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August 2012 Moms
halvorsonl00
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C 5.14.08 c 8.9.12
moms of school age kids tl;dr
halvorsonl00
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The bus driver told me this afternoon she has to write C up because she spit at 2 other girls. WTF. My kid knows this is not acceptable. She burst into tears the second she saw me because she knew she did something wrong.
She has been hysterical for the past 30 minutes and all I can get out of her is that she spit and the other girl told her to stop and she did. I'm not yelling, but I really want to know why she spit.
I know she can take joking around too far sometimes and has spit at me thinking she was being playful. We always correct her behavior when she does something thats not acceptable.
I don't really know the reason I'm writing this. I just need someone to tell me this isn't the start of a life of crime for her.
She has been hysterical for the past 30 minutes and all I can get out of her is that she spit and the other girl told her to stop and she did. I'm not yelling, but I really want to know why she spit.
I know she can take joking around too far sometimes and has spit at me thinking she was being playful. We always correct her behavior when she does something thats not acceptable.
I don't really know the reason I'm writing this. I just need someone to tell me this isn't the start of a life of crime for her.
C 5.14.08 c 8.9.12
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Re: moms of school age kids tl;dr
I don't have my own school-aged kid, but SO's LB might as well be mine.
I would give her some time. I would just leave her alone, let her get it out of her system, and then ask her after she's calmed down what happened. I wouldn't make it accusatory, as in, "WHY DID YOU DO THAT?!" but more of a, "So, how was your day?" and then ask her questions until it leads to that part of her day...kind of let her tell you her side of the story on her own terms. If she doesn't include it, you can say, "Well, it sounds like you had a good day, but can you tell me what happened on the bus? The bus driver told me, but I'd like to hear your side of the story first."
R responds better to things he's done wrong when I leave it open like that, give him the benefit of the doubt, and let him work it out of himself.
SCANDAL!
We have all been there, this is not the start of a life from crime. Btw, that made me laugh!
Sometimes kids make stupid decisions. They don't know why. Just correct the behavior, explain it is NOT acceptable, and if it were L I would take something away as a punishment.
If for some reason this spitting because a repeat problem THEN you might have to dig deeper to find out why.
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What BBJ said. Nene got in trouble for that but she was with other kids who it started out as "fun"and ended out wrong. How does spitting equal fun idk....butwe've been there.
I guess let her known that though in her head it sounded *** a fun idea you have to consider other ppl and how they would feel. It hasn't happened again.
Thanks for the advice. This is whole new territory for me. I can do babies, but big kids, I just don't get them.
I don't have older kids either, but I've taught second and third grade for several years. You don't have a bad kid, she just made a bad decision. It happens to the best of them. Even the most well behaved child will step out of line at some point.
I don't have a school aged kid, but I can say that my brother, sister, and I always responded better when my parents used the path BBJ talked about. Let her kind of gather herself and calm down then just have a calm discussion about it. She obviously knows what she did was wrong, but she needs to know that she can tell you what happened.
And no, I don't believe she has begun her life of crime
You all are wonderful. Really. She was at the table doing a puzzle and just started talking about it.
Apparently, her a few other kids were spitting last week too, but the driver didn't see. She said she thought no one would see and they were still playing that. Sigh. So we talked a little about how we act on the bus and what it means to be written up. She was pretty upset about being written up. part of me want to talk to the driver and explain to her, but I won't. I'm too over protective and need to learn to let go a little and trust other people.
I keep having to remind myself that this is her second week going to this program and she has never rode a bus before.
Do you think I was a little too dramatic? No life of crime? Lol.
Logan is six and a half. I always thought it was a "boy" thing, but I think it is just his personality