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• mmhopeful member

  June 2013

  clguerra88:

  just a vent:

  So I just got a text message today from a family friend about my blocked tube...

  "I heard you can get pregnant faster with 1 fallopian tube, and maybe have more than one baby"

  Man, this is news to me, has anyone else heard of this?? (sarcasm)

  This is the same person that tells me how hard her and her husband tried for 3 months before she got pregnant.  I just wanted to tell her how stupid she is for saying this and/or believing this. How did this even made since in her head, I thought you learn the basic reproduction system in high school if not middle school.

    

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  Married August 2012 -- Me (40 yrs old) My husband (45 yrs. old) 

  RE referral from ObGYN in late Jan. 2013 -- Testing Confirms Unexplained IF 

  IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN

    Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th!  Egg Retrieval 9/20/13.  19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI

   3 morula stage embryos transferred on 9/25/13.....Beta #1 on 10/4/13/ = 7.5  Beta #2 on 10/6/13 =  negative

    IVF#2 - Lupron plan  (set to begin on 10/28/13)  (Planning on thawing and fertilizing our 6 eggs with ICSI as well as all of the mature eggs they retrieve with this fresh cycle.)

   Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months

  CD1 - 12/5/13...Lupron set to start on 12/26/13; CD1 - 1/2/14....Baseline 1/3/14....begin follistim tonight and continue with lupron.  (Got my calendar today!  IVF#2 is a go!)

  ER = 1/14/14  (11 eggs....9 were mature. 9 fertilized.  Of the 6 mature eggs we thawed, only 4 fertilized.  At this time, we have 13 eggs fertilized and growing.  Waiting for news about a 3-day or 5-day transfer.)

  ET = 1/19/14  (5dt).....3 blastocysts transferred!   (All nine embryos didn't make it to freeze.  =(  )

  Beta #1 = 1/28/14   (2 weeks after ER)  BFP! 209 (9dp5dt)   EDD 10/7/14

  Beta #2 - 1/30/14  (11 dp5dt) 302

  Beta #3 - 2/3/14  (15 dp5dt)  1222 

  Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS!        Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm

  Final Ultrasound with RE 3/10/14 - Twin A - HR 176 bpm; Twin B - HR 177 bpm.

   PAIF/SAIF Welcome! 

   

   

   

  
  

   

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• mmhopeful member

  June 2013

  clguerra88:

  just a vent:

  So I just got a text message today from a family friend about my blocked tube...

  "I heard you can get pregnant faster with 1 fallopian tube, and maybe have more than one baby"

  Man, this is news to me, has anyone else heard of this?? (sarcasm)

  This is the same person that tells me how hard her and her husband tried for 3 months before she got pregnant.  I just wanted to tell her how stupid she is for saying this and/or believing this. How did this even made since in her head, I thought you learn the basic reproduction system in high school if not middle school.

    

  ************** Siggy Warning************

  
  

  Married August 2012 -- Me (40 yrs old) My husband (45 yrs. old) 

  RE referral from ObGYN in late Jan. 2013 -- Testing Confirms Unexplained IF 

  IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN

    Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th!  Egg Retrieval 9/20/13.  19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI

   3 morula stage embryos transferred on 9/25/13.....Beta #1 on 10/4/13/ = 7.5  Beta #2 on 10/6/13 =  negative

    IVF#2 - Lupron plan  (set to begin on 10/28/13)  (Planning on thawing and fertilizing our 6 eggs with ICSI as well as all of the mature eggs they retrieve with this fresh cycle.)

   Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months

  CD1 - 12/5/13...Lupron set to start on 12/26/13; CD1 - 1/2/14....Baseline 1/3/14....begin follistim tonight and continue with lupron.  (Got my calendar today!  IVF#2 is a go!)

  ER = 1/14/14  (11 eggs....9 were mature. 9 fertilized.  Of the 6 mature eggs we thawed, only 4 fertilized.  At this time, we have 13 eggs fertilized and growing.  Waiting for news about a 3-day or 5-day transfer.)

