Update on me (long)

Mrs.E.07 · June 2013

First of all, thank you so much for all the T&Ps, hugs, etc. You guys are the best.

I woke up from my surgery yesterday to find out that they did the hysteroscopy, looked around, but didn't actually do anything. The septum had a broader base than they were expecting, and the dr performing the surgery didn't feel comfortable removing it because she hadn't had enough experience with that. She also saw something up on the left side that could either be a polyp, something left over from my most recent pregnancy, or a little bump caused by the instruments they used to dilate my cervix.

She is referring me to the super expert in this field to re-do the hysteroscopy and hopefully remove whatever shouldn't be there. This expert is actually the dr who was recommended to my by my regular doctor, but when I called his office, the waiting times were really long so I decided to go ahead and get it done at my regular hospital. She said that after a few more post-loss periods, they will be able to say for sure what the thing in the left side is, and if it was caused by them during the dilation, it'll be gone when I re-do the surgery.

I am devastated. I have been so, so nervous for this and all that happened was I was under general anesthesia and they looked around. I have had to deal with all the side effects from the anesthesia, all for nothing. What's worse is I'm going to have to wait even longer. I called today and they said the earliest they can get me in for a consult is in August, and only after that will I be able to schedule the surgery.

I am so upset that I didn't go with this guy from the get-go. I feel like a total freak of nature for being so weird that they couldn't fix me at a large teaching hospital. I am so upset that we're going to have to wait until probably February to TTC again, because DH and I are going to be in different countries from November-January. I'm not old or anything (turning 29 in Sept), but every month that goes by, I'm another month older, another egg wasted (I know it's not that simple but that's what it feels like). I am just so, so upset. I know that this bad news is nothing compared to what some of you have had to deal with, but it's devastating for me right now. I am a total mess.

The good news is that DH did an SA on Tuesday, and I'm getting some bloodwork done next week (coagulation panel and checking my thyroid), so at least we can do that in the meantime.

Thanks again for all your support.

QuigleyCat1 · June 2013

Oh I'm so sorry sweetheart. I can't imagine going through all of that for nothing and you have every right to feel the way you do. I wish you didn't have to wait so long. (((Mrs.E)))

PatientlyWaiting10 · June 2013

I'm so sorry Mrs. E!! HUGE (((HUGS)))!!!

I just think it seems like since you've had a doctor already look at you and had a consult at this practice that you'd be able to skip the other one... I also wish since you have a referral that you'd be able to get in sooner. It just doesn't seem fair. Sad Again, I'm sorry and here's some more (((hugs))) for you.

SandSunBliss · June 2013

:::mobile hugs::: I'm so sorry you are dealing with all of this! I hope that you will get some answers soon. Who knows maybe he will have a can cancellation! Make sure you let them know that you would like to come in early and to let you know if someone cancels! :::more hugs:::

Serenla · June 2013

lindsayhilleary:
Oh, Mr. E. It's just not fair. I know what you mean about not being old but feeling like time is slipping away anyway. So much love to you.nbsp;

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Big ::hugs:: I'm sorry hun. I hope you guys don't end up having to wait. Maybe they will be able to get you in sooner. Sending some positive thoughts your way!

mandiroo · June 2013

I'm so sorry you're going through this and that the surgery was delayed. I hate how it feels when all of your planning gets pushed back. Hugs to you, hope you feel better soon.

buggirl72 · June 2013

I'm so sorry! I can't even imagine how frustrated and disappointed you are.

FeinBride09 · June 2013

I'm so so sorry. I can't imagine having to go through all of that and get nothing definitive in the end. I'm really surprised with a referral like you have though that the other dr wouldn't see you sooner? If they didn't actually send a letter of referral to the other dr and just told you to call, I'd see if they would be willing to do so. That gets your chart and other info in front of the dr and sometimes can get you moved up. Good luck though . . . thinking of u.

psychmajormom · June 2013

((((huge hugs)))) love!!!! That totally sucks! It looks like we both are gonna have to wait awhile for our surgeries and being TTC again.... Wanna warm the TTA bench with me?? There is cheesecake and wine and we play pranks together.

EKGibs · June 2013

Oh crap. I'm so sorry they couldn't do anything. Fx that you can get into see the other Dr sooner than expected. Take care of yourself & get plenty of rest. Side effects of general anesthesia suck.(((((hugs))))

ksyknelvr73 · June 2013

I am so, so sorry. I would be so upset as well. ((HUGS))

Amores0121 · June 2013

I am so sorry. That has to be so frustrating. Don't beat yourself up about it, and you are not a freak of nature!! I am sorry that you have to put TTC on hold even longer. Big hugs. Sending positive thoughts your way. I hope you feel better soon.

luciddreamer106 · June 2013

I'm sorry you had to go through that and didn't get anything taken care of. That really sucks that you'll have to wait even longer to TTC again. Huge hugs.

Mrs.E.07 · June 2013

Thank you so much.

The office does have my referral, it's just that they have very limited opening hours in July and didn't take new patients in July. Or something. Once she started telling me it was going to be a while, I got upset and started crying and didn't really hear what she said. My DH is going to call next week and hopefully get some more information out of them.

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KMW08 · June 2013

:::HUGS:::

I hate this for you. Everything about this situation is just shatty.

Poppy715 · June 2013

Oh (((((E)))). I understand how frustrating being benched for that long can be. It doesn't matter what age you are, it still sucks. Looking on the bright side of things I am glad the doctor was able to pull back and say she wasn't qualified to deal with the situation and send you to a specialist. If she had gone ahead and been over her skill level and ability it's possible it could have ended badly for you.

I know it's frustrating to go under and into surgery for what feels like nothing but it's a means to an end. I would be upset too if I had to wait longer because I didn't see the specialist in the first place. You didn't know that you would need to though. Don't beat yourself up over that. I'm sending (((BIG HUGS))) your way. I'm rooting for you Mrs. E. I'm so sorry for the set-back.

gscoville · June 2013

Oh I'm so sorry for all that you're dealing with. My thoughts are with you, sending all the (((hugs))) you can take!

nyg2042 · June 2013

Im so so sorry that you have to wait even longer. Lots of hugs and positive vibes headed your way.

anitaflora · June 2013

I'm so so sorry :[ :[ [[[[hugs]]]]

SA1112 · June 2013

I am so sorry!! How frustrating that you waited so long for this and they didn't end up doing anything. It really sucks that it's putting you on the bench for so much longer

Hang in there. Big ((hugs)).

LunaBug924 · June 2013

I am so, so sorry that it didn't go as planned. That just plain sucks. I don't blame you for feeling upset and angry at the situation, I'm feeling it for you too! So many ((((hugs)))).

WifeofaComposer · June 2013

That's so difficult - I'm so sorry. The important thing is that you can now be seen by the expert, and hopefully good things will come of it all. Extra hugs to you!!

LydsieMarie7 · June 2013

So so sorry Mrs. E! I hate that things have been pushed back so far for you. ((HUGS))

jbasore1123 · June 2013

I'm so sorry you're going through this. After your loss this is the last thing you need to deal with. You have every right to be upset. I'm glad they are referring you, but I'm upset for you that you have to wait so long and that this didn't happen to begin with. You should definitely make a complaint.

And I completely understand how you feel about every month being lost. I feel the same way. It's so stressful.

I hope all your results come back normal. Keep us updated!

Eliz77 · June 2013

Huge, huge ((HUGS)). This has been in the back of my head since I made my RE appointment. I can only imagine the frustrations you are feeling. Hopefully the referral will give you answers. So sorry, sweetie. Thoughts and prayers to you.