Have you left your child home alone yet? At what age?
Does your state have any specific requirements for this?
My middle child is now 10 and we are thinking about letting her stay home alone on occasion for up to an hour or two. She really wants the responsibility and its rare for her to ever be alone as the middle child. DH and I are still in discussion.
We allowed her older sister to be home alone at that age for brief periods, up to an hour or two when I took the younger ones grocery shopping 2 miles away, but that child is much more mature. She now babysits for us and others as she's mature and responsible. Our oldest will be 13 this week and her first paying babysitting jobs last week.
What have you heard about this in your community?
Re: Staying home alone
Some states have laws about this. I was surprised to find that my state's law was that kids could be left home alone at the age of 8 as long as they're not left in charge of a younger child. They have to be 12 to babysit a younger family member where I live.
I say know your kid and start out with short outings during the day, working up to longer outings and babysitting a sibling.
When my DD was 10.5, close to 11, we began leaving her home for short stretches. When she was in 6th grade -- almost 12 -- I began letting her stay home during the day if she was out sick, as long as she wasn't SO sick that she needed me.
Once she turned 12, she was legally old enough to babysit her brother. As you probably know, putting two kids together at home ups the chances for problems and requires a higher level of responsibility in the kids. We will leave them home together while we run errands or go for a bike ride. Usually this is during the day. Now she's almost 13 and he's almost 9. We have left them in the evening a few times, and we are working up to leaving them to fix their own dinner while we go out.
Our state has laws that are WAY over the top IMO. I much prefer no set age law and discretion if there's a problem (a parent can still be charged with neglect whether there's an age requirement or not!).
A parent knows their child best for whether or not they're ready for the responsibility of staying home even if only for a couple hours. Some kids are ready early, others, not so much... And then there are those even as adults you wonder how they could/should ever be left alone LOL