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December 2010 Moms
jillybean800
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Is there such a thing as an easy 2 year old?
jillybean800
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Both A and B were/are very easy babies. Slept well, ate (well, not really Alexander) and were not big criers. Alexander now is sometimes difficult. He throws tantrums, whines, goes limp when you try to make him go somewhere, has fears, has trouble sleeping, etc. Most of the time he plays so nicely, is very affectionate and is in a good mood, but I certainly would NOT call him "easy!" Is there anybody, and I promise I won't hate you if you identify yourself, who has an "easy toddler?" like they had an "easy baby?"
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Re: Is there such a thing as an easy 2 year old?
I think B is on the easier end of the spectum, but I wouldn't call him easy. In the last few months he's really ratcheted up his limit testing and self-expression behavior so I'm expecting things to get more challenging before he goes back to his full-time sweet self.
I'm just sad I can't blame everything on teething anymore. I think I'm going to start blaming things on growth spurts instead.
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I think DS would be A LOT easier if he was still an only child.
The vast majority of our issues with him result from having to divide our attention.
He acts out when he gets jealous or bored. He also imitates DD's behaviors. He gets in trouble for being too rough for her, not sharing, etc.
I'd also have more patience & be less exhausted if he were the only child, so that attributes to how rough everyday is, too. It sucks.
J is not as difficult as some toddlers I have seen, but he is definitely not a breeze. He is going through a phase now where he refuses to eat. He eats breakfast fine but lunch and supper are hit or miss. Yesterday he only ate cereal for breakfast and didn't eat until he had a roast beef sandwich that night. It stresses me out but DH believes when he gets hungry he'll eat.
He is also testing his limits a lot more than he use to test them. I hope he gets easier before DD comes but I know that's unlikely lol
I think it is natural in this stage of development for them to test boundaries and see what they can get away with.
With O being an only child and the only grandchild on both sides of the family he gets 100% of the attention all the time. So he rarely plays on his own. It makes it a challenge to get things done when he is around and that is usually when he will pitch a fit or get into trouble. He sleeps well, but eating is totally hit or miss, and he has started lying-he had a mark on his head and I asked where it came from-he said "Noah did it" wellllllllll kiddo...we haven't seen Noah in 2 weeks....sooo....ya.
I think all toddlers are a challenge in some way or another.
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I think that overall DS1 is a pretty easy toddler. My mom and MIL both take turns watching him while I work and he adapts really well to their different styles of care.
He definitely can be stubborn and bossy sometimes, but I think overall it's pretty mild and when DH and I complain about him "being bad/difficult" its usually because DH and I are tired and don't have much patience to give all the attention we need to give to DS1.
I agree with Bosha that most of our issues with him come from having our attention split with 2 young kids - neither who can do much for themselves at this point. It's mainly because we are rushing DS1 to do something because we are also needing to do things for DS2. So this small age gap is very challenging and tiring now for all 4 of us - but I know in the future it'll be easier/have many benefits.
So, compared to that I feel like I have it SO easy now. Even though he does throw tantrums and do the things I complained about in the terrible twos thread, he is such a happy, fun, lovey boy 95 of the time! I'm hoping DS2 is an easy baby, though, because I'd like to see what that is like. lol
Griffin was an easy baby. Content most of the time, ate well, slept pretty well, overall rarely cried and always happy and smiling.
As a toddler, it's hard to say. We have our issues, that's for sure. But I tend to think everyone does. He is very good about listening to you when there are dangers about - he is cautious so he won't run into the street & always takes your hand. He's great when we go out to eat about sitting in his chair, not being too loud, and generally behaving.
On the other hand, he's been extremely defiant lately. Doesn't want to put on his clothes, kicks me during diaper changes, pushes kids at the park and throws sand.. I think we all have our issues. It just varies from child to child. :-)
As far as toddlers go, I think LO is very easy. He doesn't have tantrums, is obedient, eats anything you put in front of him, and in huge quantities. He also loves cleaning and picking up. He's easy-going and rarely gets upset or overwhelmed even in situations where I would expect it. So far, potty training has been a breeze too (on day 2). The kid is pretty much training himself.
I'm thrilled that he's such an easy toddler because he was an extremely difficult infant. He had colic and silent reflux (which wasn't diagnosed until 4 months) and he screamed 15 hours a day. He screamed bloody murder in the car seat so we didn't leave the house for 6 months. I ended up with PPD and PPA and had to take meds to cope. I swore we were one and done because he was so freakin' hard. He's been such an easy toddler, I've recently changed my mind.
Hhmmm...isn't easy 2 year old and oxymoron?
DS was a super easy baby. STTN at 3 months and has been doing so ever since. A great eater. Laid back and happy with everyone.
I definitely wouldn't say he's an easy toddler, but I'm not sure how much of his behavior is him being difficult and how much is standard toddler behavior. He doesn't listen very well, doesn't follow directions, throws things and can be pretty defiant. But when I ask friends with toddlers, they say their kids are pretty much doing the same things. So, I hope it's that he's just a regular toddler and not a product of my poor parenting skills!
Griff was a fairly easy baby, as far as I remember. He has his bad days as a toddler but I thought the terrible twos was going to be worse. Unless its yet to come for me lol.
Bishop was a more difficult baby so we'll see what hes like as a toddler.
I'd say, other than a brief colicky phase around two months, DS was an easier than average infant, but he's a harder than average toddler. Frustrations related to his speech delay plus a personality that is curious, active and very stubborn, plus normal two-year-old crap, is really testing us.
I do feel like I am starting to see light at the end of the tunnel though. The more he's able to communicate the better things get, so I think if we can make progress with his speech in the next year or so, things will be significantly better when he's three or four. (Although I'm sure there will be new challenges at any age that I haven't anticipated yet! LOL)