  ET = 1/19/14  (5dt).....3 blastocysts transferred!   (All nine embryos didn't make it to freeze.  =(  )

  Beta #1 = 1/28/14   (2 weeks after ER)  BFP! 209 (9dp5dt)   EDD 10/7/14

  Beta #2 - 1/30/14  (11 dp5dt) 302

  Beta #3 - 2/3/14  (15 dp5dt)  1222 

  Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS!        Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm

  Final Ultrasound with RE 3/10/14 - Twin A - HR 176 bpm; Twin B - HR 177 bpm.

   PAIF/SAIF Welcome! 

   

   

   

  
  

   

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• mmhopeful member

  June 2013

  clguerra88:

  just a vent:

  So I just got a text message today from a family friend about my blocked tube...

  "I heard you can get pregnant faster with 1 fallopian tube, and maybe have more than one baby"

  Man, this is news to me, has anyone else heard of this?? (sarcasm)

  This is the same person that tells me how hard her and her husband tried for 3 months before she got pregnant.  I just wanted to tell her how stupid she is for saying this and/or believing this. How did this even made since in her head, I thought you learn the basic reproduction system in high school if not middle school.

    

  ************** Siggy Warning************

  
  

  Married August 2012 -- Me (40 yrs old) My husband (45 yrs. old) 

  RE referral from ObGYN in late Jan. 2013 -- Testing Confirms Unexplained IF 

  IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN

    Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th!  Egg Retrieval 9/20/13.  19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI

   3 morula stage embryos transferred on 9/25/13.....Beta #1 on 10/4/13/ = 7.5  Beta #2 on 10/6/13 =  negative

    IVF#2 - Lupron plan  (set to begin on 10/28/13)  (Planning on thawing and fertilizing our 6 eggs with ICSI as well as all of the mature eggs they retrieve with this fresh cycle.)

   Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months

  CD1 - 12/5/13...Lupron set to start on 12/26/13; CD1 - 1/2/14....Baseline 1/3/14....begin follistim tonight and continue with lupron.  (Got my calendar today!  IVF#2 is a go!)

  ER = 1/14/14  (11 eggs....9 were mature. 9 fertilized.  Of the 6 mature eggs we thawed, only 4 fertilized.  At this time, we have 13 eggs fertilized and growing.  Waiting for news about a 3-day or 5-day transfer.)

  ET = 1/19/14  (5dt).....3 blastocysts transferred!   (All nine embryos didn't make it to freeze.  =(  )

  Beta #1 = 1/28/14   (2 weeks after ER)  BFP! 209 (9dp5dt)   EDD 10/7/14

  Beta #2 - 1/30/14  (11 dp5dt) 302

  Beta #3 - 2/3/14  (15 dp5dt)  1222 

  Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS!        Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm

  Final Ultrasound with RE 3/10/14 - Twin A - HR 176 bpm; Twin B - HR 177 bpm.

   PAIF/SAIF Welcome! 

   

   

   

  
  

   

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• mmhopeful member

  June 2013

  clguerra88:

  just a vent:

  So I just got a text message today from a family friend about my blocked tube...

  "I heard you can get pregnant faster with 1 fallopian tube, and maybe have more than one baby"

  Man, this is news to me, has anyone else heard of this?? (sarcasm)

  This is the same person that tells me how hard her and her husband tried for 3 months before she got pregnant.  I just wanted to tell her how stupid she is for saying this and/or believing this. How did this even made since in her head, I thought you learn the basic reproduction system in high school if not middle school.

