Feeling so discouraged. Two OBs told me No this week.

Joy+BabyNumber3 · June 2013

These were leads I had that I even asked when making the appointment, and was told they have done VBAC after 2 c/s. Monday was a flat out No. Today, she hesitated a lot, and couldn't find anything that put me at a high risk, higher than the 1.7% she found that is standard. She looked like she was considering it but then in the end she strongly advised me to stop looking for another OB and just get my c/s. She even said I'd just have a 50/50 chance anyway, so I asked why can't I at least have the option to try? If it looks like there are complications, then we do a c/s with no regrets. She paused a lot, and I could tell she almost said yes. She even gave me another OBs name, then quickly told me she shouldn't have done that. I can't tell you how sad and confused I am. I had no idea I'd feel so disappointed, but here I am, tearing up in the appointment. I have another on Friday and I feel like its just anther rejection waiting for me.

mommygrams0730 · June 2013

What a bummer! I'm so sorry, that just sucks! I am currently researching my options and setting up appts with a 2nd OB and tomorrow I'm going to set one up with a midwife, thanks to another posters suggestions. There's nothing wrong with checking out another OB.

FWIW: I'm totally with you, if I end up with another section I would at least like to have tried the VBAC first.

krisbrown1 · June 2013

Its okay to be upset.. i had one csection and am doing a vbac.. after the run around with my dr i switch at 30 weeks.. if ur not happy maybe switch dr? If insurance could pay for midwife id go but my insurance doesnt. Dont be pushed around.. please please listen.. this is ur body know ur rights.. check out ican website about vbacs. If u have no reason for a cscection why are they making u go through that again? Because of liability issues.. i wish u luck and just keep researching your rights its your body!

Joy+BabyNumber3 · June 2013

I had a long talk with my DH about it all. The plan is, keep moving forward, find info from ICAN, and a local birthing center that is opening up a brand new facility near us next month, and also contact one more possible lead at another hospital. If I get all No's after that, then I'm just going to call it a lost cause, and do my c/s whenever I go into labor. But I am really hoping some light, somewhere, is waiting for me. I can't explain it, but this is the first pregnancy where I can just visualize giving birth and everything going well. I couldn't do that at all my first time, and when there was a problem with the baby's heart rate and stress and then they did the c/s, I was upset, but felt like part of me always knew I wasn't going to get to deliver. This time, I just have such a strong and clear image of everything going so well. I just believe so much that I CAN do this, if only given a chance. I'm just in such shock and denial that I'm not going to get my chance. It's breaking my heart to hear these No's and I honestly did not expect to feel this way at all. But this obviously means so much to me, even more than I realized.

cecilyandgautam · June 2013

I'm so sorry - I would totally cry too if some one told me that. You mentioned there's a new birth center opening up in your area - do they offer montrice packages? If your only OB options are luke warm about the VBAC, you could labor with the midwife at the birth center until she can confirm you're far enough along that no reasonable Dr would say automatic c-section and she'd be equipped to monitor your & baby's vitals until then. Just a thought!

Joy+BabyNumber3 · June 2013

cecilyandgautam:
I'm so sorry - I would totally cry too if some one told me that. You mentioned there's a new birth center opening up in your area - do they offer montrice packages? If your only OB options are luke warm about the VBAC, you could labor with the midwife at the birth center until she can confirm you're far enough along that no reasonable Dr would say automatic c-section and she'd be equipped to monitor your & baby's vitals until then. Just a thought!

That is a great idea.

I sent a message to the local birthing center today, asking about the options they thought I had. I hope I hear from them soon.

I thought I had a lead on another Doctor, and I did put in a message just in case, but they had information on their web-site that says that after 2 c-sections they do consider me to be a bad candidate to try.

I also put in a message to my local ICAN organization, but have not heard back yet.

There's still no word from the Doctor I e-mailed last night, either.

I am feeling so discouraged right now.

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