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"You will, because I did."

MamaCat11MamaCat11
in November 2013 Moms

I'm a FTM. But is anyone else sick of these comments from other women? They seem to think that because they experienced something that it will be like that for everyone else.
First it was the morning sickness, which I luckily never got.

Plus a lot of people are trying to tell me how labor & delivery will be, but I'm having a home birth so it will be completely different!

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  • elrodaelroda member
    I've heard some very scary stories and some not so scary. I've decided to just get the majority of advice from forums from people who are actually pregnant. Lol
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  • alexisjo88alexisjo88 member
    Every pregnancy is different, even for the same person, so just ignore them and know that your body is only going to do what is necessary for the baby.
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  • dnt27dnt27 member
    My MIL is horrible with this, to both me and my BILs GF who just gave birth to their baby girl. She know everything when it comes to pregnancy and parenting. And if you have a different opinion than her then you're wrong. She drives me nutty. I can't stand her.
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  • BSnipes35BSnipes35 member

    STM, and I am sick of hearing "well, you won't be able to do that when you have TWO kids".  Ok, so I like to make cupcakes on random occasions because DS1 likes to help in the kitchen and then he takes them to school.  And, yes, I totally overplan every detail of every one of his birthday parties.  It's just what I do.  And, I plan on doing every bit of it when DS2 arrives.  You don't have to become a slug of a mother just because you have two kids.  Shut the f up.

    Let me add, I mean the "slug of a mother" directly towards the women who have said these things to me (one of them being my sister).  They were that way with one, and I don't judge them.  Well, now I do, only because "they started it" ::insert whiny voice::.  

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  • PeachsMamaPeachsMama member
    I did some research about vaccinations and mentioned it to my mom and now anytime I say anything about how we plan on parenting she's like "oh thank god, I was worried because you considered not vaccinating.." Like I'm gonna be a bad parent because I don't want to give my child vaccinations because "it's what you do" I wanted to be educated and know what each one was for. Drives me nuts..
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  • LuciiLovesHanzLuciiLovesHanz
    imageMamaCat11:

    I'm a FTM. But is anyone else sick of these comments from other women? They seem to think that because they experienced something that it will be like that for everyone else.

    YES! there were 3 of us pregnant at one time at my job, and I'm the only one who's had a pregnancy with complications. Since the other two had easy pregnancies (I'll be the last one to deliver) they assume I'm just being a baby. Severe bleeding that landed me in the ER, the threat of a miscarriage and now shortness of breath and pain in the left side of my chest are all very serious complications. It drives me crazy!

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  • JoaniebaldwinJoaniebaldwin member
    Yes! This is a huge pet peeve! Especially the " you won't be able to do that when baby gets here" seriously!!! I KNOW things will change. I have 8 nephews and nieces and 4 siblings. But just because people decide they don't want to waste the effort on one thing or another does not make it an impossibity for everyone else with children to do it too!

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  • chelsdeutschchelsdeutsch member
    imageBSnipes35:

    STM, and I am sick of hearing "well, you won't be able to do that when you have TWO kids".  Ok, so I like to make cupcakes on random occasions because DS1 likes to help in the kitchen and then he takes them to school.  And, yes, I totally overplan every detail of every one of his birthday parties.  It's just what I do.  And, I plan on doing every bit of it when DS2 arrives.  You don't have to become a slug of a mother just because you have two kids.  Shut the f up.

    Let me add, I mean the "slug of a mother" directly towards the women who have said these things to me (one of them being my sister).  They were that way with one, and I don't judge them.  Well, now I do, only because "they started it" ::insert whiny voice::.  

     

    I get this from my mom ALL the time! Im the same way with DS1's birthday parties! Im SO tired of hearing about things I wont be able to do with or for DS1 because im have DS2. drives me NUTS.

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  • agentkitten75agentkitten75 member
    Like the pps I am so tired of hearing " enjoy your life now, because once LO gets here your fun is over " WHAT THE F***!!! I don't know how their life is, but life for me won't end just because I have a baby. Am I supposed to just shut myself and my family in the house now that we have a baby? So annoying!!
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  • MamaCat11MamaCat11

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    I don't think these comments will stop and it's annoying. From talking about pregnancy, to how you should or shouldn't raise your child. We've already gotten comments from a few friends who have kids, "Oh you think you'll do that, just you wait." The only real advice I want is from my parents and DH's parents who raised successful children. Even then, we have to make our own mistakes. 

    Oh God... it's already kinda started from people who don't know how to raise they own kids.

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  • HisBelovedPrincessHisBelovedPrincess member

    imagealexisjo88:
    Every pregnancy is different, even for the same person, so just ignore them and know that your body is only going to do what is necessary for the baby.

    yep :) listen with a filtered ear to the good stuff, and closed ear to the stuff that is meant to intimidate.  Your experience might be similar to others, but will still be uniquely yours :) Congratulations on being a FTM :)

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  • dobrydneydobrydney member
    I'm also a FTM and have been getting this a lot.  I know that most people mean well, but it does get annoying the way it is presented.  My SIL is especially bad for this.  I remember her boobs hurting so bad when it was cold out that she'd run in the house and jump in a hot shower, and she has assured me that's going to happen...not so far?  I keep telling people, politely, that it's different for everyone.
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