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September 2013 Moms
adoubleu12
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Officially not going out in public anymore.
adoubleu12
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I went to a wedding this weekend. It was one of H's best friends, he was a groomsman. So I didn't really personally know a lot of people there, I just kind of knew them through H. Of course, no one really knew the details of my pregnancy, and I got a lot of questions. Mainly "When are you due?"
The looks and comments I got when I said "September". Omg. I heard everything from "I would have guessed late July!" to "Are you sure there aren't two in there again!?" I got "What do you have, an 8 monther in there?" from the photographer. A couple "Did you make sure there is a Dr in the house?" Then my cousin shows up, who is due 3 weeks before me with her 3rd, just tiny, making me look even more huge.
Yesterday I had just been complaining about it and decided I needed to go to the grocery store. One of the old men stocking the shelves asking me when the little one was arriving. I said Sept. and he gave me a "Holy Cow!!" The cashier said "Getting some last minute things before baby comes?"
I am just going to start telling people that I was due yesterday.
The sad thing is, I am not NEAR as big as I was with the twins, and I didn't get comments like that then. Maybe it is the way I am carrying so low? Maybe I am just running into a lot more asshats with no filter.
ETA: I can't spell.
Livian Elizabeth and Alayna Marjorie! On their way to 3!
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Re: Officially not going out in public anymore.
My money's on asshats. People don't know when to shut up and they have no concept of what's normal size in a pregnancy.
I'm carrying about the same as I was last time, and measuring on track both now and then. Last time I got all kinds of comments about how "tiny" I was, this time I'm getting the same kinds of comments you got ("Due any day now, huh?" "Are you sure there aren't twins in there? Or triplets?"). People are dumb and have no clue.
I'm sure you look great.
BFP #1: July 12, 2010 Natural M/C: July 26, 2010
BFP #2: January 30 ,2011 Born: September 29, 2011
BFP #3: January 5, 2013 Born: August 25, 2013
This weekend I got: Boy I don't know how you are going to last two more months with that belly already that big. And today: wow you got a lot bigger just over the weekend.
Thanks a freaking lot people.
I think it is the fact that I didn't really go out in public at this point when I was pregnant with the twins. I was on house arrest for pretty much the whole 3rd tri. I just didn't have to see the aholes.
I think you should respond to strangers by giving them a confused look and telling them you aren't even pregnant.
People can be jerks. Sorry!
People are clueless. I am not big at all and some people give me the same looks or say the same things. I am all belly and super tiny compared to a number of other people who I know who recently had babies.
I have started saying how many weeks we have left and they look less shocked it seems.
Jamie
BFP #1- 9/16/2012 MMC- 10/24/2012 (8.5 weeks, baby measured 6 weeks 1 day with no heartbeat) D&C-10/30/2012 BFP #2- 12/23/2012 Due 9/5/2013 Please be our rainbow baby!
honestly people also have NO idea of what they're talking about. I know I'm measuring normal or possibly even small, but my mom was like "you look REALLY big for your due date" AND she misremembered my due date as being two weeks before it really is! Meanwhile other people are like, "you barely have a bump!" and "you're so tiny!"
So yeah, no one knows what the hell they are saying.
This was posted on 3rd tri today and I posted it to my FB wall:
https://www.scarymommy.com/10-ways-to-piss-off-a-pregnant-woman/
I don't understand why people are so douchey to pregnant women.
Edit: I have not yet had time to put this on my FB wall because I have spent the last half hour reading the comments under it
Jamie
That sucks, im sorry:( people are serious douches to pregnant ladies sometimes.. I've been getting those comments too .. I just want to wear a poster around on my chest that says..
"yes I am pregnant, and due in September. No it is not twins and yes I am sure of this. And despite your thoughts that I look "huge" or "bigger than I should be" I am actually right on track and below my suggested weight gain.. oh yea, one more thing..suck it"
Same here! I'm sorry you're getting so many comments, btw! The idea of sharing the weeks versus sharing the due date struck me when I was somewhere around 26 weeks and it has worked well for the asshat-comment-squashing.
Relatable moment: I was just out with a friend who is due 5 weeks before me, and to be clear, her belly is larger than mine, but the man working at the store asked if we were due around the same time. She was clearly tickled pink; I, however, was left annoyed and frustrated. I wanted to stand next to her and give him a good look at the profile, but then I realized THAT would be the hormones talking.
I went to a friend's baby shower on Saturday - she's due a month before me and is TINY! She's also tall and lanky and I'm short and well, not lanky.
Everyone carries differently and I definitely "popped" early - right around 15 weeks. I've gotten a few odd looks when I tell people who ask that I'm due late Sept/early Oct, and even odder looks when, if they press the issue, I tell them I'm still -1 from pp weight.
I'm not sure where I'm actually measuring (I have an appt on Thursday), but it is what it is and as long as baby is healthy, I'm happy!
I feel like women carry, show, and grow so differently and the "9 month" pregnany woman that's shown on TV/movies paints such an idiotic picture of what pregnancy actually looks like.
Seriously, people wouldn't comment to non-pregnant women about their size, I don't understand why they think it's okay to comment now!
But even family members, who I know are so excited about LO and love me more than anything, annoy me with their comments. Every time it's like "ooooh, you're getting so big!" And I know they mean it in a good way, because baby is healthy... but... still doesn't feel good for my self esteem!
I agree with the PP about saying you are 7 months, or you have 2 more months, or ** amount of weeks, because people seem to think September is really far away when it isn't because they are still in "summer mode."