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Bexx24
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When your best friend asks if you hate her baby's name...
Bexx24
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Well it's Ps.alm, so I kinda think.... woa not my style for a first name, although it would have made an adorable unique middle name.
But I think I'll not bother telling her this.
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Re: When your best friend asks if you hate her baby's name...
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
This. There's a difference between offering your opinion when not asked, and expressing it when you are. If she asks, and you don't like the name, tell her. You can still do it nicely though and say that she should absolutely pick a name she likes whether you do or not.
I think in the case of baby names, I would really only give my honest opinion in a forum like this-- not to a close friend whose feelings I would hurt and see regularly. If a friend mentions a name she has picked out for her child, and I hate it, I would just smile and say congrats.
There's a time and a place for brutal honesty, IMO.
BFP 1- EDD 2/09/11 Missed MC DX @11 weeks D&C- 7/25/10 BFP 2- EDD 12/22/11 Natural MC @ 5w 2d BFP 3- EDD 1/25/12 DD Josephine born 1/16/12
Agreed. I did tell my brother when he asked when he was looking for names for his son. But I wouldn't tell anyone else.
If she asks, be tactfully honest.
If she's naming the baby North West... express yourself, violently, if necessary!
Exactly.
Ha ha!
i agree.
This
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This exactly!
this!
This. Just flip the situation and think about how you would feel.
If baby is already named: keep it to yourself, you will likely later feel differently as you see baby grow.
If asking for opinions: try to gently steer in another direction or ask what appeals about the name in order to give other suggestions and to understand why it appeals to her, there might be a good reason. I'd still not make it sound like you think she's choosing an inferior name.
I speak from experience of not even a close friend, I can only imagine with a best friend. What seems ridiculous a few days out can really grow on you and it's horrible to know that I ever said something negative and the girl found out.
Recently had a coworker comment about my son's middle name (same middle name as his father, grandfather, and great-grandfather) in a negative fashion in response to my criticism about North West and the hypothetical Kaidence Donda West or whatever. I was hurt. I had never said anything about how her son's name makes me cringe, because its her kid's name. It's a *** move to say something--even when expressly asked.
If your friend asks you what you think of an outside baby's name, there are tactful ways of expressing your dislike. Like pp, say its not something you'd use and then discuss something else.
On a side note, your friend is looking for trouble asking something like that. It's like asking if they look fat when they have fat rolls galore.
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