S/O: Leaving LO

Sillygirl85 · June 2013

I do not like to leave Elijah unless I absolutely have to (in other words for work). The rest of the time I take him with me to just about everything that I do. Since he was born, my husband and I have been out four times without him. Only two of those were more than 2 hours.

Does anyway else feel that same way? Do you leave LO other than for work?

HamptonsMama · June 2013

We take her everywhere. The longest I've been away from DD is four hours but DH had her since I had a meeting. We go out to dinner with her or order in. We are going to try going out one night soon but since I BF and she won't take a bottle I'll have to nurse her and put her down for the night first. I feel your pain and love since its so hard for me to be away from my peanut too.

Mrs.G123 · June 2013

I leave her to go to the gym. We have been out to dinner two or three times only. I wish we went more often.

lady dixneuf · June 2013

I hate leaving him when it's not for work

Olivebeinmamma · June 2013

I just had my first overnight away from BOTH kids for our friends wedding. It was great!! At the same time it was awesome to come home and have my DD so excited to see us and give big hugs!

DH has left the kids for a week here and there.

I haven't left the kids ever. My only time away is work, which I don't count, and then the hospital from DD. so again, not counted!

I just don't have a babysitter yet and SIL watching kids or MIL comes with strings attached. Really wish my family lived here... Maybe DH and I could have more date nights!

hboo2011 · June 2013

Um, yeah?! Every other Sunday I volunteer at an animal shelter so I'm gone for 4ish hrs. DH golfs prob every other weekend so he's gone for 6ish hrs. And we go out either just us two, or with a group of friends childless maybe 2 a month. Or sometimes he goes out and I stay in or vice versa.

I am a mom. But I am also a wife. A friend. A person who needs some non baby time. It keeps us sane.

To clarify, we have family nearby, which does make it easier to go out. I respect that it may be a little different if we were relying on a teenage sitter from down the block.

hboo2011 · June 2013

SarahW, you said you've only been out 4x without your baby? How is that possible? In 8ish months? You don't go to dinner with girlfriends? DH and you go to dinner and a movie? Do u grocery shop without him? Or do u not count errands like that?

morrkim · June 2013

We have hardly left her at all maybe once or twice, but part of it is that h works nights so we don't have many opportunities and usually we take her with.. She will be with one of h coworkers tomorrow who has been wanting to babysit forever while we on a date for our anniversary. I am so nervous because she does not know this person, we are having separation anxiety issues, and lately she has been refusing a bottle. Our usual babysitters are in the process of getting a divorce and the one that we feel comfortable with has had to get a job because of it after being a stay at home dad for 2 years, and he is working then.

Mrs_Lady · June 2013

I leave him with hubby when I go to the office once a week, we don't have a ton of family nearby so its just us hubby and I to watch him.

Family that leaves close to us has 3 so its perfect for playdates and even then hubby takes him there:)

As a parent you do need time away for yourself I say give yourself a break and do something without LO (hell even if it's just a walk around the block for an hour)

Good luck!

AnotherPreggo · June 2013

I leave DD in the nursery at church for 1 hour... other than that, she is always with either DH or myself.

We did have an overnight at 4 months and left her with the ILs. I cried that night...

Sillygirl85 · June 2013

hboo2011:
SarahW, you said you've only been out 4x without your baby? How is that possible? In 8ish months? You don't go to dinner with girlfriends? DH and you go to dinner and a movie? Do u grocery shop without him? Or do u not count errands like that?

I am not counting work. I take him grocery shopping with me. He loves to go out and do stuff. If we go out to dinner DH and I take him with us. I don't really have any friends who live in my area. And when I do go out with friends Elijah comes with me. Every now and then I will go for a run without him, but that's maybe 45 minutes away tops.

Sillygirl85 · June 2013

RVASC811:
It's funny that this thread was started about me not taking C to the funeral, because I hardly ever leave her except for work, too. If it's raining and nasty, and I have to run errands on a Friday (my day off), I will take her to daycare for a couple hours. Otherwise, she loves to go out! I have tried to come home and take a nap or just chill on Fridays, and I have never made it more than 15 minutes unless I am doing housework. I do leave her with H to see friends or go shopping sometimes. But my favorite time to go to the grocery store is at 7:30 on Saturday after she goes to bed.
Since she has severe food allergies and an epi-pen now, I'm even more hesitant about babysitters. I don't feel like high schoolers are an option anymore, even though I know a ton. But I had a work dinner last week, and we left her with an experienced child care provider that I have known for 4 years, and that was fine. Since we don't have family around, I think we'll use her again for a date night.

I hope you don't think I started this to start a mommy war. After reading that thread I felt like maybe there was something wrong with me, because I am so reluctant to leave Elijah.

CC1017 · June 2013

I work full time and I hate leaving DS. I only get to see him 2 hours/day during the week and that time is really important to me. I do have a book club once a month that I go to. DH and I are also going to see Wicked this weekend for our anniversary. I've never left him for more than 4 hours (outside of working) and I'm always there for bedtime.

If I didn't work and I got to spend all day with him, then it wouldn't be such a big deal to me to go out with out DS. But 2 hours per day during the week just isn't enough.

AnotherPreggo · June 2013

piffle42:
mmnumber5:
Dh and I have been out twice without K. We have no babysitters so no alone time. I have one friend who I trust to watch him but she has a son too. Its hard when you have no one.
Obviously you had ENOUGH alone time insert winky face here Buy I know what you mean. We're the same way.

Pahahaha. But yeah, we have no sitters either. My parents live 5 minutes away but don't want to watch her ever. I am a bit in disbelief at how uninvolved they are, but whatever.

Ziegeficker · June 2013

I do. I work full-time and still try to dedicate occasional baby-free time for my friends and husband. I also incorporate Henry into social events since a lot of my friends have families of their own. Motherhood is complex and a single (albeit large) part of my multi-faceted life.

Starry Again · June 2013

DH and I have a date at least twice a month and a grandparent watches her. I volunteer twice a month as well and and I will leave her with DH sometimes for errands. Plus I work. And DH and I are going away alone for five days in October to Mexico. Honestly I don't feel guilty; I feel lucky. It generally works for us.

scrantonangl · June 2013

We never leave lo. I have left him for maybe an hr at the most cuz I had an appt. I'm a sahm and I'm not ready to leave him ! I'm still bf on demand and he won't take bottles. He's starting to learn to drink from a cup though.

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