Thank You BM #1 for not letting SS's down!

I don't post about BM #1 much.. maybe once.

BM hasn't called or seen SS's 16 and 13 in IDK how long, well over 3 months.

BM and DH talked over the weekend, after BM sent a text to SS's out of nowhere. I immediately let each SS know that BM was contacting them. neither SS cred to text back, I didn't send a response as I didn't feel it was my place.

BM then sent a text accusing DH and I of not allowing SS's to talk to BM.

I took the phone to SS's again. SS1 was outside.. he said to tell BM he was staying the night with a friend. as he did call her earlier and BM sent him straight to VM, SS1 left a MSG and BM called back and left a msg saying she wouldn't have done that had she known it was SS. DH never calls BM so I don' tsee why she would thing it was anyone else.

When I took the phone to SS2, he told me to tell BM he was fishing. I did not want to be in the middle of this.. and I'm stuck at this point. I did send her a text back that I did take the phone out to SS1 after she called back realizing it was SS1 calling her. I told her I did tell her the boys weren't home. I felt bad lying but BM1 never has anything to do with them. I told her they would be back later,

When I told DH what had occurred, DH called BM and had a very adult, mature talk with her. I was actually impressed as DH usually tends to act like a clown when it comes to BM2. DH told BM that I had lied for the boys because that is what they asked me to do. DH went to each one of the boys and asked them, while on speaker phone to talk to BM. Each declined. DH then told her that it will take time because SS's feel like she doesn't care and BM  needs to show them she does.. even a phone call.

BM had all kinds of excuses for child support which she doesn't feel she has to pay if she doesn't see or talk to SK's, and only every once in a while when she was talking to SS's on the phone on a regular basis.

Back to topic.. DH told BM that SS's were in fact at home but didn't want to talk to BM, not to be mean but DH was leading into a conversation that BM hadn't called to talk to them or to see them in a long time. It's in BM's court order that she is to call twice a week and have one SS for one weekend each month. BM's response to why don't you ever call or come to get them was that she felt that if they wanted anything to do with her they would contact her. DH told her that it's not up to them to contact her, she is the parent and SS's feel like she does not care at all ..anyways they had a reasonable, mature conversation and BM called yesterday to set up plans for today if the boys wanted to go.

BM was to be here at 10am to pick SS's up. I got them both up at 9:30 and they didn't get out of bed until BM showed up at 10:30. They were surprised she came and I'm really glad that she did. I don't even have a complaint about her being late... I'm glad she came! I think it will do them some good