    

  ************** Siggy Warning************

  
  

  Married August 2012 -- Me (40 yrs old) My husband (45 yrs. old) 

  RE referral from ObGYN in late Jan. 2013 -- Testing Confirms Unexplained IF 

  IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN

    Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th!  Egg Retrieval 9/20/13.  19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI

   3 morula stage embryos transferred on 9/25/13.....Beta #1 on 10/4/13/ = 7.5  Beta #2 on 10/6/13 =  negative

    IVF#2 - Lupron plan  (set to begin on 10/28/13)  (Planning on thawing and fertilizing our 6 eggs with ICSI as well as all of the mature eggs they retrieve with this fresh cycle.)

   Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months

  CD1 - 12/5/13...Lupron set to start on 12/26/13; CD1 - 1/2/14....Baseline 1/3/14....begin follistim tonight and continue with lupron.  (Got my calendar today!  IVF#2 is a go!)

  ER = 1/14/14  (11 eggs....9 were mature. 9 fertilized.  Of the 6 mature eggs we thawed, only 4 fertilized.  At this time, we have 13 eggs fertilized and growing.  Waiting for news about a 3-day or 5-day transfer.)

  ET = 1/19/14  (5dt).....3 blastocysts transferred!   (All nine embryos didn't make it to freeze.  =(  )

  Beta #1 = 1/28/14   (2 weeks after ER)  BFP! 209 (9dp5dt)   EDD 10/7/14

  Beta #2 - 1/30/14  (11 dp5dt) 302

  Beta #3 - 2/3/14  (15 dp5dt)  1222 

  Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS!        Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm

  Final Ultrasound with RE 3/10/14 - Twin A - HR 176 bpm; Twin B - HR 177 bpm.

   PAIF/SAIF Welcome! 

   

   

   

  
  

   

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• mmhopeful member

  June 2013

  I have NO IDEA how the above happened.....sorry about the multiple posts....(sometimes this computer.....AH!)

  I was trying to say that I'm sorry this situation happened.  Someone mentioned earlier to me that most people don't mean to offend, they are just trying to say something to console you, but frankly sometimes there really are no words to even say.  So sorry you had to deal with that. 

  ************** Siggy Warning************

  
  

  Married August 2012 -- Me (40 yrs old) My husband (45 yrs. old) 

  RE referral from ObGYN in late Jan. 2013 -- Testing Confirms Unexplained IF 

  IUI #"s1 - 3 (Femara + IUI) April - June 2013 - all BFN

    Decided to do IVF... Began stimming on September 10th!  Egg Retrieval 9/20/13.  19 eggs: 6 to mature to freeze after 6 fertilized with ICSI

   3 morula stage embryos transferred on 9/25/13.....Beta #1 on 10/4/13/ = 7.5  Beta #2 on 10/6/13 =  negative

    IVF#2 - Lupron plan  (set to begin on 10/28/13)  (Planning on thawing and fertilizing our 6 eggs with ICSI as well as all of the mature eggs they retrieve with this fresh cycle.)

   Late October 2013 - ectopic pregnancy - methotrexate injection....benched 3 months

  CD1 - 12/5/13...Lupron set to start on 12/26/13; CD1 - 1/2/14....Baseline 1/3/14....begin follistim tonight and continue with lupron.  (Got my calendar today!  IVF#2 is a go!)

  ER = 1/14/14  (11 eggs....9 were mature. 9 fertilized.  Of the 6 mature eggs we thawed, only 4 fertilized.  At this time, we have 13 eggs fertilized and growing.  Waiting for news about a 3-day or 5-day transfer.)

  ET = 1/19/14  (5dt).....3 blastocysts transferred!   (All nine embryos didn't make it to freeze.  =(  )

  Beta #1 = 1/28/14   (2 weeks after ER)  BFP! 209 (9dp5dt)   EDD 10/7/14

  Beta #2 - 1/30/14  (11 dp5dt) 302

  Beta #3 - 2/3/14  (15 dp5dt)  1222 

  Ultrasound set for 2/17/14......TWINS!        Twin A - HR 124 bpm; Twin B - HR 126 bpm

  Final Ultrasound with RE 3/10/14 - Twin A - HR 176 bpm; Twin B - HR 177 bpm.

