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delino · June 2013

Today is a rough one. DD was up until midnight after napping from 6:309:30. Then she was up at 2, 5 and 7. I'm a complete zombie today. I keep telling myself it will get better, but days like today I want to run for the hills.

When did your LO's start to get somewhat on a schedule or sleep longer stretches? I know they're all different, but I need that switch to flip where she wants to let mommy sleep.

crystalknpp · June 2013

B started STTN from 10 to 6 around 3.5 months. Before then starting around 2 months old he was sleeping 5 hour stretches and would wake around 2am and then 7am to eat but went back to sleep. Now he sleeps from 8pm until 6am. Hang in there mama. It gets better!

Ladiebug710 · June 2013

For us it was about 5 months. At that point he started sleeping from about 930 until 330 and then going back down after a feed. Before that every three hours was our routine. Hang in there it does get better, even if it takes a while.

ksyknelvr73 · June 2013

DS started sleeping 7 hour stretches at about 10 weeks old. We struggled that first month and a half and then he started moving to about 4 hour stretches, then he hit 7 hour stretches. I hope it comes sooner rather than later for you!

delino · June 2013

Thanks ladies.

Jessie...I'm definitely not trying to force a schedule. There's no point. She's also getting mostly formula. My boobs have seriously let me down

MrsRiceARoni · June 2013

Annabelle's sleep was pretty unpredictable until about 2.5 months when she started only waking up once to eat in a 11-12 hour stretch at night. That lasted until 4 months when she started waking up 2-5 times a night again and we just got back to once on most nights in the last week or so.

Gregermis · June 2013

No advice... Just want to offer some hugs and let you know I'm right there with you

ct103 · June 2013

Lisa has had 10 good nights in a row, so I guess that means she started sleeping better around 8.5 weeks? She's been giving us a 5 to 7 hour stretch at night, and possibly a 2 or 3 hour bonus sleep on top of that, depending on when I need to get up for the day. I consider that STTN, and I know how lucky I am. Before this happened, our nights were hell. She would be up and colicky until the wee hours of the morning. It slowly phased out to where she was having more good nights than bad.

You will get to know what works for her as far as a bedtime routine goes. Also, her needs will become easier to predict and read. You will get through it. You've been through so much already, you can and will survive this phase. The human body is capable of adjusting to amazing things, including very little sleep!

hopefulmom81 · June 2013

DD did just flip a switch one night around 6 weeks, where I could get a 5 hour stretch most nights.

The whole process has been ebb and flow, though, honestly, she will go many nights STTN even now and then have a setback (teething, illness, or whatever), but it is only one wake up as opposed to 5 or 6!

Hang in there, mama, it gets better!!

delino · June 2013

Thanks again. I keep waiting for the magical night of sleep. I know it will come when she's ready. It's just hard to accept that I can't change something when I'm so desperate.

hopefulmom81 · June 2013

delino:
Thanks again. I keep waiting for the magical night of sleep. I know it will come when she's ready. It's just hard to accept that I can't change something when I'm so desperate.

The exhaustion is so tough mentally and physically.

I don't remember when the pedi said she could sleep longer without feeds, but one HUGE mistake I made was being the parent that was up 100% of the times with her at night even if I wasn't feeding her. She is so used to me being the calming parent that, even now at 13 months, I am "stuck" in that role overnight. I never asked DH to help, I just took care of it.

Not trying to be annoying and give unsolicited advice, but I would highly suggest having DH pitch in as soon as you can at night so LO gets used to him being a calming influence so the weight of the world isn't always on your shoulders. As soon as you can pump maybe one bottle, it is SO RELIEVING to get just a 5 hour stretch while he feeds the baby. I did this during the day a few times and it helped me feel less exhausted just to skip one feeding.

That is the biggest mistake I have made with parenting so far.

Hang in there, Del.

delino · June 2013

Thanks hope! I too do all the feedings, changings and soothings. DH offered to do one last night and I said no. Mainly because I knew I would be up anyway. He does do daytime soothings and yesterday even changed a diaper...lol.

hopefulmom81 · June 2013

delino:
Thanks hope! I too do all the feedings, changings and soothings. DH offered to do one last night and I said no. Mainly because I knew I would be up anyway. He does do daytime soothings and yesterday even changed a diaper...lol.

I was similar where it started out where I would just be like, "nah, I am up anyways", well that morphed into, "nah, I'll just take care of it" feeling like it was my job, morphed into, "she will scream for 20 minutes if you try and will settle immediately if I do it and I am tired, so I will just take it".

The best part about the zombie-like exhaustion is that night that you get five hours feels like you have been to a dayspa! Sets the bar nice and low for sleep going forward. Just wait until her first 8 hour STTN! Heaven!

delino · June 2013

hopefulmom81:
delino:
Thanks hope! I too do all the feedings, changings and soothings. DH offered to do one last night and I said no. Mainly because I knew I would be up anyway. He does do daytime soothings and yesterday even changed a diaper...lol.
I was similar where it started out where I would just be like, "nah, I am up anyways", well that morphed into, "nah, I'll just take care of it" feeling like it was my job, morphed into, "she will scream for 20 minutes if you try and will settle immediately if I do it and I am tired, so I will just take it".  
The best part about the zombie-like exhaustion is that night that you get five hours feels like you have been to a dayspa!  Sets the bar nice and low for sleep going forward.  Just wait until her first 8 hour STTN!  Heaven!
 

four hours would be heaven right now...lol. 8 hours sounds like a fairy tale!

mork · June 2013

::BIG HUGS:: It will get better love, although it's hard to see or believe now. I don't remember when the sleep patterns got better, but I know it was a gradual process that ended in STTN 11 hours by 3.5 months. The miracle blanket and cluster feeding before bed were big helps.

