August 2012 Moms

Paula Dean

Have we talked about her? The FN fired her for being racist and saying the N word. I totally think she deserves it. I didn't like her show anyway. I can't even imagine someone would be so dumb and bigoted publicly.
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Re: Paula Dean

  • I have mixed feelings.  I believe what she said is totally inexcusable and should never be uttered under any circumstances.  On the other hand, it was a long time ago and had nothing to do with the case and she publicly apologized many times over.  I understand why they did it, though.  Her name (and subsequently the network's name) has been tarnished forever.  
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  • If she didn't say it on the air or at a food network event then I don't think it was fair she was fired because of it. No she shouldn't have said it but lots of people do things they shouldn't do and don't lose their jobs.
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  • I mean, I can kind of get that where she is from and her age this probably was the norm a long time ago, but I don't think for one second she's as sweet and innocent as she wants everyone to believe. I think she's a twat.
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  • imageks3pink:
    If she didn't say it on the air or at a food network event then I don't think it was fair she was fired because of it. No she shouldn't have said it but lots of people do things they shouldn't do and don't lose their jobs.


    Yeah, but that's a very public job with a reputation. It's not like she's ringing people out at Target. She should be fired because she represents the network.

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  • She is gross. She had a history of this type of behavior. And it wasn't just her using the word that was so offensive it was the whole scenario in which it was delivered. A "slave themed" wedding? Who says sit like that?

    I have never liked her. Her recipes are nasty and the whole diabetesdrug fiasco was shady beyond belief. I am glad they fired her.
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  • imageJessica Swanlake:
    She is gross. She had a history of this type of behavior. And it wasn't just her using the word that was so offensive it was the whole scenario in which it was delivered. A "slave themed" wedding? Who says sit like that?

    I have never liked her. Her recipes are nasty and the whole diabetesdrug fiasco was shady beyond belief. I am glad they fired her.

    Right? How disgusting! And her brother is worse.
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    I mean, I can kind of get that where she is from and her age this probably was the norm a long time ago, but I don't think for one second she's as sweet and innocent as she wants everyone to believe. I think she's a twat.

    I liked her show when it first came on and she acted pretty normal.  Now, I never watch her show on FN, and if she is on a morning show or something I turn it.  

    I swear she is on something, because no one acts like that.  She is insane.  Also, I totally agree with you, I imagine she isn't as sugary sweet in private. 

    I agree. I used to watch her show years ago, but now she's over the top to the point of aggravating.  I still use a lot of her recipes, though!  Her Better than Sex cake is beyond amazing! 

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  • OMG how did I miss this? How disgusting. 
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  • I kind of feel like she shouldn't have been fired. She admitted to using the word in sixties. She also admitted to using it to describe someone who had just held her up at gunpoint. It was such a different time back then, especially in the south. Given the time and the context Im willing to cut her some slack.
    Now If she were still using that word today that would be completely different. In that case she should definitely be fired.
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  • They didn't really fire here. They just didn't renew her contract. Which I can see why. They don't want someone with a bad reputation to represent their company.
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  • I also think she deserves it. Yes, she apologized, but the impression she already made is still on my brain.
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  • I heard she was under oath and asked if she ever said it and she said she probably has at some point in her life. I don't agree with ever using that word but I think this is being blown up a bit.

    And to maybe add some flame worthy content a black person I know said that if we want to get all upset about a white person saying that word then we need to react the same way when black people use it against each other. I agree. I don't like saying trailer trash or white trash or calling Hispanic and Chinese derogatory names either. We need to be respectful of our own race and others.
  • It's not just the word for me. She wanted to have African American men dress up like slaves for her brother's wedding. That really disgusts me. Really lady? You want to honor that shameful portion of history at a wedding? That's not an image I would want to be associated with my network if I owned one. Also, she was at a trial concerning racist harassment of her brother's staff at his restaurant. I get that family members can turn out differently but people see his bigotry, hear that God awful wedding plan, hear she used the N word and her cred is forever tarnished. One of those things alone and you say, maybe she isn't so bad. Add them up and all I see is a racist bigot.
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  • imageAmySmolos:
    I heard she was under oath and asked if she ever said it and she said she probably has at some point in her life. I don't agree with ever using that word but I think this is being blown up a bit. And to maybe add some flame worthy content a black person I know said that if we want to get all upset about a white person saying that word then we need to react the same way when black people use it against each other. I agree. I don't like saying trailer trash or white trash or calling Hispanic and Chinese derogatory names either. We need to be respectful of our own race and others.

    If this is the case, then no she shouldn't have been fired. Thats just stupid

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  • Eah. I don't know. I never once was under the impression that an older white person from the deep south was scott-free of saying that word. I don't know the whole story about the wedding thing. I don't think she's atypical of other women the same age and from the same part of the world. 

    I have always liked her, but not been oblivious to the fact that she is a business woman and her show is just that - she's putting on a show.

