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Please tell me I'm not just a crazy pregnant lady...

chelseymatchelseymat member
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I guess I should preface this story with the fact that I trust DH 100% and this is not really about him. We have these "friends" or more like acquaintances from church. We literally have nothing in common with them but they continue to try to be friends with us. The problem is that the wife hangs on DH every word. And I noticed it before I was pregnant and sil and another friend have commented on it without me mentioning it. She's just really weird around him. We are supposed to go to dinner at their house this week because DH finally felt guilty about always declining. I don't want to go. Her obsession with DH just makes me uncomfortable, it's awkward especially since DH doesn't even notice most of the time. DH thinks that because I know he wouldn't do anything (which like I said I do know) I should be friends with her because she has no friends. Oh I should add she is married and they have a kids the same age as ds1. So wdyt?  I'm not just being crazy right? *** needs to focus on her own DH and stop fluffing my DH ego right?
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Re: Please tell me I'm not just a crazy pregnant lady...

  • JayandEmmJayandEmm member
    What does she do to stroke your DH's ego?






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  • chelseymatchelseymat member
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    What does she do to stroke your DH's ego? Lol. Stroke...
    Yep I realize I probably sound ridiculous. I can't even explain what she does but it's weird. She like stares into his eyes and hangs on his every word. She is just really weird. Oh well, guess I am a crazy pregnant lady. 
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  • chelseymatchelseymat member
    imagenowababy:

    You are not just a crazy pregnant lady!!

    But maybe she's just one of those women who is like that with most dudes. You know the type? Not that I'm saying your DH isn't totally awesome and worthy of the attention, but maybe it's not him specifically. Would that make you feel differently? I guess, if it were me, I'd still not really want to be friends with her because that shiz is annoying. Maybe give her a chance and see how it goes? But also, I mean, if the kids are friends, that doesn't mean you have to be, right?

    I don't know... just pregnant lady rambling on to another pregnant lady. 

    that's it! I'm not saying my DH is all that or that he would do something, her behavior is just uncomfortable so I don't want to be friends with her and no our kids aren't even really  frieds. She and her husband just keep forcing the issue and she said she doesn't have friends so DH felt guilty. 
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  • crystalite2004crystalite2004
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    imagenowababy:

    You are not just a crazy pregnant lady!!

    But maybe she's just one of those women who is like that with most dudes. You know the type? Not that I'm saying your DH isn't totally awesome and worthy of the attention, but maybe it's not him specifically. Would that make you feel differently? I guess, if it were me, I'd still not really want to be friends with her because that shiz is annoying. Maybe give her a chance and see how it goes? But also, I mean, if the kids are friends, that doesn't mean you have to be, right?

    I don't know... just pregnant lady rambling on to another pregnant lady. 

    that's it! I'm not saying my DH is all that or that he would do something, her behavior is just uncomfortable so I don't want to be friends with her and no our kids aren't even really  frieds. She and her husband just keep forcing the issue and she said she doesn't have friends so DH felt guilty. 


    Maybe that's why she doesn't have friends. Because all the other women sensed her crazy vibe.

    I know exactly what you're talking about. It's hard to explain. My DH had an admirer at his last job and she was married as well. She always wanted to buy him lunch, and constantly asked for the 4 of us to have dinner. The first time I met her something was just off about the way she was acting. When DH left that job she was CRYING. Crying. Really?
    When I gave birth to DD she came up to the hospital and she calls my children her Prince and Princess on our FB pictures. Gag. Its beyond crazy actually.

    I just remembered I was pregnant when I first met her. Maybe it IS a pregnancy thing...hmmm.
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  • cheffymamacheffymama member

    Not crazy, that would bug me too. I would maybe give her a chance, but it sounds as if you've already done that.

    Maybe just explain to your H that you just don't click with her, and that you can't force a friendship. It's unfortunate that she doesn't have friends, I've been there, it sucks, but it's not your responsibility either. 

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  • rockyrollgirlrockyrollgirl member
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    imagechelseymat:
    imagenowababy:

    You are not just a crazy pregnant lady!!

