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Doula - ?

avioletskyavioletsky member
in February 2014 Moms

I plan on using one. My friend has just become one and I would definitely like her there to coach me through. I know DH will be overwhelmed with all that is going on. He must stay NORTH of the waist and he's happily fine with that.

Just curious if you have used one in the past and what your experience was like?

Would you consider using a doula? 

Married to the love of my life since 2005
TTC #1 - 
BFP # 1: 5/2006 - m/c @ 6 weeks (natural) / EDD 1/17/2007
BFP # 2: 7/2007 - chemical pregnancy / EDD 3/18/2008
BFP # 3: 6/2013 - 7/9 u/s: No hb, measuring 2 weeks behind. Very high HCG#'s 7/21 u/s: No change, ruled out molar pregnancy. Completed Natural Missed M/C 7/26/2013 / EDD 2/5/2014
TTA with Diaphragm. 
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I didn't want to kiss you goodbye, that was the trouble; I wanted to kiss you goodnight. And there's a lot of difference. - Ernest Hemingway 

Licensed foster family. No current placements. Open to adoption but that is not our goal and as such we don't have dual foster/adopt home study.
2012-2013: Former Foster Mommy to 1 bubbly little 8 y.o. girl that has moved onto an amazing adoptive home.

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  • Sweets11Sweets11 member
    Yes.

    My epidural didn't fully work with DD, so I'm strongly considering going without this time to reduce the length of my labour. I pushed for 3 hours with DD.

    If it happens again, I need a coach to get me through.
    TTC since August 2009
    June/July 2011 - IVF #1 - Transfer cancelled due to OHSS
    23 perfect embryos. All 23 made it to freezing!
    September/October - FET #1 - October 12th - 2 Grade A embies
    October 20th - BFP??! EDD - July 1, 2012
    Beta #1 = 154, Beta #2 = 352 Beta #3 = 3,800
    U/S #2 - November 14th = 133 bpm! U/S #3 & 4 - November 30th and December 7th = 163 bpm! U/S#5 - January 30th - TEAM PINK!!!
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  • OasismommaOasismomma member

    I used a doula with my first pregnancy and am glad I did. But DH was still my primary support. Our doula supported both of us and served as a "translator" between us and the medical staff.

    I will say, it's completely unrealistic to think your DH will "stay north of the waist" and honestly, you won't care while you're in labor.

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    DS1 born 12.31.11 ~ DS2 born 2.4.14


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  • avioletskyavioletsky member
    imageOasismomma:

    I will say, it's completely unrealistic to think your DH will "stay north of the waist" and honestly, you won't care while you're in labor.

    Of course we won't know until that day comes. However, DH was never interested in that aspect of this. He has said he doesn't want to be on the business end of things. 

    Married to the love of my life since 2005
    TTC #1 - 
    BFP # 1: 5/2006 - m/c @ 6 weeks (natural) / EDD 1/17/2007
    BFP # 2: 7/2007 - chemical pregnancy / EDD 3/18/2008
    BFP # 3: 6/2013 - 7/9 u/s: No hb, measuring 2 weeks behind. Very high HCG#'s 7/21 u/s: No change, ruled out molar pregnancy. Completed Natural Missed M/C 7/26/2013 / EDD 2/5/2014
    TTA with Diaphragm. 
    CFNBC
    I didn't want to kiss you goodbye, that was the trouble; I wanted to kiss you goodnight. And there's a lot of difference. - Ernest Hemingway 

    Licensed foster family. No current placements. Open to adoption but that is not our goal and as such we don't have dual foster/adopt home study.
    2012-2013: Former Foster Mommy to 1 bubbly little 8 y.o. girl that has moved onto an amazing adoptive home.

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  • LWhip11LWhip11 member
    I am a doula and also preggo :
    I would HIGHLY reccomend it, even if you are just thinking about going natural. But even with an epidural it can help a lot and also they help incorporate dad so he feels helpful and a part of the process as well!
    Also it's show that the support of a doula can significantly decrease labor time and also severity of labor.
    Hope that helps :
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  • halfthetree halfthetree member
    I am a student doula and just to share, natural births with a doula are shorter, less painful, and less traumatic if in a hospital. A doula is a wonderful investment for your birth. She can help guide your husband, knows just when you need a cold cloth on your forehead, or to suggest the bath tub.
    I don't think you could ever regret a doula
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  • mtothepmtothep member
    This is my first pregnancy, and I will be using a doula. I have heard so many positive things about having a doula.
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