LoveOfMikesLife · June 2013

what's a schedule and consistent sleep?

you know my horror story and all these other posts just makes me sad to know that I really have the worst sleeper on the board

maybe we can just set our phones up and let L and D FaceTime at night so we can sleep?

adoxyinherear · June 2013

DD started sleeping better around 8 weeks, and she slept great until 4.5 months. It was rough for awhile, but now she *usually* give me a 5-ish hour stretch.

delino · June 2013

LoveOfMikesLife:
what's a schedule and consistent sleep?
you know my horror story and all these other posts just makes me sad to know that I really have the worst sleeper on the board
maybe we can just set our phones up and let L and D FaceTime at night so we can sleep?

You are a genius!

delino · June 2013

Jessiebug81:
mork:
::BIG HUGS:: It will get better love, although it's hard to see or believe now. I don't remember when the sleep patterns got better, but I know it was a gradual process that ended in STTN 11 hours by 3.5 months. The miracle blanket and cluster feeding before bed were big helps.
I have to add that the Miracle Blanket was a HUGE turning point for us. HUGE. I cried when they outgrew it.

She's not fond of not having her hands available for chewing.

orangegoggles · June 2013

delino:
Jessiebug81:
mork:
::BIG HUGS:: It will get better love, although it's hard to see or believe now. I don't remember when the sleep patterns got better, but I know it was a gradual process that ended in STTN 11 hours by 3.5 months. The miracle blanket and cluster feeding before bed were big helps.
I have to add that the Miracle Blanket was a HUGE turning point for us. HUGE. I cried when they outgrew it.
She's not fond of not having her hands available for chewing.

DS wasn't either. Where doe she sleep? Have you tried the RNP? It made a big difference for my son in the beginning days. The incline and cozy feel of it is what I think helped. Eventually he tolerated a swaddle too but at first it was a no go.

Good luck Delino, its so hard in the beginning! Then when I started to get into a great groove, he regressed and now we are just getting back on track. I feel for you!

delino · June 2013

pangnl79:
delino:
Jessiebug81:
mork:
::BIG HUGS:: It will get better love, although it's hard to see or believe now. I don't remember when the sleep patterns got better, but I know it was a gradual process that ended in STTN 11 hours by 3.5 months. The miracle blanket and cluster feeding before bed were big helps.
I have to add that the Miracle Blanket was a HUGE turning point for us. HUGE. I cried when they outgrew it.
She's not fond of not having her hands available for chewing.
DS wasn't either. Where doe she sleep? Have you tried the RNP? It made a big difference for my son in the beginning days. The incline and cozy feel of it is what I think helped. Eventually he tolerated a swaddle too but at first it was a no go.
Good luck Delino, its so hard in the beginning! Then when I started to get into a great groove, he regressed and now we are just getting back on track.  I feel for you! 

She sleeps in her crib...prefers to sleep flat. I might try a swaddle again.

orangegoggles · June 2013

Thats good that she likes sleeping flat! Most babies don't so thats one hurdle you won't need to worry about.

My son still screamed his head off/would fight it when I would put it on but ultimately he was able to fall asleep faster and stay asleep.

Good luck!

QuigleyCat1 · June 2013

(((delino))) It does get better sweetie. DS was sleeping longer stretches (4-6 or so hours) somewhere around 2 months; maybe a little before that. I know you've heard this a zillion times, but sleep when DD sleeps. It's not always easy but it helps. I had a hard time, because when DS would sleep I would try to clean up or organize....BAD idea! lol Everything else can wait. Get the sleep while you can, but eventually she'll fall into routine and you forget about these tough days. I promise! In the meantime, HUGS!

Shaungela · June 2013

Probably about 8w when she would go right back to sleep and not looking for food.

delino · June 2013

QuigleyCat1:
delinonbsp; It does get better sweetie.nbsp; DS was sleeping longer stretches 46 or so hours somewhere around 2 months; maybe a little before that.nbsp; I know you've heard this a zillion times, but sleep when DD sleeps.nbsp; It's not always easy but it helps.nbsp; I had a hard time, because when DS would sleep I would try to clean up or organize....BAD idea! lolnbsp; Everything else can wait.nbsp; Get the sleep while you can, but eventually she'll fall into routine and you forget about these tough days. I promise!nbsp; In the meantime, HUGS!

Tried this yesterday. I laid in bed for 2 hours while she slept and I could not fall asleep. Once the sun is up I can't sleep. As soon as the sun goes down I can sleep. So last night I got her to sleep at 8pm and I went to bed right after!

Carolee · June 2013

Can some of your LOs teach L how to sleep, please?!? She's 6.5 months and still waking multiple times a night...it's exhausting. Hugs, Delino!

tetiananina · June 2013

Jackson goes down around 8, is up to eat around 1130 to 12 then up again at 230 then 430 to 5. He's 7 months old. Born a month early but I can say you get use to it. I work FT but my body I use to the lack of sleep. I hope yours STTN sooner

FreyaWin2382 · June 2013

That's so hard! Wyatt is five months old now and has maybe been on a "routine" for the past month.....but now he is teething so I hate to say that too loudly! Rumor is that we get to sleep again someday.

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