Why are people so nosey??

MegStark · June 2013

Anyone else experiencing this? It's like as soon as people know you're pregnant they think it's okay to ask you all sorts of personal questions. Like... are you going to breastfeed? Who is going to be in the delivery room with you? Are you sad you aren't having the *opposite gender*? What does your doctor think about that? Etc. AND THEN they think it's appropriate to tell you their experience and how it went/why you should do things different... blah blah.

Um... Hey, I found your nose. It was in my business again.

Just venting.

MegStark · June 2013

Yeah, true. I guess I'm not bothered as much about them asking the questions, but more so when I feel like they're only asking so that when I answer they can then force their own opinions on me. I feel like if they're asking because they want to know my personal plan, that would be fine. That never seems to be the case.

nthurs10 · June 2013

I'm a nurse, and one of my pt's who is a 5060 y/o male asked me if I was going to breastfeed , then proceeded to tell me by boobs weren't big enough to. Jerk! Yeah it gets old.

ksf13 · June 2013

Not so much nosey as offering the unwanted advice/experience. "You just think you're tired now, wait 'til that baby gets here." or "Oh, you're going to want the epidural." and on and on and on....Ughhh lol

csspencer · June 2013

The only nosey thing that people are bugging me with is asking how much weight I've gained. Why is it their business? I answer honestly, I have no clue. I've askd my doctor not to tell me unless it becomes a problem.

AshleyPT · June 2013

I wouldn't care if anyone asked me those questions. It's my decision whether or not to share. Questions are a way for people to be friendly and I've never thought it odd.

Shanmarie1083 · June 2013

Just because they ask the questions doesn't mean you are obligated to answer them. My go-to response when people ask me questions I find inappropriate is "why do you want to know?" That catches them off guard and they usually realize that our relationship is not at the level that they can ask such a personal question.

AppleMuffins · June 2013

Those questions don't bother me a ton unless they're trying to tell me why I should do things differently. What I do hate is when people ask if we wanted the baby or not, as in were we trying, but they never word it that way. Last weekend an acquaintance asked how I found out I was pregnant and I told her I took a test, to which she replied "so you were late?" I just said yes but i just wanted that train of convo to end. Really my cycles are irregular so there wasn't really a "late" for me and we were charting but there's no way I'm going into that with someone I've only met a handful of times! She's not the only one who has asked either. So awkward.

Tally879 · June 2013

I had this conversation this weekend
Moms friend: so how much have you gained
Me: not sure
Friend: you didn't weigh your self before?
Me: no I did I just don't want to talk about my weight
F: so how much is it then
Me: my secret

As my sister sat there staring with her mouth opened shocked.

Bamgal25 · June 2013

Tally879:
I had this conversation this weekend
Moms friend: so how much have you gained
Me: not sure
Friend: you didn't weigh your self before?
Me: no I did I just don't want to talk about my weight
F: so how much is it then
Me: my secret

As my sister sat there staring with her mouth opened shocked.

Wow how rude!!

katiebenes · June 2013

Have twins. it adds in a whole NEW set of over the line questions.

I started out with awkward questions that only my husband and I really need to deal with like breastfeeding and diapering... and circumcision... Then they find out its twins and suddenly its okay to ask if I had infertility issues and if I did IVF!
Its like no... you're a stranger... you are NOT allowed to ask that shi*. f*ck you. That's something that I wouldn't be open to sharing with the world bish!

And I've found no matter WHAT answer I give on any controversial topic, people still tell me what they want to...

My personal favorite, since I've been trying to be less edgy about people judging for not breastfeeding was this: "oh why aren't you, not judging just wondering" me, thinking sweet... someone who won't try to make me "here are my reasons" them "oh, well you should still try" OH. MY BAD... I guess you judged that my reasons *weren't* good enough to not bf. I thought you wouldn't judge me at all... my mistake really.

renee6465 · June 2013

This isn't people being nosey, but do you know how many people have listed off for me all the people that they know who has a birthday in September....

"Well if you go four days early hell have the best birthday there is. If go over 3 weeks blah blah blah" ok I understand they're just making conversation but I don't care your brothers, fiances, daughters, step moms birthday is 16 days after my due date!!!

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