Since I am new to this whole single parent thing. I'm just wondering I've seen some of you have posted about having good relationships with your XH's and BD's. Right now I feel like myself and STBXH will never be there. STBXH just packed his bags and walked out. He has said some aweful and hurtful things. He also seems motivated very much so by money right now.
Just wondering how you cope? How did you maintain/have such a great relationship? Is it possible?
Re: Those who are 'okay'/friends with BD now
Let's just say that I, too, didn't see how I was going to be able to coparent with him. I was so hurt and so mad. And then it just started clicking for me. Obviously I had married the wrong man, but better I found out sooner than later. And I honestly would not have changed marrying him because I love my son that much. So no use dwelling on that. And that was most of it.
I read a lot of books on divorce and coparenting. I'll get you a list if you want. One of them pointed out that you have to give up on "fair" because divorce is never fair and look at it like a business arrangement for the benefit of your child.
Now my XH is living it up, going out on weekends, has a new GF. He wanted 50/50 but takes him about 35 percent of the time, and generally plays the fun parent. But I have my son and that is the difference. Plus sometimes XH steps up and it makes for a nice surprise!
I have a feeling this response got longer than I intended but I hope it helps!
BFP 3/29/2014 2u2 Let's do this!