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Ginlyn0
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NBF: Convenient excuse? FB related
Ginlyn0
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So the other night my brother's FI posted from someone's computer (she doesn't own one) saying that she had dropped her phone in water. Yesterday morning she posted from her phone saying that it worked now and she could text and get on the internet fine but that she could only talk on speaker so she was going to go get a new phone. Last night I got a new FB friend request for her in which she claimed that since her phone was shot, she had to make a new FB.
I call bull. I think this was a convenient excuse to make a new FB that doesn't have pics of my brother all over it. You can't even have 2 FB accounts under one email. So unless she lost her FB password and her email password, I just can't see how making a new FB would be necessary. I mean it's whatever, except now I have her on my friends list twice. I figured someday she would hide those albums or something.
So excuse to create new FB or just technology challenged? Anyone else had a FB friend do this?
DD(14),SD(13),SS(11),SS(9),DS(3)
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Re: NBF: Convenient excuse? FB related
Terrible excuse.
BUT I have to ask, what do people do on FB after a relationship ends? XH and I split before FB (maybe not before its inception but before it was for non-college folks). People I am friends with who have been divorced, I don't know... it seems like all the updates/pictures from the marriage just evaporate. Do you just hide or delete everything?
I am NOT defending her, but I might be tempted to just start over, too.
Yeah, I don't believe it.
I think divorce is different than death, but here's how it went down with my divorce. Any photos that were just the two of us I deleted, if the kids were in them I left them. I did untag myself in a few that were from the end of the marriage but that was because it was a terribly unhappy time and I didn't want to see them. I did not go back and change any statuses or anything. Now my XH still has photos of the two of us on his page (3 years later), more of us than of him and his gf (who he cheated on me with for 6 months). If our divorce had been more amicable I don't think I would have deleted/changed anything.
As someone who has only gotten a smart phone withing the last 6-ish months and still barely understand it...I call bullshit on that being the reason she made a new facebook, especially if she knew the user name and password to log in somewhere else. I have had FB friends that have made new facebooks but it has usually been because they wanted to really cut down there friends list(so only people they actually still saw etc) and you have to unfriend everyone person by person which is annoying.
SO ended up changing his facebook when he and BM separated but it was kind of a diff story since he had always had one facebook with his friends, family etc. Then he met BM and she started trying to pull him away from them etc and then by the time she got pregnant and they moved back to her(and my) home state(a few months into the relationship) he already wasnt talking to a lot of people. But that wasn't enough for BM so she made him de-activate his facebook and make a new one with only his first and middle name and he was only allowed to have her as a friend on it. So when they separated he re-activated his old one which made sense in that situation.
Also SO did un-tag himself in pictures that were just the 2 of them and he was wondering if he should un-tag himself in the couple pics with BM, him and LO and I told him it was up to him but it didn't make me uncomfortable or anything because they are LO's parents and it makes sense, why hide it everyone knows they were together at some point...it's how they made a baby in the first. There are a loooooot of pics online through facebook and some other sites of SO and BM(under all 5 of the fbooks she has had with her 4 last names and once middle name) and sometimes I come across them and it makes me feel a little...I don't know, but if I look at a few more you start to realize that there all pretty staged etc(BM is big into pictures) so most of them were her making SO pose with her a bunch of diff ways in diff place or pics of them making out to show how "in love" they were. Oddly enough that kind of makes me feel better since it kinda confirms things SO has told me about the relationship.
Waaaaay to long a post but basically I'm like 99% sure she is lying and I personally would respect her a lot more if she just said it makes me sad to look at all the pics right now, I don't wanna think about it etc than making up some BS, especially something sooo unrealistic.
I cry bullsh*t too.
Here's another theory. Is she dating again? Maybe the boyfriend is being a *** and wants him off of her facebook and this was a quick and easy way to address it. Deleting pics off your facebook is not hard. Time consuming if there are tons, yes, but not that hard. It didn't take me long to remove XH and XSD off of mine. I left pics in DD's album. The way I see it, it's my and DD's history. If someone doesn't like that he's my daughter's father....tough sh*t. That's my daughter's father and I'm not so petty and hateful that I have to have him completely removed from my facebook. And it's a red flag to me if a guy gets worked up about those pics and to me, that says that he is not emotionally secure enough to be in my life.
Ok, that's what I thought. I just wanted to make sure my own thoughts on it weren't off LOL.
She isn't dating right now. She is going out with her girlfriends about 2 nights every week (usually Thur & Sat) so I'm sure she's met new guys but she isn't actually dating anyone right now. She has a crush on my BIL's nephew that is a year younger than me but luckily he is a smart, single military guy who is uninterested in a single mom w/ 2 kids and he started dating someone else recently. Thank goodness because honestly it creeps the rest of us out because my BIL's family is super close with mine (like we have Easter together) and my sister and BIL really did not want them dating since he's their nephew and she's the mother of their other nephew and niece.
She is out a lot now, IMO, for a single mom. Maybe it's just me because I can't imagine leaving my kids so I could go out that much after they just lost their dad. I was a single mom before and maybe went out 1 to 2 times a month. She uses my oldest nephew as a babysitter and pays him in movie tickets....but she's young so I mean I can't really hold it against her since she's been raising my brother's kids since she was 18.
I agree, terrible excuse. That actually doesn't make sense. FB is linked to your e-mail and password that you set up initially, not your device. You can recover your password if you forget it, and given that a person logs on WITH the e-mail, it's unlikely that she would forget what e-mail she used..... At the same time, is she that dumb that she wouldn't think that your brother would somehow stumble across that? I mean, she's listed twice on your friends--- there is bound to be a slip up somewhere. She's a liar liar pants on fire.
As for the quoted, I didn't really do anything with the pictures. They were on there for a long time, not really "displayed" but I had not deleted him out of any albums or updates. It wasn't until I started to get serious with my now FI that I deleted pictures out of respect for him, since many of his family and friends were on my FB as well. He never asked me, but if the tables were turned, I think I would want that.
I definitely did not go through and remove status updates..... holy moly. That would take forever.
{Quietly raising hand in the corner} Um, I'm not tech challenged, just memory challenged and I won't get a new phone because I can't access my FB any other way. When I set up my FB I was using a verizon email address that I no longer have access to. A few months ago I had to change my password for my FB because it got hacked and now for the life of me I can't remember the password. I have tried every single password I ever use and none of them match. Since I can't access my old email address, I can't "request" a new password. It's incredibly frustrating.
I'm not saying that's what happened here, but it's completely possible.
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