    If she hadn't been fired, Food Network would catch enough hell that the station would go up in flames. I think their hands were tied.  

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  • I saw her live show last year as part of this Capital Food Showcase thing that goes on here every year and she was CRAZY. I mean, completely nonsensical. She made a slew of inappropriate comments and did zero cooking. It was bizarre to say the least. I think she's completely lost her mind, legitimately.
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  • imagecarolyn231723:
    I haven't read the whole story, because she is annoying and I don't care enough, but from what I've gathered I think she was rightfully fired. I don't believe for one second that she only used that word in the past. Yeah, things might've been different 40 years ago, but when a word enters your vocabulary it sometimes has a hard time leaving.

    SERIOUSLY.

     

    "Oh, I used it once like 20 years ago"

    Right. OK. Except every single person I know who "used" to say that still uses it when they think they're in "safe" company. I will eat my horn if she legitimately doesn't use that word anymore.

    I can't believe people are trying to pull the "oh she's old and from the South" card. Good grief. 


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    imagecarolyn231723:
    I haven't read the whole story, because she is annoying and I don't care enough, but from what I've gathered I think she was rightfully fired.

    I don't believe for one second that she only used that word in the past. Yeah, things might've been different 40 years ago, but when a word enters your vocabulary it sometimes has a hard time leaving.

    SERIOUSLY.

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    "Oh, I used it once like 20 years ago"

    Right. OK. Except every single person I know who "used" to say that still uses it when they think they're in "safe" company. I will eat my horn if she legitimately doesn't use that word anymore.

    I can't believe people are trying to pull the "oh she's old and from the South" card. Good grief.&nbsp;


    She's not that old. She could have involved herself in the civil rights movement.
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  • Can I just say that when I was little my family used that word, and often. Therefore, I did too. I had no idea how wrong it was to use it, but if say a video surfaced of me using it as a child...say..20 years ago... And I lost my job because of it, I would be livid.

    And for the record, just because it was once a part of my vocabulary doesn't mean that I still use it in "safe" places. My kids haven't ever heard that word and wouldn't enen think about using it.

    Also, I was born in Texas and lived there until late elementary school. I do think regional norms have an influence. I'm not saying it is right, but that it DOES play a part. 

    ETA: not only regional norms, but also social class.  

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    Can I just say that when I was little my family used that word, and often. Therefore, I did too. I had no idea how wrong it was to use it, but if say a video surfaced of me using it as a child...say..20 years ago... And I lost my job because of it, I would be livid.And for the record, just because it was once a part of my vocabulary doesn't mean that I still use it in "safe" places. My kids haven't ever heard that word and wouldn't enen think about using it. Also, I was born in Texas and lived there until late elementary school. I do think regional norms have an influence. I'm not saying it is right, but that it DOES play a part.nbsp;ETA: not only regional norms, but also social class. nbsp;


    Well, I clearly shouldn't have been so all or nothing with what I said. I apologize.

    I just know from personal experience that a lot of people, young and old, who say they used to use that word really mean "I used to use it all the time, but now I only use it behind closed doors." I shouldn't have tried to say that was a universal truth, but I have come across it so many times that it seems like a common occurrence.

    Additionally, Paula has been accused of blatant racism many times. It's not that there was one instance 20 years ago that's getting her fired. She's SURROUNDED by this controversy, and as an extremely public figure it makes sense that she would be held accountable.

    I guess part of the reason this bugs me so much is that I too am from the south, and I get tired of people always assuming this is still a racist, bigoted part of the country. I feel that the people defending her actions by saying things like "it was so long ago, etc" come across as apologists, and it reinforces the stereotype. I shouldn't get so hyper defensive, though. It's a trait I'm not proud of. I'm sorry that I made you feel like you had to defend yourself. You're right to point out the flaws in what I said. Hope we're still cool.

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    Also, racism in the North is just a systemic and everyone acting like "oh, that's just the South for you" ignores the deep rooted issue of racism that is still part of our country.


    Don't laugh too hard, but my brain almost popped of my head when I saw a confederate flag on a creepy looking house in PA a year or so ago. I'm used to seeing them on jacked up F 350's and stuff down here, but I was flabbergasted to see it up north. My husband, who is originally from NJ, was like, "oh yeah, there are tons of racists here."

    I know that's stupid of me, like, I KNOW racism isn't just a southern thing...but it was still crazy to see it up there.

    PS: I have seriously heard it called "the war of northern aggression" down here. I almost rofl'ed into traffic.

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  • imageAggieDaner:
    imageScout2005:
    Also, racism in the North is just a systemic and everyone acting like "oh, that's just the South for you" ignores the deep rooted issue of racism that is still part of our country.
    Don't laugh too hard, but my brain almost popped of my head when I saw a confederate flag on a creepy looking house in PA a year or so ago. I'm used to seeing them on jacked up F 350's and stuff down here, but I was flabbergasted to see it up north. My husband, who is originally from NJ, was like, "oh yeah, there are tons of racists here." I know that's stupid of me, like, I KNOW racism isn't just a southern thing...but it was still crazy to see it up there. PS: I have seriously heard it called "the war of northern aggression" down here. I almost rofl'ed into traffic.

