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IVF/Tubal ligation reversal

SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
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After I had my DD, child number two, I got my tubes tied during the csection. I thought I was happily forever married, we had two beautiful children, a boy and a girl, and I felt content that I was done for good.

Well, a horrible divorce later and I am ina relationship with a man I love and can see myself marrying someday. I think I would want a child with him.

I had an OB/GYN appointment this week for an unrelated issue and I mentioned this to her. She said tubal reversals are a huge surgery, very painful, and don't have a high success rate. IVF on the other hand is around the same cost and works a much higher percentage of the time in someone young and healthy like me.

So, I am not even considering doing anything at all until/if we are married, financially stable, and have the money saved to afford something like this,but I would really like to do some research on the two options. Do any of you have experiences or resources regaurding IVF or tubal reversal? When I google all I find are clinics trying to sell me their procedures at a lower cost.
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Re: IVF/Tubal ligation reversal

  • Littlejen22Littlejen22 member
    No experience but one suggestion is to ask your doctors specific success rate instead of being told their offices rate or the procedure rate because there are doctors more successful and less successful and you want the better ones. And it is not just their application of whichever option you choose but also their vetting process to decide who is a good candidate.

    Have you talked to him and does he want kids?
    Jen - Mom to two December 12 babies Nathaniel 12/12/06 and Addison 12/12/08
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  • new+tothisnew+tothis member
    I had IVF for IF issues. All in all I think it was about $25-30,000 all in all. I went to a more expensive and experienced clinic. The success rates for IVF are published for each clinic. It's not the end all be all but it is one of the pieces to the puzzle on where to go for IVF. It was financially and emotionally straining but we were lucky to be successful. My clinic refers to me as one of their more successful clients because I have a stash of frozen eggs (I think 10-12). Most people aren't so lucky. It's a gamble but isn't TTC always? I think your odds are much better for IVF than for tubal reversal but that's just my assumption.
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  • SimpleJaneSimpleJane member
    imageLittlejen22:
    No experience but one suggestion is to ask your doctors specific success rate instead of being told their offices rate or the procedure rate because there are doctors more successful and less successful and you want the better ones. And it is not just their application of whichever option you choose but also their vetting process to decide who is a good candidate.

    Have you talked to him and does he want kids?


    Yeah, all she said was that my success rate for IVF could be 80 or more, where as tubal reversal could be significantly less depending on how muh scar tissue and damage they found.

    J wants a child of his own. He knew from the beginning that may not be an option for us. He is okay with that, and its not a deal breaker. I'm not sure I want to go through what it would take to get there with either option, but I am considering it.

    Thanks for the advice ladies.
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  • bebe11bebe11 member
    One of my H's friends, she is 40 or 41, had IVF because of having her tubes tied and she has a beautiful little baby boy.

     

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