Can't believe I'm even considering #2..

Re: Can't believe I'm even considering #2..

• CrazyMary77 member

  June 2013

  I'm in the same boat as you. I am 35 and a FTM. My pregnancy was not so great, especially the last trimester. I had a scheduled Csection for 39 weeks but thankfully LO did me a favor and came a week early. The last couple of weeks were torture on my body (long story). Then I had to be put under general for the CS unexpectedly. It was another bad experience. Then 10 days PP I was back in the hospital with 3 different infections. The 3 weeks PP, though in hindsight not a long time, were horrible, physically and emotionally. I swore I wasn't going to do this again. But now I'm getting the hang of this, and I'm enjoying myself more now. DH and I have always said we wanted 2 kids. Luckily he's not pressuring me, but he feels the same as me (he is 42) that if we're going to have another child, we shouldn't wait too long. And I don't want LO to grow up without a sibling. We have tossed around the idea of adoption, but it's just a thought, not plans discussed.

  Your LO is only 1 month. It's still too early to know for sure. What both of us need to do, it sounds like, is wait a few more months before we can decide what we want to do. The first child is a big learning experience, but I bet things will be easier the second time around since we know better what to expect and know how to care for a newborn.  I am leaning heavily towards trying for a 2nd, but my goal first is to get into better shape and improve my health in order to reduce the chances of any risks or difficulties.

  
  

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• jkzinck member

  June 2013

  I can understand how you feel. I had dd when i was 38 and I had to decide if I wanted a second one or not.  After a talk with my husband we decided that we did want to have a bigger family and that we did not want dd to be an only child.  I was lucky that my pregnancy went smoothly with dd and she has been a very easy child.  I may not have made the same decision if she would have been more difficult.  We started trying again when dd was 7 months old and got a positive hpt in December.  They will be 18 months apart which I think will be perfect and I will be 40 and done.  I am kinda sad that I did not meet my husband until I was older i think I would have loved to have more with him now
  

  

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• flkong member

  June 2013

  At the beginning of this pregnancy, we were going to have another soon after. I'm 37 and we have 2 others, a teenager and an 11 yr old so I didn't want this baby to be alone since my others are so far apart in age. After painful fibroids, nausea/ vomiting and hip pain, we changed our minds! I can't wait for this one to be over.

                                 

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
   

                               

          

                                        
  

                                                                       

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• Amanda7676

  June 2013

  I have 2 daughters ages 16 and 7 and am pregnant with our very unexpected little blessing. I am 36 will be 37 when this one arrives. When I found out I was pregnant with this one I was a wreck. I had a horrible pregnancy with my youngest daughter. We tried to get pregnant for almost 2 years found out we were pregnant and had a miscarriage before we even had our first doctors appointment. Got pregnant with our daughter shortly after that. I fractured my hip several years ago in a car accident and it caused allot of pain through my pregnancy. One day I started bleeding really bad and was convinced I was having another miscarriage but luckily it was a cyst that ruptured. Ended up on pelvic rest after that then had more bleeding I was then put on complete bed rest for the last 2 months of my pregnancy. I also had gestational diabetes. Fast forward to this pregnancy and so far am having no problems, not even morning sickness.  I was put on meds to control cysts after my daughter was born and currently have no cysts now. My doctor says everything is looking great with this pregnancy. She has done lots of tests due to my complications last pregnancy and my age. She says she is confident that I will not have the problems that I had with my last pregnancy. So my husband a couple weeks ago says maybe we should try for a fourth, I was like we haven't even made it halfway there with this one. I think he has lost his mind!

  
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