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How did everyone's Father's Day go?

HopeforthebestHopeforthebest member
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DH Skyped the kids (like he does each Sunday). They are young, but neither seemed to know it was Father's Day so not so much as a Happy Father's Day. As a matter of fact SS played his DS the whole time while sitting in front of the camera. And at the start told his father he didn't want to talk to him.

Sigh...I dread the teenage years.

I told DH to remember they are just kids with a mother that hates him so of course she wasn't going to remind them to tell him Happy FD, and that we would properly celebrate when they arrive for summer. I took him to the movies and made him a special dinner.

I hope you all had better ones.

 

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  • Lavender PLavender P member
    Sorry it was disappointing for your DH. How old are the kids? Maybe next year you could call them and have them make cards for DH and they can show them to him on Skype. At least you can celebrate when they come visit.
    Our father's day was great. We had SS since Friday night because it was our weekend anyway. We made DH breakfast and give him his cards and presents. Then we visited my dad and DH's dad. SS told me it was his favorite holiday because he doesn't have to alternate it and he gets to see his dad on it every year, which was super sweet.
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  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    For the life of me I cannot remember the situation. That stinks for him but I like how you handled it. Is there anything you think you can do to try to smooth thinks for next year?
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  • HopeforthebestHopeforthebest member

    imageLavender P:
    Sorry it was disappointing for your DH. How old are the kids? Maybe next year you could call them and have them make cards for DH and they can show them to him on Skype. At least you can celebrate when they come visit. Our father's day was great. We had SS since Friday night because it was our weekend anyway. We made DH breakfast and give him his cards and presents. Then we visited my dad and DH's dad. SS told me it was his favorite holiday because he doesn't have to alternate it and he gets to see his dad on it every year, which was super sweet.
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    I'm glad you guys had such an awesome Father's Day. And I LOVE that your SS said it was his favorite. Super sweet !!!

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  • fellesferiefellesferie member

    It was all right. The kids did not behave super well, so there's that. 

    The kids and I made DH blueberry pancakes. We went out to lunch & an IMAX movie with my parents. We would have gone swimming but DS has swimmer's ear and the doc ordered a 3-day break from water. 

    XH called DS. I was in a different room, so I'm honestly not sure whether he even said Happy Father's Day. The last 2 years, DS hasn't understood that XH is a father so it's been awkward. I've explained but I don't really know how to make him understand without it also making things harder for DS.  

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  • CurlieWhirlieCurlieWhirlie member

    We don't really celebrate Father's Day and Mother's Day (I was raised in a "you don't need a special day to appreciate your parents" kind of family), but we did have an awesome weekend that I think was a good reinforcement of what a good dad SO is. We moved into a new house over the weekend, and all of the kids ? his and mine ? did a really great job with the transition. It was a high-energy, hectic, stressful weekend for the parents, and I crumbled a little under the pressure, but SO was able to hold it together and it ended up being a lot of fun for the kids, with no meltdowns, so that was great. 

    My DS, who is almost four, told me on Saturday "don't forget tomorrow is Father's Day!" Haha! So we gave his dad the gifts he had made in school early, because he spent Saturday night there. Very cute (it was a painted rock and a handprint on a card).  

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  • twister22twister22 member
    Our Father's day was really nice. We went to my parents' for a cookout - we gave DH his gifts (my brother's and I gave my dad his gift from us on Saturday since my little brother had to work all day Father's Day), and then we just relaxed. In the evening we went to have family pictures/DD's 6 month pictures done - the photographer put some up last night & they turned out great!
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  • 2chatter2chatter member

    The girls made DH and exh cards then went with exh for the day.  DS, DH and I went to lunch with his side of the family.  I bought DH an awesome espresso maker "from DS" after we sampled some different espressos.  The plan was to do portraits of skids and DS on Saturday, then portraits of DS and DDs this weekend.  Frame them in a three opening frame with a single of DS  in the middle.  But skids did not show up, so we did portraits of DS and will do portraits of DDs and DS as planned.  We rounded out the day with my Dad.

    DH cried on Sunday morning because skids cannot be bothered to see him or answer when he calls unless they want something.

