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And SD did not call

Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
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Today was DHs 50th birthday...BTW I am 38. SD was supposed to meet him for lunch and never responded until tonight. He got called into work and forgot her phone and did not see the message until evening. She texted him around 5pm and said that and wished him a Happy Birthday. Um I think she needs a list of new excuses because she has used that one too much. I guess the good news is she must be working because that would likely make her not respond at all. I don't even know what to say or suggest at this point. I almost feel like textingn her since she does not asker his calls that if she wants to go to therapy or rehab to let him know and if not be safe.

ETA she texted on Fathers Day to say Happy Fathers Day and nothing else between this and my last post.
Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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Re: And SD did not call

  • Lavender PLavender P member
    I'm so sorry. I don't know all the background, just what you have posted recently, but I'm sure it is so hard for your whole family. I'm glad she at least texted but that is no real consolation for not calling your dad on a big birthday. Maybe a text from you would help her know that you are there for her....

    Happy birthday to your DH!
    "Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage." ~ Lao Tzu
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  • +just+j++just+j+ member

    She's an adult.  If you've offered her help, and set clear boundaries as to what you can and can't do for her, it's up to her to make those decisions.

    I would let it go and not text her at all.  She knows help is available to her and that you both will support that. 

    I suggest your husband stays consistent. Continue to send cards and gifts on the appropriate occassions and holidays, but do not expect anything back. If he does not knwo where she is, then you can hold it at your home until you find out or she decides to ever grace him with her presence.  And if it bothers him too much...then he can choose to stop. 

    So sorry that she did not make an effort.  But then again...it's not surprising. I hope some day she wakes up and gets it together.

    "he offered her the world. she said she had her own" - poet Monique Duval
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  • AlohaloveAlohalove member
    I'm sorry for your husband.  It must be hard to have a kid whose head is up her a$$.  
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