Hello,
My first csection was because of "too long of labor" so says the doctor who delivered me. Since than I have switched clinics and am pregnant with my second and plan on having a vbac because there is no reason currently to have a csection.My first child I didn't know better about csections.
Anyways, when friends and family ask me about scheduling my csection I tell them I am not having one. They get so upset and say how can you not have a csection your putting your child at risk and blah blah blah. I have no issues, no problems with this pregnancy so far and have the okay to have a vbac from the doctor. I am at the point where I want to scream at them shut up you don't even know what your talking about. When I try to educate them on the difference between vbacs and having a csection it goes in one ear out the other. Even my mom is driving me nuts. Basically the only person I have to support me is my husband.
Anyone else have no friends or family to support your vbac decision? Its like having a vbac is completely foreign to people. I just walk away from people anymore and have stopped talking to people. The only person I can't seem to get away from is my crazy mom who texts me everyday or calls me to inform me how wrong I am. (please note i have sent so many emails and information to her about vbacs and why they are better or ok to do besides scheduling another csection)...
ANYONE else out there with friend and family issues? what are you doing to make it easier on you?
Re: Anyone losing all support for wanting a vbac?
M/C #2 - October 2016
MMC #1 - April 2016
Im not normally an aggressive person but I think this is one time where you have to be!
I'm surprised people are even familiar enough with the issues to ask about it and have an opinion. You could either stop talking about it with them or you could reply as if they honestly don't know the latest: "Oh, you must be thinking of the ACOG cautions re VBACs from the 90s. ACOG has since clarified that they never intended for VBACs to become unavailable. They're safer than RCS for most moms and I've discussed my specific risks with my care provider."
I use that "oh, you must be referring to info that's decades out of date!" approach for several situations and it generally seems to get people off your back.
Sorry you are going through that. Whether or not my family and friends agreed with me, they all kept their mouths shut because they knew I was not above punching someone over it. My mom did grumble a bit over my using a CNM and not a "real doctor".
I would just not talk about it to them. If they bring it up, just give them a quick "actually, the risks of a c/s are higher than a VBAC" and leave it like that. YES, the risks are comparable, but clearly they are not listening to your facts, so just leave it short and sweet. Or say, "I am four times more likely to die during a c/s. That doesn't sound safer to me." I'm having a snarky day, so take that all with a grain of salt! :-)