is worried that she will gain way too much weight in pregnancy just because her mom is a bit on the heavy side.
To make matters worse she had had horrible nausea as can't stomach most foods. The other day he got mad at her because all she was eating was bread. Oh well! At least she was able to keep something down. He says she is just using pregnancy as an excuse to eat less healthy. He wants her to eat only veggies and protein and avoid carbs. To me this is so unrealistic. In my first trimester carbs were about all I could stomach. He sometimes acts like he is being this way because he cares about the health of the baby, but I think that's BS. I think his irrational fear of her gaining weight is the issue. I just feel so disgusted with the whole situation and feel so sorry for her. I honestly want to scream every time I am around him now but don't feel it's my place to interfere. I suppose I just needed to vent about the situation. If my DH treated me this way I might lose my mind.
He watches her like a hawk and is completely controlling about what she eats, how much she works out, etc. He even admitted to her that he is worried that she will gain way too much weight in pregnancy just because her mom is a bit on the heavy side.
To make matters worse she had had horrible nausea as can't stomach most foods. The other day he got mad at her because all she was eating was bread. Oh well! At least she was able to keep something down. He says she is just using pregnancy as an excuse to eat less healthy. He wants her to eat only veggies and protein and avoid carbs. To me this is so unrealistic. In my first trimester carbs were about all I could stomach. He sometimes acts like he is being this way because he cares about the health of the baby, but I think that's BS. I think his irrational fear of her gaining weight is the issue. I just feel so disgusted with the whole situation and feel so sorry for her. I honestly want to scream every time I am around him now but don't feel it's my place to interfere. I suppose I just needed to vent about the situation. If my DH treated me this way I might lose my mind.
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Re: Want to punch my BIL
This exactly. We can describe it till we're blue in the face, but they don't know what we're going through at that point. We have to eat but our bodies only will let us eat certain things. My husband has had some opinions but is pretty good at reading my face and shutting up when he needs to
Hopefully he really is only concerned about baby and not being a jerk about his pregnant wife gaining some weight, cause that's just going to happen.
Yes, he was like this before pregnancy. It's just 10 times worse now.
It's annoying to hear these things. The males in my family have a tendency to say things that just don't make sense and it's out of just ignorance. I spend a lot of time explaining things to them that just goes over their heads and they shut up. For example when i was asked "how much of my weight was baby weight" I went to explain how much other stuff is a part of weight gain: placenta, amniotic fluid, baby, fat stores for breastfeeding...etc. After about a minute or two into it, the subject matter was dropped.
BTW, like your pic. I'm a big Alice fan.
I had a boss at the time who kept telling me what I should and shouldn't eat. She did not get kind responses from me.