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September 2013 Moms
MzCurnett8886
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Over the Top 1st Birthday
MzCurnett8886
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I got an invitation in the mail this week for a friend's son's first birthday. It's not until August, but she's sent them out now so that we can 'set our calendars'. These things remind me of wedding invitations, they had calligraphy on the envelope, an enclosed RSVP card and envelope with cake option, and registry information.
I had to check the registry because my curiosity won out. There are several big ticket items on there including a toddler bed, new room d?cor, and a tablet. She's trying to get catering and people to dress up as superheroes to entertain guests. Are these huge parties becoming the new normal for a child's party?
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Re: Over the Top 1st Birthday
wow.
My twins will have the standard for my family: a backyard party.
for first birthdays, they each get their own mini-bear cake (https://www.wilton.com/idea/Teddy-Bear-Cake) and that's about it.
Oh, and no registry. and what 1 year old needs a tablet?
Ds2 was cake and dinner with the guys from my husband unit while we were in Korea. They had more fun than ds2 lol
I have heard it all. WTF?! *throws hands up and walks out*
SIL has done "wish lists" via amazon.com for my nephew and they are actually very helpful but don't have outlandish items on them like you mentioned.
WTF is a cake option?
The birthday industry is ridiculous in this day and age. We had a "celebrate the first year" BBQ....I did put up balloons on our deck, but it was not a birthday party...no cake, no registry or expected gifts, just a drop by and enjoy some food when you can. We did do a cake for him with just us though. This year I made him a cookie monster cake and had the grandparents over for dinner...DS still had a blast and I didn't have to worry about stupid crap like favors for 2 yr olds.
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Hahaha! This exactly! Our parties consisted of evites and a high chair set up in the backyard for cake smashing.
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Wow. That is way over the top. And sending registry information in a 1 year old's birthday invitation is beyond tacky.
DS's first birthday consisted of hamburgers and hotdogs on the grill and a homemade birthday cake.
We bought DS a little jump castle as his big birthday present for his 2nd birthday. He probably still didn't realize that little party was about him, but he loves his jump castle.
We did have to go to one 1st birthday party, not a friend, more of an obligation, where they invited over 80 people, had a ton of food and drinks, and a huge bounce house. I thought that was ridiculous! Especially because they are some of the least classy people I know, and also don't have the kind of money to spend like that. But even they did not have calligraphy or a registry!!
What??! I can't decide if I would go just to see the "show" or if I would opt out because it's so over the top and outrageous.
My child won't be getting any birthday parties like this. AND I'm not even that against throwing over the top get togethers. 1st Birthday registry and cake preference? Oh and what happened to a regrets only text or email?
So what were the cake options?
LOL Im hungry
Well I know that this is much more than the parents can afford, she's tried selling me her old baby stuff, lives with his parents, just quit her job to go back to school, so I don't understand the reason for making this so big. She said on her Facebook there's about 100people invited.
The cake options are vanilla, chocolate, red velvet, and peanut butter chocolate. I'm curious to see how many people she hires to walk around, she wants all the Avengers, Batman, and X-Men.
I think reality TV and Pinterest has led to some of this. All the moronic ladies on the Real Housewives/Pretty Wicked Moms do over the top parties, not to mention all the MTV shows; and Pinterest shames everyone. Ridiculous!
A kid's first b-day is more about the parents/grandparents making the memories than the kid, so anything over the top is a waste of money.
But you still have to go to this shindig and report back.
This.
Ugh, I am so sad that this whole birthday registry thing is taking off. The first we were invited to was three years ago and since then, we have been invited to at least 5 more parties with registry info included. I always refuse to buy off the registry. I usually get them an outfit and a book or small toy depending on the age.
I am so tempted to buy that 5 ft tall stuffed Mickey Mouse I always see at Costco, just to see how parents react. I should do it one of these days.
And DS's party, while large (we have HUGE families), was still nothing more than a back yard bbq with hot dogs and store bought cup cakes. And we all had a blast.
Unfortuately, the answer seems to be yes. At least for first birthdays. People go really big. Don't worry, next year at this time this board will be full of posts about birthday party plans. Booking a venue, massive guest list, the works. A registry is a bit excessive, but wishlists aren't uncommon. (Oh, and to the pp who wondered why a 1 year old would need a tablet, toddlers LOVE things like iPads and lots of parents use them to keep the kid occupied for travel.)
We did a small party with immediate family and a few close friends over for a BBQ and cupckakes for Lily's first birthday. Since the new baby will be about a month old, her second birthday will likely be even more low-key. But there are people who can afford to go big and whose family and friends expect it. *shrug* Whatcha gonna do?
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