twins??

sunflowermama42212 · June 2013

So i am about 2 weeks away from my first ER/ET and DH and I are having a hard time trying to decide whether to transfer 1 or 2 embryos. I'm a stay at home wife so day care isn't an issue and we are financially stable to have twins but as first time parents we are really nervous about the idea of twins. I really want to double my chances of success and I think we would be fine.....how did you ladies decided how many to transfer and if you could handle multiples?

MrsSJE2011 · June 2013

The way my RE explained it, transferring two does NOT double your chance of success as each embryo has the same chance of taking. What matters more is your embryo quality. If you are nervous do a SET.

sunflowermama42212 · June 2013

i guess i worded that wrong because my thought was if one embryo doesnt make it but the other one does than im only going thru one ivf cycle instead of doing two cycles but i was wondering how people decided to transfer more than one

LundleBean · June 2013

I've always wanted twins so this was easy for me. In fact, I was willing to 'risk' 3 to get 2, but my RE will not transfer 3. I have twins in my family, my brother and sister, and my mom says they were the easiest of her 4 kids. They cry together, but they also soothe eachother. As PP said, my RE says 2 does not increase your success, but I would think that if 1 doesn't 'stick' by chance, then maybe the other will. Good luck!

sunflowermama42212 · June 2013

My sister and I are only 9 months apart in age so it was nice being in the same grade as her and having someone my age to go through everything with so i can relate to wanting twins....but im still nervous about one lol but i guess thats normal at least i have a couple more weeks to think about it!

LittleLady77 · June 2013

It depends on each specific RE but transferring 2 increases your odds by 1-3% if at all. Carrying twins is also a much more difficult pregnancy with higher risk factors.

That all being said, we are totally OOP and anything we can do to increase our odds we are going for but we are also just fine with twins. We are transferring 2.

It's a difficult decision and there will be factors to consider the day of, like how many high quality embryos you have to transfer that day (one great one vs 2 decent quality embryos).

Good luck.

belgirl · June 2013

Wasn't a difficult issue for us--had no problem transferring 2 and I hope I am now pregnant with twins. But understand that age, finances and embryo quality all play a part. At 42 with 5 frozen embryos, there was no way I was going to do five separate FET's. LOL...But if I was in my 20's I may think differently. There is really no right answer because every woman and situation is different.

krdesi · June 2013

My RE explained to us that transferring two embryo's has almost the same odds of pregnancy as transferring one does and he said that they decide how many to transfer based on your age and health and quality of the embryo's you have. If you have super embryo's then they probably wouldn't transfer two because they have a higher chance of them both sticking, but if you have two moderate embryo's they might transfer both, hoping that at least one sticks and keeps growing.

Our doctor isn't giving us the choice, since it is based on the embryo's and they definitely don't aim to produce twins as there are more complications that come with multiples.

scorch · June 2013

If you have good embie quality and and your lining is on track, do a SET. My last pregnancy we did 2 embies and they both stuck and we have 2 1/2 year old twin girls. But if I had it to do over again, I would have done 2 SETs instead of 2embies in one FET.

RosyGlow · June 2013

Brutal honesty: It is safer for you, and safer for your embryo/baby to do an eSET and have a singleton pregnancy. Even with an eSET, identical twins can happen, and occur at higher rates with IVF than in the normal population. Your pregnancy will almost certainly be harder with twins, and you will likely face bed rest, higher medical costs, and sometimes a challenging start to life for your babies if you need NICU care (much more likely with twins, since they are much more likely to deliver early). Definitely know the risks of transferring two. Also, read through the PAIF or PGAL stories - many women there have suffered an early or mid-pregnancy loss of one twin, sometimes risking the loss of the other baby. There are numerous stories over there to read. 'm not trying to scare you, but we see this question on here a lot, and I think most people gloss over the risks of choosing to transfer two.

My RE said what the others have said - transferring two will only increase odds of twins, not our overall odds of pregnancy. Due to my age, my RE does NOT recommend transferring two because my odds are strong with one since I am young. And you are younger than I am.

It's very personal, so as long as you make an informed decision, you should be in good shape. Best of luck!

JennySC34 · June 2013

No it doesn't increase your chances to transfer two. I was given a choice by my RE to transfer 1 or 2 because this was my fourth ivf. I chose two because my husband is a twin and we want lots of kids.

kt9613 · June 2013

krdesi:
My RE explained to us that transferring two embryo's has almost the same odds of pregnancy as transferring one does and he said that they decide how many to transfer based on your age and health and quality of the embryo's you have. If you have super embryo's then they probably wouldn't transfer two because they have a higher chance of them both sticking, but if you have two moderate embryo's they might transfer both, hoping that at least one sticks and keeps growing. Our doctor isn't giving us the choice, since it is based on the embryo's and they definitely don't aim to produce twins as there are more complications that come with multiples.

