December 2011 Moms
Jmcmahon21
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Do you stay in touch with high school friends?
Jmcmahon21
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I have a few that I'm friends with on face book but don't really talk to them. One of the girl's I was close to in high school just posted she's pregnant again, she'll have 2 kids a year apart exactly. I texted her a congrats and she just talked about herself and didn't ask about me or DS which I think is crappy. I don't know if I just grew up or she just got really selfish. It's also high school friends so I guess I shouldn't expect too much!
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Re: Do you stay in touch with high school friends?
I grew up in a small town and many of my friends are people I went to K-12th grade with, so we are a pretty tight knit bunch. I wish that we got together as a big group more often, but we all live in different places and have careers, about half of us are married with kids, so it makes it hard. Sadly, we mainly keep up over FB because it's the easiest way to share with everyone at the same time, but we try to call each other too.
Sounds like your "friend" is lacking basic conversation skills!
The people I was closest to in high school I keep in touch with and usually get together with once a year or so. I don't live near any of them.
I am facebook friends with most of my graduating class and with a lot of people who were in the grades around mine. I grew up in a small town and went to school with the majority of them from k-12. It's kind of nice to know what most people are up to these days.
I had great high school friendships, ones I thought would last forever, but I only keep in touch with one of them now and that's just threw random texts and the bi-annual phone calls. It's crazy to me because I too grew up in a very small town and my best friend from high school only lives 30 minutes away and is pregnant with her first, but we haven't talked in years! We grew apart when I moved away for college, then she stopped being there for me during the most exciting/hardest parts of my life, so I slowly gave up on her. I think after high school you really discover who you are as a person, and those people who were meant to be in your life still will be!
By the way Jcmmahon21 - I think it's totally crappy of your friend to not even ask about your son!!! I would've been so mad! Ya see...my high school best friend would've done the exact same thing. She's notorious for only wanting to talk about herself... another reason why I gave up. You shouldn't have to compete with your best friend.
I had a close group of high school friends that I was friends with up until around 24...then some of grew up and others did not. I am only close to about two of them now...but I rarely see them because I live so far away. We have the type of friendship though were we can pick up exactly where we left off.
I am "friends" with a lot of my former high school classmates on FB, but I really do not talk to them outside of FB.
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I grew up in a small town too and only keep in touch with one friend and we don't really have anything in common anymore. As for the "friend" that didn't ask about my son, yea it is crappy but I don't know why I'm surprised she's always been like that I guess you don't really see things until you get older. I don't know why I try anymore with some people it's not worth it!
Well since I don't have FB I really only talk to 2. And those 2 I have been friends with forever! One all my life (seriously - her mom was my baby sitter when I was 6 weeks old) and she's like a sister. She lives in Florida now and is pregnant with her 4th, so she's very busy and we don't talk much, but when we do its like old times.
The other I played soccer with in 5th/6th grade but wasn't friends until the first day of 7th grade when she sat next to me in choir. She lives in our hometown in Ohio but I make it back maybe once a year now but we still get together and have fun.
All 3 of us went ot the same college too so we've been through a lot together but I know they will always be in my life.
I'm FB friends with a lot of people I went to high school with (most of us went K-12 together), but I wouldn't say we "stay in touch" even though I know what's going on in their lives because of status updates and photos. Beyond comments on photos and wishing each other happy birthday, we really have no contact.
The people that I consider true friends - from high school, college, and various places we've lived - are the ones that I stay in touch with outside FB (email, Skype, texting, vacations together, etc.).
Going by that definition, I'd say that girl isn't selfish (although, definitely rude!), she's just not your friend.
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I'm "friends" on FB with most of the people I went to high school with (also grew up in a small town) but they're all on my restricted list and I wouldn't consider any of them my actual friend now. I don't see any of them in person unless I go back home and I happen to run into them by chance. Sometimes it makes me sad that we grew apart. But, I live 900 miles away now and it's just tough to keep in close contact being so far away. I'm still really close with quite a few girls from college though.
Anyways, as far as your friend, it does seem quite rude. But, she could have just been so caught up in the hype and excitement that she didn't even realize she was being rude. I always try give people the benefit of the doubt...