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Why BD missed the class

twister22twister22 member
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Background: BD, DH, & I are attending an 8 week ADHD behavior modification class for parents of toddlers/preschoolers with ADHD. This past Wednesday was the first class, and the first time I didn't send BD a reminder text. He did not show up.

He called yesterday and said that he didn't forget the class, he just slept through his alarm. BD works 3rd shift and works a ton of overtime. He is often up for over 24 hours straight. Anyway, he said that he slept through his alarm and he slept 31 hours total. I didn't even know that was possible. He asked me what all he missed and to update him on everything. So that's good, I guess?

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Re: Why BD missed the class

  • PamelacakePamelacake member

    I don't know if he has a history of lying but either way, I think it's good that he cares enough about the class to call and ask what he missed as it is something important  (=

    ETA: Is it voluntary that he go?

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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    FWIW, I used to work two jobs and go to college full time. After a bit, it really wore on me and I slept through my alarms, fire alarms, friends on my bed, etc. I once slept about 30 hours straight, waking finally because I was sick from holding my pee.

    Depending on his history of lying, I would say it is better than nothing that he wanted to know what he missed. I mean, honestly, you already know he is not dependable.
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  • twister22twister22 member

    I don't think BD was lying. I just didn't know before BD told me that you could sleep 31 hours straight.

    It is voluntary that he goes, so it's good that he cares enough to go the times he has and that he called to see what he missed. I think he genuinely slept through it or slept too late (or forgot and remembered later lol).

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    I'm interested in the part about a parenting class for parents of toddlers and preschoolers with ADHD. None of the clinicians I know will give an ADHD dx prior to age 4; most won't until closer to 6. Can you send me a link? I'm sure some of the moms at Special Needs would be interested.

    I don't know if your BD is lying, but when I was a full time college student who sometimes worked 16 hour shifts I'd crash like that every couple of months.

    DS was just shy of 4.5 when he was dx. When I called the pedi the nurse I spoke with was very skeptical, but I basically said that I wouldn't be calling unless it was a genuine concern that impacted our everyday life. They set us up through our Children's Hospital where DH & I filled out a survey and then DS childcare provider (typically teacher if the child is school aged) filled out the survey as well, and then due to the results the pedi had us come in for an appt, and then DS received the dx from the pedi (who specializes in ADHD) and she recommended the Behavior Modification class. It has been wonderful and I would highly recommend it. Feel free to PM me for more specifics about where it's at and I can ask the hospital if there's one close to where you're at.

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  • WahooWahoo member

    It sees as if BD is interested in this class.  I know you are not BD's wife (or mom!) and that texting him reminders is not your job anymore, but I would continue to text him reminders, as it helps him remember and doing so is in DS's best interest.

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