Community› The Bump Message Boards› Attachment Parenting
Attachment Parenting
New Discussion

Help with Toddler (3yr) sleep training?

PepperStickPepperStick member
in Attachment Parenting

Sorry if this is asked a million times.

But DH and I are at our wits end with DD. She will be 3 in October. She still bed shares with us and still uses a paci. She requires me to fall asleep because she needs to rub my arm to fall asleep. (Same for naps, she usually falls asleep on the couch leaning against me, rubbing my arm.) 

She has only slept in her own bed a handful of times. We currently only have two bedrooms in our house and wanted DD and DS to share a room. But DD freaks out if she's left in there and will not go to sleep in there without a major tantrum which wakes DS. DS sleeps in his crib and STTN and I in no way want to disturb that.

I would be fine if DD slept in her bed in our room but she refuses. Her bed is RIGHT next to our bed but she needs mama. I can be laying in my bed while she is in her bed and she will just scream and cry that she needs mama. I end up feeling like poo and bring her back into bed with us.

I know I need to be consistent but she's so strong willed and so LOUD. The two bedrooms are right next to each other and I don't want her waking DS. I want to take the paci from her too but I'm not sure which I should do first? Take the paci or get her in her own bed?

So, all in all, I'm basically looking for a gentle, quiet way to get her into her own bed. Any suggestions? Book recommendations? 

Sorry this is a novel! TIA! 

Report Reply to Post

Re: Help with Toddler (3yr) sleep training?

  • emmy236emmy236 member
    Can you ask her to make a choice? If she wants to sleep in your bed she can't have her paci. If she sleeps in her bed she gets it for the night. At least then you can see which is really more important and go from there. Hopefully she picks paci and she can go in the bed in your room. Then eventually pose the same scenario to get her in her room, if she wants her paci she has to sleep in her room. I have no idea if it will work but it sounds like you've tried everything else
    Report Reply
  • Loading the player...
  • cpmichcpmich member
    Try talking over a week or two in a gentle way about how she is getting bigger and that big girls do whichever you pick... Big girls get to be independent and sleep on their own... Pick a milestone and talk it up... Yay, August 1 you get to be a big girl and sleep on your own, only 10 days to go... Be sure to tell her how much you love her and that while you will be sad not to go to sleep with her, you will be really proud of her and close by if she needs you... Maybe she can pick a special toy to go to bed with her.

    I have heard people tie it to the birthday... 3 year olds do xyz.
    Baby Birthday Ticker Ticker
    Report Reply
This discussion has been closed.
Choose Another Board
Search Boards
"
"