T's & P's for a huge decision

EKGibs · June 2013

For mobile users: T's & P's for a huge decision.

I've been putting off the decision of either doing IVF or adoption until after I pass my registry & get a job. Yesterday, a friends FB status (of all things), made me realize I want to adopt. I have been praying that God would show me what the right decision was & her FB status was so random. As soon as I told DH his eyes lit up. We had to go to my nephews T ball game but when we got home DH started researching Arkansas adoption services & getting excited which made me realize even more that this is the right decision.

Every time I really thought about IVF, I would nearly have a panic attack. My chest would get tight, my heart rate would go up, & I would just feel so anxious. When I think about adoption, I feel more relaxed & even excited. I know this will be stressful & hard, but I know there are babies out there that need a home.

I still want to have a biological child but even with IVF that is not guaranteed. The thought of never having a child at all scares me. I feel more at peace with adoption. We will continue TTC so I'll still be around here if that's ok. As soon as I pass my registry we will start the process.

I love all of you ladies & I feel like y'all are the only ones who will truly understand why DH and I are making this decision. Sorry this got really long & thanks for reading if you made it this far. Hugs to all of you!

EKGibs · June 2013

lindsayhilleary:
(((EK))) It sounds like you and your husband feel at peace with this decision. It's a big one to make, and I'm glad you feel excited about it!
When do you take your registry test?

I take it Monday. I'm freaking out.

buggirl72 · June 2013

(((hugs))) EK! I am so happy that you came to this decision and that you are so happy and at peace with it.

EKGibs · June 2013

Thanks everybody. I

all of you!

sammer818 · June 2013

*HUGS* sweetie. It sounds like you are in a good place. I'm glad you and DH have come to a decision that you can both be excited and happy about. After what we've been through, we all know that no decision will ever be easy in regards to starting a family. Best of luck with everything Big Smile

LunaBug924 · June 2013

I think this is awesome, and I'm so gladyou got the sign you've been waiting for. Its so sweet how excited DH sounds too! I wish you so much luck in this process, but also on your exam! Tons of good vibes coming your way.

jenn0021 · June 2013

Oh EK, I'm so excited for you! I'm so happy that you and your DH have reached a decision that you are feeling comfortable and even excited about. You are most definitely welcome to stick around and I would love to hear updates on your adoption journey.

Mrs.E.07 · June 2013

oh my goodness, that's so exciting!! It must have been amazing to just get that feeling. You are going to be a wonderful mother, no matter how you get your take-home child. Please stick around, we'd love to keep supporting you and hear about the adoption process.

KMW08 · June 2013

Mrs.E.07:
Please stick around, we'd love to keep supporting you and hear about the adoption process.

Lurking...
and I'm so excited for you to go in this direction! I would love to hear about the process. So. Many. Happy. Squishy. Hugs. To you!

LLPtobe · June 2013

So many (((hugs))) hon. I'm glad that both you and your H are at peace with and feeling optimistic about this decision. So exciting!!

xLiserx · June 2013

I just want to say that while having a child all your own is its own little miracle, there is something so beautiful in adoption. There are so many children out there longing to find great homes and you have the chance to help someone lost get found. I think adoption is amazing and I have so much warmth in my heart to those who open their hearts and homes to others. It takes a very special person to do something like that.

My DH & I have looked into adoption here in Eastern Canada but we weren't approved due to our careers - a pilot and a paramedic. Some BS about not being able to provide a consistent 9-5 environment for those kids. Stupid, right? We could have 10 biological ones and that's o.k but god forbid we take one in and raise it with all of the love we have.

I wish you both so much luck in both your IVF and your adoption journey. May you find your joy, love with all of your heart, and be loved in return

lsuhoneybadger · June 2013

Oh EK, I am so, so happy that you and your DH have been able to come to a decision you are both excited about. Sending you many TandP's that this whole process goes smoothly for you. Many [[[hugs]]] and much love to you hon.

km_md · June 2013

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Ek. I'm so happy that you have found something that brings you peace. Congratulations and good luck with this next part of your journey!

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hungryhippo · June 2013

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I'm so excited for you having made this decision! I'll be rooting for you as you move forward and wish you as smooth as possible adoption process. How exciting!!

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