    But maybe she's just one of those women who is like that with most dudes. You know the type? Not that I'm saying your DH isn't totally awesome and worthy of the attention, but maybe it's not him specifically. Would that make you feel differently? I guess, if it were me, I'd still not really want to be friends with her because that shiz is annoying. Maybe give her a chance and see how it goes? But also, I mean, if the kids are friends, that doesn't mean you have to be, right?

    I don't know... just pregnant lady rambling on to another pregnant lady. 

    that's it! I'm not saying my DH is all that or that he would do something, her behavior is just uncomfortable so I don't want to be friends with her and no our kids aren't even really  frieds. She and her husband just keep forcing the issue and she said she doesn't have friends so DH felt guilty. 


    Maybe that's why she doesn't have friends. Because all the other women sensed her crazy vibe.

    I know exactly what you're talking about. It's hard to explain. My DH had an admirer at his last job and she was married as well. She always wanted to buy him lunch, and constantly asked for the 4 of us to have dinner. The first time I met her something was just off about the way she was acting. When DH left that job she was CRYING. Crying. Really?
    When I gave birth to DD she came up to the hospital and she calls my children her Prince and Princess on our FB pictures. Gag. Its beyond crazy actually.

    I just remembered I was pregnant when I first met her. Maybe it IS a pregnancy thing...hmmm.


    Wwhhaa? Omg....

    OP, it is hard to say without being there but I trust your instincts. If she makes you uncomfortable you need to tell your husband. Its not your problem that she dosnt have any friends. That sounds mean, but we are all adults here.
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  • Disneygeek77Disneygeek77 member
    I would maybe go this one time, try to have an open mind and maybe see if she behaves this way around all men or just your husband.  If you still want to be her friend, that is fine too.  Like PP said, just tell your husband you don't click or you find her annoying, have nothing in common etc and that you hoope he respects your feelings on this issue.
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  • &orchid&&orchid& member
    I find trusting your insticts on this one.  I probably wouldn't mind meeting up with them as a couple every once in a while.  It isn't like she is going to woo your husband when they see each other 3 times a year.  However, in my experience, these types of women try really hard to get men's attention and that's just annoying at best.  
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  • IlumineIlumine member

    imagechelseymat:
    DH thinks that because I know he wouldn't do anything (which like I said I do know) I should be friends with her because she has no friends.

    So basically your Husband feels that you are supposed to just blindly trust him even though he is putting this stranger's needs/desires over his wife's feelings and comfort?

     

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  • LatteLady5LatteLady5 member

    imageDisneygeek77:
    I would maybe go this one time, try to have an open mind and maybe see if she behaves this way around all men or just your husband.  If you still want to be her friend, that is fine too.  Like PP said, just tell your husband you don't click or you find her annoying, have nothing in common etc and that you hope he respects your feelings on this issue.

    This. Give it a shot and if it's still weird just distance yourself and drop the "friendship."

    Also, maybe ask him what he would think if it was the other way around....you know, some guy hanging on your every word with puppy dog eyes. 

     


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  • sbevmc09sbevmc09 member
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    Not crazy, that would bug me too. I would maybe give her a chance, but it sounds as if you've already done that.

    Maybe just explain to your H that you just don't click with her, and that you can't force a friendship. It's unfortunate that she doesn't have friends, I've been there, it sucks, but it's not your responsibility either. 

    Agreed.  Obviously it's hard for us to judge whether it's in your head or not, but if she's doing something that you feel is inappropriate or makes you uncomfortable you certainly don't need to go out of your way to be friends with her.  I wouldn't want to hang out with someone like that.

    And maybe she doesn't have any friends because she hangs all over other people's husbands.  That's not something most people would appreciate. 

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    I would maybe go this one time, try to have an open mind and maybe see if she behaves this way around all men or just your husband.  If you still want to be her friend, that is fine too.  Like PP said, just tell your husband you don't click or you find her annoying, have nothing in common etc and that you hoope he respects your feelings on this issue.

     

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