Blended Families

BM advice

Every summer my SD's come and stay with us for 3 months. Every summer when they come they have no seasonally appropriate clothing and we have to take them shopping. I love shopping with them it's a great start to summer bonding experience for us. My only issue is that their Mom doesn't buy them anything and they told me they were really embarrased the last few months of school because they didn't have anything to wear.

My DH pays her 3times the required amount of court ordered support and it is more than enough to meet their needs and they still don't have something as basic as socks that are the right size. I'm so frusturated I don't know what to do or what my rights are as the SM in speaking out about this. DH is at a loss and doesn't know what to do either.

Sorry for the rant it's just so frusturating. I wish the girls could just live with us full time but, BM has repeatedly said she refuses to let that happen because she needs the money from DH. Sad

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Re: BM advice

  • If the kids are not getting the necessities, he should pay what is court ordered and then buy those necessities and send them to the girls. This is easier if the girls are closer to their teen years. Or he could send the girls gift cards to go shopping mid year or after christmas.

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  • SigirSigir member
    Why does he pay her 3 times the co child support if she obviously is not using it for the kids? How long has he been doing this?
  • Another vote for paying CO'd amount and sending them gift cards or clothes. If they're older a gift card or even just having them shop online and send you a list of everything they want so you can order it and have it sent directly to them. If they're younger I would just buy everything and send it to them.
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