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WWYD? The most upsetting thing I've seen in a long time.

pmduggan01pmduggan01 member
in October 2012 Moms

So my neighbors have an in-ground swimming pool and are having people over for a BBQ. I went outside to do stuff in our yard, and came outside to hear her child screaming, crying and pleading for help since he was in the pool and absolutely TERRIFIED of the water. She was holding him and he begged to be let out. I'd say he was about 3 or 4 years old -- and it went on for 10 minutes or so.

They group of them were saying stuff like, "you'll be fine; grandpa used to just throw us in the the deep end and have us to learn to swim that way, you have to learn how to swim some day..."

These are neighbors I've had issues with in the past, so I was afraid to say something because they are totally confrontational. I came into the house totally upset, and my husband went out there to observe. The kid is out of the water now, but I don't know if intervening is something we should do or not.
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  • Mrs.G123Mrs.G123 member
    How would you intervene? They sound like assssholes but it's NOYB.

    Eta: I would also be upset.
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  • nealblnealbl member
    If they were trying to introduce him to water I don't think they did anything wrong. I personally think its none of your business and I don't mean that in a mean way. A lot of babies hate baths at first and scream all the way through baths until they get use to it. I see no difference here. However I wasn't there so maybe it was different than what I'm reading.
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  • pmduggan01pmduggan01 member

    Like I said, I didn't say or do anything. I just really felt for the kid. My Mom has a massive water/swimming phobia (and I who doesn't have a phobia of their own?) so by prolonging his agony and belittling him like they did by saying thing like, "we could just throw you in like Grandpa did to us" was very upsetting to me.

    Our city pools offer a class for terrified swimmers of all ages, so I considered suggesting this. But my gut told me to stay out of it. Thanks for your replies.

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  • lady dixneuflady dixneuf member
    Yeah hard to say when I wasn't there but my SD was this way and she ultimately was a fish. Kids can way way overreact and freak out and sometimes not listening is ok. Imagine if someone intervened if you were doing 10 min of crying it out.

    There is absolutely nothing the police could do. Or they would send CPS over and those people would seriously make you life hell. I know this is out of concern but it's a case of MYOB


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  • AnotherPreggoAnotherPreggo member

    imagenealbl:
    If they were trying to introduce him to water I don't think they did anything wrong. I personally think its none of your business and I don't mean that in a mean way. A lot of babies hate baths at first and scream all the way through baths until they get use to it. I see no difference here. However I wasn't there so maybe it was different than what I'm reading.

    Pretty much my thoughts.  They really need to learn how to swim if they have a pool in their yard, and it is no surprise that they would be screaming if it was one of their first times in it. 

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