Totally agree. I was told the same by my RE. I was also at risk for OHSS so they were very cautious.

AnnaLynn83 · June 2013

Happy_Yahoo_Personaler:
sig warningWe were 100 OOP for your IVFs.nbsp; We chose to transfer 2 both times.nbsp; Our fresh cycle failed.Our RE wanted to do 1 but was willing to do 2 because of the money issue.nbsp; We opted for 2 because we felt that if one of them failed to grow/attach, we still would have hope that the other would.nbsp; We were told that each embryo had a 50/50 shot of sticking and that our risk of twins was about 2530.nbsp; Both of us are healthy, 30, and we had great egg quality.We both knew the risks involved with a twins pregnancy, but were more than willing to risk it.nbsp; We knew we would never reduce a pregnancy, no matter what personal beliefs.nbsp; So far, the only complication we've had is my sugar levels which were an issue even before I got pregnant.nbsp; And we know that our risk of having a Csection birth is increased over that of a singleton.Good luck to you!

This is exactly how I feel. We transferred 2 on June 15th. I actually have a lot of friends with twins and out of 4 sets only 1 baby has ended up in the NICU for a few days. But, 6 babies of my friends singleton births have ended up in the NICU and one passed at 8months in utero. Things can happen either way. I personally am ok with twins but agree it is a personal decision. We are also 100 OOP.

BrideJackie11 · June 2013

RosyGlow:
Brutal honesty: It is safer for you, and safer for your embryo/baby to do an eSET and have a singleton pregnancy. Even with an eSET, identical twins can happen, and occur at higher rates with IVF than in the normal population. Your pregnancy will almost certainly be harder with twins, and you will likely face bed rest, higher medical costs, and sometimes a challenging start to life for your babies if you need NICU care (much more likely with twins, since they are much more likely to deliver early). Definitely know the risks of transferring two. Also, read through the PAIF or PGAL stories - many women there have suffered an early or mid-pregnancy loss of one twin, sometimes risking the loss of the other baby. There are numerous stories over there to read. 'm not trying to scare you, but we see this question on here a lot, and I think most people gloss over the risks of choosing to transfer two.
My RE said what the others have said - transferring two will only increase odds of twins, not our overall odds of pregnancy. Due to my age, my RE does NOT recommend transferring two because my odds are strong with one since I am young. And you are younger than I am.
It's very personal, so as long as you make an informed decision, you should be in good shape. Best of luck!

Ditto. We have transferred one each FET and I haven't regretted that decision. FET one ended in chemical pregnancy and FET two, the verdict is still out. If you are financially stable, it makes even more sense to only transfer one. That way, if it didn't work, you can do another round. Good luck in your decision.

htn1763 · June 2013

We did SET with our fresh cycle for all the reasons people mention above. The odds didn't increase with 2, just the odds of twins and the risks associated with carrying twins. Not only risks for the mother, but the babies as well.

Not a huge factor, or all that important, but if you have twins you have to be prepared to answer the question about fertility treatments. Nowadays people assume you used fertility meds if you have twins. And people will ask. My DH thinks I am dumb for caring about that, but it's just not something I want to talk about for the next 10-20 years of my life!

sunflowermama42212 · June 2013

I do think that there are risks ether way, and all this information is helpful thanks

krdesi · June 2013

Mwhigham22:
I do think that there are risks ether way, and all this information is helpful thanks

Out of curiosity, what are the risks for only transferring one embryo?

AnnaLynn83 · June 2013

krdesi:
Mwhigham22:
I do think that there are risks ether way, and all this information is helpful thanks
Out of curiosity, what are the risks for only transferring one embryo?

I think she just meant that complications can occur with singleton births and pregnancies, as well.

sunflowermama42212 · June 2013

yes that is what i meant complications can happen whether its twins or not

delatl · July 2013

My husband and I have been going round and round on this issue because we feel differently about it. He is just completely dead set against twins. I'd be happy either way but agreed from when we got married that we would only have one child. Now that I'm going through treatments, I feel like I'd do anything to get pregnant, even risk twins, but he is just not willing. So at my ET two weeks ago (BFN), we transferred one good blast. Luckily, we have many frozen from that cycle. So I will be doing eSET FETs. I'm not thrilled about it but I realize that it's a lifelong decision and we have to make it together.

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