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  • HopeforthebestHopeforthebest member
    image2chatter:

    The girls made DH and exh cards then went with exh for the day.  DS, DH and I went to lunch with his side of the family.  I bought DH an awesome espresso maker "from DS" after we sampled some different espressos.  The plan was to do portraits of skids and DS on Saturday, then portraits of DS and DDs this weekend.  Frame them in a three opening frame with a single of DS  in the middle.  But skids did not show up, so we did portraits of DS and will do portraits of DDs and DS as planned.  We rounded out the day with my Dad.

    DH cried on Sunday morning because skids cannot be bothered to see him or answer when he calls unless they want something.

    That is awful. I'm so sorry.
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  • AlohaloveAlohalove member

    I'm sorry that your DH didn't have a better Father's Day.  That sucks.

    I did the whole big breakfast thing in the morning and then we hung around the house and watched movies all day.  We BBQ'd some steaks and had a big dinner. We basically ate and sat around all day.  Lol! It was a good day. 

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  • bebe11bebe11 member

    Our was ok, I guess.  We had SD7 all weekend, on Saturday H and I took her to the American Girl store in LA, it was a fun day.  On Sunday my H wanted to go to an Irish Fair, his parents joined up (we had SD and SS), so we walked around for a few hours and had a good time.  Later in the day my H wanted to go to his brother's for dinner, my IL's were going as well as his other brother's family.  I declined to go because I am having issues with my SIL's (a whole other post).  Needless to say my H was there for 5 hours.  One of my SIL's post a picture on facebook of the three guys doing carbomb shots with the caption "it must be father's day"  I really wanted to comment on it, but I didn't.  Of course only pictures of drinking, typical.

     Last year on father's day, I was the only one who had the 3 brothers, FIL and all the kids take pictures together, but my SIL's feel taking pictures of the "boys" doing shots is fatherly?  Ugh, I can't stomach them anymore.

     

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  • Sunday924Sunday924 member

    We had a good day. Over the weekend we were at the river for a wedding so we got to see his family. Sunday we just relaxed...well DH did....and we went out to eat. 

    I did not see my dad but I called him. It was awkward but whatever I did it. That is what happens when you have an evil SM and a dad with no balls. 

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  • HoolyGoHoolyGo member
    DH and I were out of town, but it actually went pretty well. BM texted DH in the morning asking if he wanted to Skype. He did, and she had clearly coached SD, who is 3, on what day it was because she shouted out happy father's day as soon as they connected. They only talked a little while, but SD showed him the card she made him, so looks like BM has something to do with that too.

    I don't know if everyone has just settled into the routine, or if it's BM's boyfriend that has her in a good mood, but I'm grateful that things seem to be going so well these days.
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  • ambrvanambrvan member
    We had a fantastic day.

    DH had neglected to tell me that he had been invited to go golfing Sunday morning with his dad, uncle, and cousin. He was kind of hurt that his dad told him he could only go golfing if DH's step brother would go. DH ended up telling them he did not have the money to go, which was true. But I told him not to worry about the money and just go and enjoy golfing even if his step brother and dad ruined it. Turns out they all had a great time. He was really glad he went.

    I was glad he went because it gave me time to get our special dessert made for Father's Day family dinner. Peanutbutter oreo brownies!

    I helped the kids make some artwork of construction paper and frame it for DH.

    Then we had dinner with DH's mom's side of the family. And we spent the rest of the day by the pool.

    Oh, and SD's cousin had a pretend kindergarten graduation while we were all there because apparently the elementary school here didn't have one this year. SD presented his 'diploma.' It was super cute.

    And DH was torn over whether golfing on Father's Day made him a bad father. Lol! I told him I was glad he left so we could get stuff together.
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  • irishgirl0525irishgirl0525 member

    I'm way late to this but figured i would reply too.  Father's day went fine.  DH picked his daughters up around noon and they went to the diner for lunch, then he dropped them back off at their mom's because SD2 had to study for her final exams.  She baked him cookies and they got him the new Black Sabbath CD. Since they normally don't have a gift for him, I was happy to see that they did get him something.

    After he came home the 2 of us went to my parents house for dinner to celebrate with my dad and had a very nice evening.

    TTC since 3/2010. Me 41, DH-49. After 3 years, 6 IUIs and several IVFs we have finally have our beautiful baby girl, born on 11/7/13.



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