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This just makes me sad

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We live in a three flat, so we have neighbors upstairs and downstairs.  Ever since we moved in almost 6 years ago it's been apparent that the man downstairs is an alcoholic.  We often hear him and his wife fighting on Saturday nights.  It makes me sad to hear people fighting as often and as horribly as they do, but I always hope that their two kids are sleeping through their fights.  Well today DH had just left for the grocery store and I heard this loud banging outside like someone had fallen down the stairs.  I ran to our hallway to make sure it wasn't DH and the door is wide open and I can hear our neighbors fighting.  I hear the husband saying things like, "How dare you!  You had no right!"  Banging furniture or perhaps hitting his fists against walls.  Then I hear him say, "I will leave you tonight!  I will leave you tonight".  It just breaks my heart because their kids are home and awake, listening to this.  They are 6 1/2 and 4, so they know what's going on.  I know fighting and drinking is not against the law, I just wish there was something I could do.  It just makes me so sad for the kids.  No point to this post, just feeling bad. 
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Re: This just makes me sad

  • drpaynedrpayne member
    Can you call the police? That's upsetting. Poor kids.
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  • sschwegesschwege member

    imagedrpayne:
    Can you call the police? That's upsetting. Poor kids.

    I would, but I don't think they are doing anything illegal.  He isn't violent as far as I can tell and being drunk isn't against the law.  I don't think the police could do anything. 

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    imagesschwege:

    imagedrpayne:
    Can you call the police? That's upsetting. Poor kids.

    I would, but I don't think they are doing anything illegal.  He isn't violent as far as I can tell and being drunk isn't against the law.  I don't think the police could do anything. 



    Maybe you could just report the disturbances, though? Then at leat there will be a record of them?
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  • mexicolombianamexicolombiana member

    I know this sounds awful, but calling the police could make it all worse.  I think I would just do nothing in this situation unless there really is violence or a loud disturbance that could warrant calling the cops. 

    Could you perhaps just complain to the landlord?





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  • sschwegesschwege member
    imagemexicolombiana:

    I know this sounds awful, but calling the police could make it all worse.  I think I would just do nothing in this situation unless there really is violence or a loud disturbance that could warrant calling the cops. 

    Could you perhaps just complain to the landlord?

    That's kind of what I'm thinking too.  My main concern is for those poor kids and having the police show up to your door would be even more scary.  Now of course if he hit his wife or was directing this toward his kids I would call, but that is not the case.

    It's condos so we all own our places, no landlord.   

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  • valistakenvalistaken member

    Well I've been those neighbors unfortunately, and just, please don't call the cops... she will if she needs to, and I know it sucks for the kids, but calling the cops isn't going to do much but piss off an already drunk and angry man more.

    Until there's violence and you don't think she's going to stand up and do what's right, just let her handle it, she knows him and the situation better than you do.

    It sucks for everyone, it's amazing and sad how one persons problem can affect so many. 

     

    Edit: maybe contact her and offer a supportive ear, just to talk if she wants or needs to, really that's the best thing you could do right now.

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