Frustrated.......

Sunni01 · June 2013

How do you handle a chemical pregnancy (mc)? My emotions all over the place. One moment I am doing fine and the next i am crying. I hate this. I have made up mind that i am continuing on to the next cycle. RE really gave me encouragement. But how do I handle my emotions? Or should I ask, How did some of you handle it?

hollyweenOR · June 2013

In my case, I had had a low but positive beta, so I was not super optimistic. When it came back lower, I wasn't shocked but I do think I was a little numb. H was definitely sadder than I was. It didn't really sink in til about 2 days later, after a minor stressful exchange [with a parking garage attendant over a ticket that wouldn't read, of all things] when I was suddenly sobbing. While driving, of course, super awesome. Pulled over and just let it out. That was sort of my cue to recognize that there might be some tough moments in the next few weeks, and to try to take care of myself. Exercise helped a lot. And by midway into the next cycle, focusing on the chance of a new cycle helped too.
I'm sorry for your loss.

jchow009 · June 2013

Sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. Not one day I didn't think about it. For me it's more the disappointment, we tried for a year and finally got there and the bubble were burst so quickly. I guess I found comfort to talk to people, like pp says exercise help. I try to go back to my normal life as quickly as possible. And, luckily phsically I feel pretty good. I just keep telling myself to be postive and being depressed and negative won't get me to where I want to be. Everyone grieves differently, but the most important is to rest and take care of yourself.

kelley72 · June 2013

Exactly like you... first I am sorry for your loss, and yes it is a loss. I had a blighted ovum, barely time to register yes we were finally pregnant and then not... I cried and prayed, read on the loss boards and posted.

I'm six weeks after and feel much better emotionally, just fine physically, but that does not mean I might not have a tear up moment at any time.

I wish you happiness on your journey!

Jacque Sills · June 2013

With the two miscarriages that I had, it was so hard to recognize how I was feeling due to being numb and despondent to my reality. I couldn't talk about my first for over a year and when I had the second about 2.5 years later, it was though my heart and voice box were being ripped out. For me, it just seemed easier to just try to forget about it and move forward, than to talk and or think about it.

The first thing I would recommend is try to understand yourself and how you deal with emotions. Allow yourself to be you. That is where I messed up in that I tried to just ignore everything and just move on because that is what I thought other people would do and I shouldn't cry. Just try to be yourself and let yourself mourn for your loss, that is a good start. Don't rush anything, if you are not ready to do so. You are the only one that knows yourself and what you need. Try to understand that and respond to your needs in that way.

I wish you the very best and sending you Warm Hugs! I know how tuff this can all be and know that we are all here for you. I hope you get through this as smoothly, as possible. Take care, Sweetie.

Sunni01 · June 2013

i think I was numb when RE initially told me. But by that afternoon, I don't know what happened. I thank you all for being here.But in understanding from you all, cry, scream, yell, do whatever I have to do to get through this time. And I will. Thanks. Sending hugs back to you all. =..)

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