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A simple thank you !!!!!!!!! Rant

Llynch0426Llynch0426 member
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Ok I just joined and do not post often but I'm bawling I'm so upset ( or hormonal bec im pregnant with my first lol). Husband was gone since 4a just got home now, 11. Was working both jobs, which does not normal happen, and that's fine.

 I was home all day with his daughters ( my steps) 9, and 5. Didn't do much out of house because I'm exhausted, but went to the park this afternoon. While home, I cooked, cleaned, played, vacuumed etc. 

Husband comes home, barley says a word to me. Dryer is going and he walks over to check the setting and gives me an attitude about the setting. My response was well if you don't like it, YOU can do all the laundry. ( this is a constant a stupid arguement)!

Yes a little arguement but it really blew my head away!

Not a thank you, hey how are you, nothing.

 ( FYI I love his kids to death and am not complaining about taking care of them at all) 

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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member

    I would kick him in the shin for giving you attitude about the dryer! What a petty thing. Tell him to go kick rocks. Don't cry :(

    I have to say this too though....did you thank him for working almost 24 hrs? I'm sure he would also have appreciated a simple thank you as well. You both worked hard today.   

    ETA: I feel bad even putting that last part because you are pregnant and crying...just know I'm not being snarky or rude just trying to understand your H too. 

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  • Llynch0426Llynch0426 member

    Very true. No. 

     

    You won lol 

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  • Mrs.H.Mrs.H.

    I would say. OH sweetie, I am sorry!!!   Next time I do laundry I will just leave all your things for YOU to do and just do mine.  That way YOU can set the dryer to what ever setting YOU like for YOUR clothes!!

     

    He sounds a bit controlling if he is checking something like that!!!

     

     

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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    I hope you feel better today. I have to say that I have definitely felt unappreciated at times even though my DH was usually pretty good about that stuff but I never thought of it from Sundays perspective. That said I do my laundry and DH does his. He used to throw in the kids laundry more often but after drying DDs fancy silk dress I freaked OJ and he does not do it unless I specifically ask. I he is OCD about it when you are both calm ask him if he wants you to continue doing his laundry or if he prefers doing it and if he wants you to do it tell him that means he cannot complain.
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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    Sorry. I think we've all been there at one time or another.

    MH rearranges the dishwasher after I load it. Or sometimes he will be in the kitchen with me while I'm loading it, and he'll just stand there with this semi-frown. So I stop and walk away without saying anything, lol. 

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  • Llynch0426Llynch0426 member
    imageMrs.H.:

    I would say. OH sweetie, I am sorry!!!   Next time I do laundry I will just leave all your things for YOU to do and just do mine.  That way YOU can set the dryer to what ever setting YOU like for YOUR clothes!!

     

    He sounds a bit controlling if he is checking something like that!!!

     

     Thats exactly what I did say, with several expletives thrown in th mix :)

     Controlling, possibly, but I've come to know the reasons behind it. Nonetheless, I'm gonna let it go and not pick a fight. My MIL always says you don't have to go to every fight  your invited to"

     

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  • PamelacakePamelacake member
    imagefellesferie:

    Sorry. I think we've all been there at one time or another.

    MH rearranges the dishwasher after I load it. Or sometimes he will be in the kitchen with me while I'm loading it, and he'll just stand there with this semi-frown. So I stop and walk away without saying anything, lol. 

    This sounds like something I would do. lol

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  • AlohaloveAlohalove member
    I would stop doing his laundry.  Everyone has a different way of doing things - that's cool.  If he can't even be grateful that someone is doing his laundry then he can do his own.  You don't get nit-picked and he has his laundry done the way he wants.  Everyone wins!  
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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    imageAlohalove:
    I would stop doing his laundry. nbsp;Everyone has a different way of doing things that's cool. nbsp;If he can't even be grateful that someone is doing his laundry then he can do his own. nbsp;You don't get nitpicked and he has his laundry done the way he wants. nbsp;Everyone wins! nbsp;


    DH used to be picky about the laundry. So I let his go. He was scrambling one morning for clean underwear, and I was just smugly getting ready for work trying not to bust out laughing. When he finally exploded and asked where all of his clothes had gone, I just said, 'Oh didn't you notice that I was leaving your clothes for you to do? You sure noticed when I was doing them the wrong way.' And walked out for work. I felt so good about that one. Lol! I'm petty, so sue me.

    But yes, we have all been there. On the days I feel so unappreciated, I try to think back and remember when the last time I told DH thank you was. More often than not, when I am feelind so unappreciated, so is he.
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