Who have you confided in?
casandkls
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Hi All,
I posted a while back hoping I wouldn't be a regular on this board, but, alas my 1st pregnancy was not viable after a year of trying. Took Cytotec last week to finalize the miscarriage but, had to take it again and may need a D&C anyway... I have good and bad days and DH is great at telling me we'll get through this but, it's hard when I haven't told any of my friends or family (I'm not on speaking terms with my mother or sister and they have brought my entire side of the family into their drama). What's even more difficult is my SIL and I would have been due on the same date, and she just let the news out to everyone, plus my other SIL just gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. DH told his mother about our mc and I speculate she may have told my SILs as the family knows we've been TTC but, as we were waiting until after 12 weeks to let anyone know about the pregnancy we of course haven't mentioned the mc... I feel like I have no one to talk to, none of my friends have gone through this and I hate being a Debby Downer. Have you all shared your experience with anyone besides your partner?
Re: Who have you confided in?
Hi there,
I am normally a pretty private person, but due to the amount of blood work appointments and ultrasounds after my miscarriage I decided to let the ladies I work with know, as well as my friends, my parents told my brothers too.
I know it is a tough conversation, especially when they didn't know you were pregnant at all, but it is worth it. You need to feel supported, and even those who have not gone through a MC can be someone to lean on.
Sorry for your loss. Everyday it gets a little easier.
First I would like to say I'm sorry for your loss.
I told my immediate family and some close friebds. They were a great support even if they didn't really get it as they had not experienced this.
What really also helps is this board. All of these women are here for each other and are supportive. ::hugs::
My situation was different because I had an early ultrasound and it went well so we told all family and co-workers and close friends. Then we had to untell everyone.
I'm sure it's hard either way and I had just wished that we hadn't told everyone but after reading this board, I realize that it would have been much harder to go through it alone.
Best wishes.