Am I being a b!tch?

Manda-Kay · June 2013

Ladies please be honest -

You know how I went and bought the Jim Gaffigan book and had it signed special for DH for Father's Day? After waiting patiently I finally asked DH if he got any packages. He said yes. I asked him if he got his Father's Day gift. He said yes. Then he said he was looking on Ebay to see how much it was worth, which let me know that he got it. I know that he wasn't really going to sell it but he said that instead of "thank you." I went to that book signing special. I was so excited for DH to get it. And then I had to ask if he got it and he didn't thank me. I am so upset and hurt. I feel extremely guilty that I told him I was upset but he NEVER thanks anyone who sends him a package and I know he has gotten a lot. People have to ask if he gets them. This is so rude. But to not thank me for this very special gift left me in tears. He said he had other priorities and was busy. He then played the "I'm in a combat zone" card. I totally get it I do but he was able to remember to ask me if he could buy a gun (you know my thoughts on that) and not to thank me for the gift. I told him that. I apologized for telling him how I felt. I normally don't show my feelings and keep comments rainbows and butterflies but I again told him I was hurt. Makes me not want to sent him anything again. Of course I will. I bought him a charger for his computer and am sending him that as soon as I get it.

Am I being a b!tch? Please be honest. I'm in tears here, but I do tend to overreact

Crossingfingers · June 2013

You are not being a b!tch at all! He is being rude and insensitive. If I had sent him a package and he never acknowledged it or thanked me for it he would not be getting another.

Tula214 · June 2013

You are absolutely NOT being a b!tch. Thats not appreciative at all.

bigbootyjudi · June 2013

That is such bullshitt. He is absolutely being a twat. ABSOLUTELY.

To admit to checking how much something cost that someone else bought you is just beyond tacky, especially when that person is your wife, who has been sitting home without you for almost a year and had to find time in her schedule, all while taking care of your son on her own, to go stand in some line and get an autograph for you.

Him giving you the excuse that he's in a combat zone is bullshitt too. You had time to go out of your away to ask me for a gun, look up shitt on Ebay, you had time to mutter two words out of me.

I'm pissed for you.

Manda-Kay · June 2013

bigbootyjudi:
That is such bullshitt. He is absolutely being a twat. ABSOLUTELY.
To admit to checking how much something cost that someone else bought you is just beyond tacky, especially when that person is your wife, who has been sitting home without you for almost a year and had to find time in her schedule, all while taking care of your son on her own, to go stand in some line and get an autograph for you.
Him giving you the excuse that he's in a combat zone is bullshitt too. You had time to go out of your away to ask me for a gun, look up shitt on Ebay, you had time to mutter two words out of me.
I'm pissed for you.

I'm not sure that he actually did look it up on Ebay - I think he was joking. It still hurt that he said that instead of thank you.

Thanks for making me feel validated! I tend to be irrational but I'm glad I'm not this time.

lady_tytah · June 2013

mlynne37wiu:
LiliDragon:
You are not being a b. He is being a d in my opinion. You didn't call to thank me, but you checked out the value of the gift?!? This pisses me off on so many levels. The fact that he's in a combat zone didn't stop him from searching on eBay, did it? He was talking to you, so he COULD have and SHOULD have said thank you.

I'm with you. I'd cry too.

Nope, not being a biitch.  I agree with all of this.

Yes. Yes.

smile50208 · June 2013

You are not a b!tch at all. I was really upset when my brother and his wife didn't thank us for the delayed honeymoon getaway weekend. My mom had to call him out on that just for me to get a phone call from my SIL. And that is my brother. I would be so torn apart if it was my DH and I put such time and energy into the gift.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

No. CF said it right, he's being rude and insensitive. But I could also see a lot of guys doing that. They love looking at how big/fast/expensive/valuable/add your superlative here things are. He should have been more thoughtful but in a way, he was showing how much he liked it by looking at ebay to see how much it would go for. I'm sorry he's being so insensitive. That's the last thing you need while caring for his son by yourself while he's away.

piphigirl · June 2013

You are in the right. He definitely should have told you that he received the gift and said thank-you.

skooz · June 2013

Definitely don't think you're being a B. But to come to your H's defense a little bit, I always have to ask DH if he's gotten stuff that I send. It's usually a day or two between when he picks up the package and when we get to talk so its not fresh in his mind anymore.

He should've said thank you though when you brought it up, especially since you went out of your way to get something special.

Mrs. Rohde · June 2013

Did he say thank you eventually? Did he apologize for being rude and insensitive?
You are not a biitch at all. You are so kind. SO kind. The combat zone excuse is bull too. Way to make you feel worse! Ugh. I'm sorry but he needs to make the time to thank people for their gifts. So rude.

jessalynn521 · June 2013

LiliDragon:
You are not being a b. He is being a d in my opinion. You didn't call to thank me, but you checked out the value of the gift?!? This pisses me off on so many levels. The fact that he's in a combat zone didn't stop him from searching on eBay, did it? He was talking to you, so he COULD have and SHOULD have said thank you. I'm with you. I'd cry too.

Yup this. You deserved a simple thank you from your husband whether he was in a combat zone or not. That is not an excuse for douchery

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