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Relocating & guilt

abbyfulabbyful member
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So I posted before, DH and I want to relocate from Kansas City to Florida. My sister is in Florida, but my parents and DH's entire family are in Kansas. 

I feel a bit guilty. Like we're "stealing" LO from them. Especially when my mom sends me emails like "all we talked about the whole drive home was how cute LO is... and how we missed seeing our other grandkids at this age, we only get to see them once a year!"

Please tell me not to feel guilty! Anybody else deal with similar feelings relocating? 

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Re: Relocating & guilt

  • Tula214Tula214 member
    I now live in Florida. My dad lives in NJ. He has not yet met J. I feel bad all the time, but moving here was the best thing I've ever done for myself. I kmoved here, got a job working at a company I've wanted to work for my whole life, and started a family.
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  • MegispregMegispreg member

    I honestly feel terrible about being far away. I have no real desire to live in my hometown, but I would still move to be closer to my parents. They've spent a fortune visiting. It just makes me sad. 

     You obviously have to weigh the pros and cons for your family, but this a huge downside for me.  

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  • mmdaileymmdailey member
    She's your mom. Guilt is every mom's territory! When I thought about moving to a town 20 minutes away, my mom created a pro con list, with the con side much, much longer and left it on my doorstep. I totally get how you feel!
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  • fastcarsandfreedom3319fastcarsandfreedom3319 member
    We've been relocated across the country from our family for 4 years now, and I didn't GAF before DS. Now that he's here, we talk often about moving back. And I don't even want to move back, we just want our families around to see him grow up.  I would think long and hard before you make that move, because it is so much more difficult now with a LO.  Make that pro/con list and be really, really honest with yourself. Our move was such a great decision for us pre-baby, but now we're rethinking it.
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    imagemmdailey:
    She's your mom. Guilt is every mom's territory! When I thought about moving to a town 20 minutes away, my mom created a pro con list, with the con side much, much longer and left it on my doorstep. I totally get how you feel!

    Wow, for 20 minutes?! I grew up in the country, 20 minutes is nothing! My parents don't even blink at driving 75 miles one-way to go out for dinner! 

    Right now, we're 3 hrs away from DH's parents and 6 hrs away from mine. 

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  • nopegoatnopegoat member

    We just moved about 10+hrs from our families for my H's job. It was super tough but now that we are here and settled its easy to realize that it was best for our little family. We might not be able to see eachother as often but when we do see them they will stay longer and we will have a lot of good quality time. Skype/facetime helps a lot as well. 

    GL!!  

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    imagemmdailey:
    She's your mom. Guilt is every mom's territory! When I thought about moving to a town 20 minutes away, my mom created a pro con list, with the con side much, much longer and left it on my doorstep. I totally get how you feel!

    Wow, for 20 minutes?! I grew up in the country, 20 minutes is nothing! My parents don't even blink at driving 75 miles one-way to go out for dinner! 

    Right now, we're 3 hrs away from DH's parents and 6 hrs away from mine. 

    20 minutes! And where did I buy a house?  1.5 miles away from my parents.  Guess her tactic worked! 

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