By myself for the next two months

rjeller32 · June 2013

DH is relocating temporarily for a job about 2 hours north of us for 2 months. He is going to be working every day except Sunday, so we'll only see him once a week if he comes down or we go up there.

Last year, he worked for 4 months out of the state, and it was hard, but I only had 1 kiddo. I am kind of freaking out this time around, because there are two AND a dog to take care of, and DD1 is going to have a hard time not seeing her dad again.

I am also starting a job, which will bide my time pretty well, but now we have to put the girls in daycare all day instead of the three hours that DH and I are both at work that was planned. (He works nights, I work days).

It's a lot for my brain to handle all at once. Sooo many changes, I can only imagine how hard it will be on my kids.

Someone just make me feel better!

LittleFish1 · June 2013

It will be ok, you'll hit a groove. Can you set up a carpool or for someone to come and watch your LOs once or twice a week (aside from day care) so you can go to the market? Or have the online shopping and let them deliver? Is there someone in the neighborhood you could get to walk the dog for you? One less thing on your plate that way.

mama2many · June 2013

I can relate & it stinks to hold the fort down alone all the time. MH works out of town/state most of the time - right now, he's home weekends, but he was in Mississippi all of March & April. Last year, TX for 4 mo, ND for 3, etc. Ugh, its A LOT.

As much as I don't like it, I sure find that sometimes it's a bit easier. I get into a groove with the kids that works really well for me. It actually can be a little harder when he's home because I have to negotiate parenting with someone again -but not long enough to get into a new groove, just long enough to make it stessful.

We try to skype once a week when he's gone for longer periods - that helps the kids quite a bit.

Meanwhile - I really LOVE watching whatever movies I want to for a while, and getting to stretch out in bed. (said with a bit more humor to cover the lonely pillow)

rjeller32 · June 2013

mama2many:
I can relate & it stinks to hold the fort down alone all the time. MH works out of town/state most of the time - right now, he's home weekends, but he was in Mississippi all of March & April. Last year, TX for 4 mo, ND for 3, etc. Ugh, its A LOT.
As much as I don't like it, I sure find that sometimes it's a bit easier. I get into a groove with the kids that works really well for me. It actually can be a little harder when he's home because I have to negotiate parenting with someone again -but not long enough to get into a new groove, just long enough to make it stessful.
We try to skype once a week when he's gone for longer periods - that helps the kids quite a bit.
Meanwhile - I really LOVE watching whatever movies I want to for a while, and getting to stretch out in bed. (said with a bit more humor to cover the lonely pillow)

I found the negotiating part too when DH was in ND and came back. He wanted to spoil DD1 because he hadn't been around her, and she was a terror. I was about ready to tell him to go back haha.

I totally love watching whatever too! I should be looking at the positives instead of the negatives. Thanks both of you!

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