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proposed shower location...

ljh556ljh556 member
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My sisters are super excited be aunts, and have talking about the shower since I was only 6weeks. Now that I am further along (17weeks) they are really wanting to start planning. Here the kicker, when DH and I got married they had my wedding shower at a local bar that is owned by a family friend. It is super swanky and very classy, it is also where DH and I meet. Today it is no longer a "bar" but a rental "venue". Still very nice and all but still has a HUGE bar and the feel of a bar. I just don't feel this is appropriate for a baby shower. DH's family is VERY proper about everything, I mean we get formal invitations and RSVP for Christmas dinner. SO.. how do i tell my sister I would like a different location? She thinks it's a great idea, we meet there, my bridal shower there, and now baby shower(and free rental)... how sweet! DH and I have probably only been to a bar twice since getting married 6 years ago.
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member
    You don't. Let the host choose the venue. All you do is show up, look fabulous and stuff your face.


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  • Aurora317Aurora317
    imagePrimRoseMama:
    You don't. Let the host choose the venue. All you do is show up, look fabulous and stuff your face.


    This. Did they have a problem attending a bridal shower at this venu, or did they throw you a separate shower? The fact that it's now a rental space for occasions like this make it perfectly appropriate, and the price is right.

    If you feel your ILs will be unconfortable, the only thing you can do is suggest that the shower your sisters throw be for your side of the family. Your ILs are free to throw a shower that is more their style if they choose to do so, but be aware that they might not want to do so.
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  • EastCoastBrideEastCoastBride member
    imageAurora317:
    imagePrimRoseMama:
    You don't. Let the host choose the venue. All you do is show up, look fabulous and stuff your face.


    This. Did they have a problem attending a bridal shower at this venu, or did they throw you a separate shower? The fact that it's now a rental space for occasions like this make it perfectly appropriate, and the price is right.

    If you feel your ILs will be unconfortable, the only thing you can do is suggest that the shower your sisters throw be for your side of the family. Your ILs are free to throw a shower that is more their style if they choose to do so, but be aware that they might not want to do so.
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  • jencnhjencnh member

    I had my daughter's shower yesterday at a country club and there was a bar in the room. We are not drinkers so I didn't pay extra to have a bartender. Instead we had a drink station. Soda, water and lemonade with an ice bucket and glasses set-up on a table. If you don't think it's appropriate, just request that the bar not be opened.


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  • Cleo421Cleo421 member
    Meh. If it were my sister, with whom I'm super close, and the venue were going to make me very uncomfortable for whatever reason, I'd tell her. I'm sure she'd want me to. But if you're feeling more like its just not optimal vs really uncomfortable with the idea, I might not say anything.
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  • HollywoggHollywogg member
    Baby showers are a gift and they are a lot of work for someone to organize. The person giving this gift has the final say. However, since it is a gift the host should keep the receiver in mind.

    It's a pretty crappy gift if it makes the mother to be uncomfortable. Someone hosting your baby shower should be close enough to you to consult you on what you would be ok with. You should be able to voice your concerns without trying to tell the host what to do.

    I'd say if your concerns are more about your inlaws than your own and you are comfortable with the venue then leave it be and let your host plan. If its not your inlaws style then too bad. This is not their baby shower nor are they the ones giving it to you.
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