    I'm guessing you were somewhere near the middle of PA?  The slang term for this area is Pennsyltucky (you know, PA and Ketucky melted together?).  At least that's what city folk likes to call most of the rural areas outside of Philly and Pittsburgh.  

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  • imageScout2005:
    Also, racism in the North is just a systemic and everyone acting like "oh, that's just the South for you" ignores the deep rooted issue of racism that is still part of our country.

    I've met plenty of H's South Side Irish relatives to know it's not just a Southern thing.
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    Speaking of confederate flags...Many of you know I teach violinists and violists. I had a student last year, who had been homeschooled in a very very very sheltered very super Christian household his entire life. He was 18 and very socially awkward and went through many clothing "identities" in the 3 years I taught him. There was the Christian band tv shirt phase. The black trench coat and all black clothes wearing phase. And lastly the cowboy hat, tight jean phase. One day I walked in to my studio he usually got there before me and we had an agreement he could go in and warm up and stuff and the kid was wearing a sequined shellacked confederate flag belt buckle as big as a side plate. I kid you not, the thing was at least 6 inches in diameter. I live in central Illinois, 2 hours southwest of chicago, nowhere near the MasonDixon line. My eyes got really wide and I almost told him to leave because that thing offended me to my very core. But I decided not to rock the boat this one time. The kid was born and raised in the area his entire life. His whole family was from here. I was PIZZED that he even thought that this could even be okay. Then I got scared because how does he even come up with an idea to wear something like that. nbsp;And in front of me, an Asian!nbsp;Now I'm not trying to offend Christians, homeschoolers, or even people from the south. nbsp;And maybe he was just wearing it to push people's buttons. But man, I was glad he didn't show up to his last 2 violin lessons. Because if he was wearing that thing again, we would have had a situation on our hands.


    My favorite is when people try to insist that confederate pride is all about "states rights" and "being proud of my ancestors"

    Yep. States rights to OWN PEOPLE and your RACIST ANCESTORS. But ok, it means whatever nonsense you've convinced yourself that it means. Starz n' Barz 4eva!

    Also, Rho, Pennsyltucky made me snort my coffee. I love it. And you're right about where we were. I love local nicknames.

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  • imageAggieDaner:
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    Can I just say that when I was little my family used that word, and often. Therefore, I did too. I had no idea how wrong it was to use it, but if say a video surfaced of me using it as a child...say..20 years ago... And I lost my job because of it, I would be livid.And for the record, just because it was once a part of my vocabulary doesn't mean that I still use it in "safe" places. My kids haven't ever heard that word and wouldn't enen think about using it. Also, I was born in Texas and lived there until late elementary school. I do think regional norms have an influence. I'm not saying it is right, but that it DOES play a part.nbsp;ETA: not only regional norms, but also social class. nbsp;
    Well, I clearly shouldn't have been so all or nothing with what I said. I apologize. I just know from personal experience that a lot of people, young and old, who say they used to use that word really mean "I used to use it all the time, but now I only use it behind closed doors." I shouldn't have tried to say that was a universal truth, but I have come across it so many times that it seems like a common occurrence. Additionally, Paula has been accused of blatant racism many times. It's not that there was one instance 20 years ago that's getting her fired. She's SURROUNDED by this controversy, and as an extremely public figure it makes sense that she would be held accountable. I guess part of the reason this bugs me so much is that I too am from the south, and I get tired of people always assuming this is still a racist, bigoted part of the country. I feel that the people defending her actions by saying things like "it was so long ago, etc" come across as apologists, and it reinforces the stereotype. I shouldn't get so hyper defensive, though. It's a trait I'm not proud of. I'm sorry that I made you feel like you had to defend yourself. You're right to point out the flaws in what I said. Hope we're still cool.

    Oh I get it, absolutely. I just wanted to point out that there are other sides of that business. And us? Not be cool? Yeah right.  

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  • A kid at my high school got his butt kicked for carrying a confederate flag in his back pocket. I don't think he deserved it but I don't know what he was thinking in a Northern school.
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  • I'm a Southern Christian who will be homeschooling her kids next year and I'm not offended in the least.

    As a child, even very young adult, you are a direct reflection of what your parents allowed you to be exposed to and associated with while growing up.

    To me, that's a huge responsibility, as a parent. Our kids look to us as to how they should conduct themselves and how to know what is appropriate.

    Let's just say, I apologize a lot and try harder the next day.

    As far as Paula Deen, she's certifiably crazy, over exaggerated and totally inappropriate at times. But, I took a lot of good recipes from her wheelhouse. Just goes to show that what you say can and will be remembered forever.

    Oh me....

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