   PAIF/SAIF Welcome! 

   

   

   

  
  

   

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• chickyclg member

  June 2013

  Rumbera28:

  See, now that's when I release my inner b!tch (unless it's family).   People like that pretty much get one warning:  "OK you need to stop right now because what you're saying is woefully incorrect".  If they persist then, welp, they asked for it... release the Kracken!

  Now family is another thing altogether.  My sister just swore to me up and down this morning that she 'got pregnant the day before her period'.  She's an amazing lawyer -- a freaking partner in a stellar law practice who doesn't know how her body works.  I just sighed and changed the subject because, well she's a fertility dumbass but also my sister and I love her.
  

  I sent the screenshot to my husband, and he said she must have just been trying to be friendly, but he understood why I was pissed. He was even making jokes about her.

  
  

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  Me~28 DH~27 

  
  

   6-12-2010  Miscarriage. 

  3-16-2012 D&C/Miscarriage.
  

   Blocked Left Tube. 
  

  Diminished Ovarian Reserve   

  MFI - Sperm Morphology 2%.  

  MTHFR 
  

   Abnormal Antiphospholipid Antibodies

  April 2013 ~  1st IUI attempt - 100 mg Clomid- Canceled
  

  May 2013  ~ 2nd IUI attempt -100 mg Clomid- Canceled
  

  June 2013 ~ 3rd IUI attempt - 100 mg Clomid+ Trigger+ Progesterone~BFN
  

   IVF/ICSI #1 May 2014 ~ Freeze All ~ Due to OHSS

   5/1/2014 ~ 22 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 3 frozen

  5/28/2014 ~ FET#1 ~ Transferred 2 Hatching Blasts

    6/1/2014~ **BFP**

  6/9/2014 Beta #1 ~ 1022

  6/12/2014 Beta #2 ~ 3099

  6/16/2014 Beta #3 ~ >5000

  6/19/2014 First U/S ~ TWINS!!!  
  1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
  
  

    
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• chickyclg member

  June 2013

  mmhopeful:

  I have NO IDEA how the above happened.....sorry about the multiple posts....(sometimes this computer.....AH!)

  I was trying to say that I'm sorry this situation happened.  Someone mentioned earlier to me that most people don't mean to offend, they are just trying to say something to console you, but frankly sometimes there really are no words to even say.  So sorry you had to deal with that. 

  I know, it just really took me back.

   

