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Tubal litigation

Kikimomof3Kikimomof3 member
in October 2013 Moms
I'm considering this big step after DD is born. What are your thoughts on this?This is my fourth I have two boys and a girl already, baby 4 is a girl. I love kids and also am a teacher and a Girl Scout troop leader. I just feel ready to be done , but it is scary as The hubby And I are presently deprecated an trying to work things out. I don't want more but if my marriage fails and I fall in love again and he wants a baby I will not be able to:/ This is a very hard choice .
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  • marianaz0marianaz0 member
    Are you suing your tubes ;] jk
    A tubal ligation and sterilization is a pretty final procedure. You have to be sure you're done having babies! Have you considered all your birth control options? IUD perhaps? Is this your first?

    Just wanted to add that although a tubal CAN be reversed, success rates of pregnancy are not great, and you're at increased risk of tubal scarring, blockage, and ectopic pregnancies.

    If there's a slight chance you might want to get pregnant again I'd not recommend, and suggest something more appropriate. My 2 cents!

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  • HFrizzleHFrizzle member
    It's not permanent but to have it reversed is quite the procedure.

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  • kimbo1216kimbo1216 member
    There is no way I'll know for sure we're done once dd2 is here. That's something I'll need space from pregnancy to decide. So I'll probably just get another Iud until we are sure.
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  • shelley1002shelley1002 member
    I am getting one after this baby is born. We are done after this one. We always wanted 2 regardless of the sexes. This baby gives us 2 boys. We are not going to try for a girl. We are also older so that helped with the decision.

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  • spldyolliespldyollie member
    It sounds like you are not sure. I would just do the Mirena.
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  • JMU_Bride09JMU_Bride09 member

    I actually just met a girl who had her tubes tied after her fourth baby.  She had baby #5 with her when I met her :p  She said that they grew back together and the baby was a surprise, so I don't think it's really even as final as it seems.  

    IMO, it's not worth it.  Especially if you foresee a time in the future when you may want another baby.  Just use BC or NFP after baby is born.

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  • ktdid804ktdid804 member
    I work in a urology office. Vasectomy is definitely the way to go compared to tubal ligation. Less invasive and less chance of failure. We tell patients that there is about a 1/200 chance of tubal ligation failure compared to 1/2000 for vasectomy.

    Like pp have said, if you're not sure, don't do it because reversals are not always successful with either option.
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  • SuperTreesaSuperTreesa member

    There is no way I will get my tubes tied. If I end up with a csection with this baby, it would be an emergency. So they won't have time to do anything extra.

    We are done after this one. We've known we would be done after 3 before we even started having kids.

    One of my main reasons for refusing to get my tubes tied is that a friend of mine lost his sister in law to the surgery. Her surgeon accidentally cut her bowel and she went septic. She died 3 days later leaving behind 3 small kids.

    The risks from a vasectomy is far less. 

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  • Kikimomof3Kikimomof3 member
    Wow that sounds so scary . Thank you for sharing.
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  • Kikimomof3Kikimomof3 member
    I tried to convince my husband but he said no because he doesn't know if he might want to have kids with someonelse some day. We are seperated but still living in the same house. He was so pissed when he found out I was pregnant and totally withdrew from me and we just haven't got along well since then. I wish he would get snipped I went through so much pain with the pregnancy and births plus had 2 cone biopsies. Men can be so selfish !
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  • shelley1002shelley1002 member
    imagektdid804:
    I work in a urology office. Vasectomy is definitely the way to go compared to tubal ligation. Less invasive and less chance of failure. We tell patients that there is about a 1/200 chance of tubal ligation failure compared to 1/2000 for vasectomy. Like pp have said, if you're not sure, don't do it because reversals are not always successful with either option.


    I know more people who have gotten pregnant after they H's had a vasectomy than after the woman having a tubal.  And I'm not talking about the first 3-6 months before the vasectomy is finally complete.  This is a couple years later.

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  • huntjulhuntjul member

    imageKikimomof3:
    I'm considering this big step after DD is born. What are your thoughts on this?This is my fourth I have two boys and a girl already, baby 4 is a girl. I love kids and also am a teacher and a Girl Scout troop leader. I just feel ready to be done , but it is scary as The hubby And I are presently deprecated an trying to work things out. I don't want more but if my marriage fails and I fall in love again and he wants a baby I will not be able to:/ This is a very hard choice .

    Are you having a c-section?  If so, this is something that you should think about.  However, if you don't have a c-section, there's no benefit to doing the tubal ligation right away, so there's no benefit to forcing yourself to make this decision before you're ready.

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