  
  

  ~~~~~~~~~Siggy Warning~~~~~~~~

  
  

  Me~28 DH~27 

  
  

   6-12-2010  Miscarriage. 

  3-16-2012 D&C/Miscarriage.
  

   Blocked Left Tube. 
  

  Diminished Ovarian Reserve   

  MFI - Sperm Morphology 2%.  

  MTHFR 
  

   Abnormal Antiphospholipid Antibodies

  April 2013 ~  1st IUI attempt - 100 mg Clomid- Canceled
  

  May 2013  ~ 2nd IUI attempt -100 mg Clomid- Canceled
  

  June 2013 ~ 3rd IUI attempt - 100 mg Clomid+ Trigger+ Progesterone~BFN
  

   IVF/ICSI #1 May 2014 ~ Freeze All ~ Due to OHSS

   5/1/2014 ~ 22 retrieved, 12 fertilized, 3 frozen

  5/28/2014 ~ FET#1 ~ Transferred 2 Hatching Blasts

    6/1/2014~ **BFP**

  6/9/2014 Beta #1 ~ 1022

  6/12/2014 Beta #2 ~ 3099

  6/16/2014 Beta #3 ~ >5000

  6/19/2014 First U/S ~ TWINS!!!  
  1/7/2015 Twins born @ 34 weeks
  
  

    
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• RunCC37 member

  June 2013

  Rumbera28:

  See, now that's when I release my inner b!tch (unless it's family).   People like that pretty much get one warning:  "OK you need to stop right now because what you're saying is woefully incorrect".  If they persist then, welp, they asked for it... release the Kracken!

  Now family is another thing altogether.  My sister just swore to me up and down this morning that she 'got pregnant the day before her period'.  She's an amazing lawyer -- a freaking partner in a stellar law practice who doesn't know how her body works.  I just sighed and changed the subject because, well she's a fertility dumbass but also my sister and I love her.
  

  I think I might try that tactic next time I'm faced with the situation, Rumbera! That's awesome! OP, I'm sorry you had to deal with that & hope your day got better! 

  **SIGGY WARNING**

  
  

  Me: 32 DH: 35  TTC#1 since March 2012
  

  Dx: Poor Embryo Quality, Arcuate Uterus, Poor Uterine Blood Flow, Mild Endo, 

         Protein S Deficiency, Sjorgen's Syndrome 

  
  

  IUI #1-5: BFN

  Laparoscopy & Hysteroscopy: minimal endo, partial septoplasty

  IVF #1: 10R/6M/6F ~ Day 3 ET = BFN

  IVF #2: 14R/9M/5F ~ transfer canceled ~ all embryos arrested at 1-2 cell stage

  IVF #3: 9R/5M/5F ~ 1 frosty!

  IVF #4 (FET #1): BFN

  
  

  IVF #5 (DE IVF #1 with Dr. KK protocol): Currently PREGNANT!!!!!!

  Synthroid + Prednisone + Metformin + Baby Aspirin + Supplements Galore = 15+ pills a day

  Lupron + Lovenox + Delestrogen + IVIG + B/W = 2-5 pokes a day

  19R, 17M, 17F - transferred two Grade A blasts 11/16, four frosties!!!

  Beta #1 11/24 (13dpo/8dp5dt) = 367 ~ Beta #2 11/26 (15dpo/10dp5dt) = 709

  Beta #3 11/29 (18dpo/13dp5dt) = 1,997 ~ Beta #4 12/1 (20dpo/15dp5dt) = 3,403

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• 1Baby4Me member

  June 2013

  I'm sorry you have to deal with that. I know how annoying that could be. Since our honeymoon I've had to deal with family asking if we were pregnant yet. That was 20 months ago.... and they are still asking. We haven't told anyone that we're having issues. I just want to it stop, but I'm afraid if I tell them we're having issues that it may open a whole new can of worms. :-/

  

  • Started dating the love of my life: October 31, 2004
  • He asked me to be his wife: January 31, 2010
  • Happiest day of my life: September 10, 2011
  • Off birth control pills: November 2011
  • First and Only BFP ending in chemical pregnancy: June 2013
  • Diagnosed with poor luteal phase:14 days and ovulating but low progesterone: July 2013
  • First month on Progesterone 200mg: August 2013

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• EIK2013 member

  June 2013

  Ugh, very frustrating!!  Some people just don't get our struggles with IF

  Me: 27, DH: 29*** TTC since November 2011 *** Dx with PCOS in September 2012 

  ***September 2012: IUI #1 = BFN*** 

   ***October 2012: IUI #2 = cancelled due to not responding to meds ***

   ***February 2013: IUI #3 - BFN ***

   *** April 2013: Gonal-f, HCG Trigger and TI = BFN*** 

   ***May/June 2013: TAKING A BREAK.***

  ***July 2013: Gonal-f, Trigger and TI = BFN***

  ***August 2013: Gonal-f, Trigger and TI = Cancelled due to over-stimulating***

  ***September/October 2013: Fermara, Gonal-f, Trigger and TI = BFP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Beta #1: 65, Beta #2: 210!!!!!!***

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  

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• NJHopeful member

  June 2013

  Such stupidity. 

  TTC for baby #1 since March 2012 DH SA- ZERO Jan 2013, Low T, started clomid. Up and down swimmies since. Me- Ovulation dysfunction, low progesterone, hormone levels all off http://babydreamsinnj.blogspot.com

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