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I've been reading some of the posts in this board for a while and am finally getting around to introducing myself!
I'm L (33). My wife is Z (35). We've been together nearly 6 years and married since 2.26.12. We live in Austin, Texas with our two cats, Lucy and Sophie, and our dog, Bama (pictured up there in the corner).
A little (or a lot) about our TTC history... We started to get the itch to TTC in 2011, but decided that we wanted to get married first, so put off TTC until after the wedding. Our first round of IUIs looked like this -
March 2012 | IUI#1 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel = BFN
April 2012 | IUI #2 w/ Letrozole + Ovidrel = BFN
May 2012 | IUI #3 w/ Letrozole + acupuncture = BFP
We had our NT scan at 11w5d. The scan revealed an abnormally high NT measurement (around 4 or 5). We were immediately referred to a perinatologist for further screenings. After another detailed scan with more bad news, we elected to have a CVS the very next day. A couple of days later, we received the FISH results confirming that we were having a boy and that he had full Trisomy 18 (Edward?s Syndrome).
For those who may not know, T18 is considered a diagnosis that is ?incompatible with life? ? it affects nearly every organ and causes severe mental retardation. For some reason, boys with T18 have even worse outcome than girls. The majority of babies with T18 do not survive pregnancy and/or labor and almost all that do will die within the first year of life. We made the devastating and gut-wrenching decision to terminate the pregnancy at 13 weeks. Although it felt like my heart was being ripped out of my body, my wife and I felt like the most protective decision we could make for our son was to save him from any suffering. I share this because all of you who have also experienced a loss know how the experience changes your perspective and frames the rest of your TTC journey. The particular decisions we had to make along the way are part of our experience.
Fast forward a few months. Amidst much fear and anxiety, we had our next IUI in January 2013 - (IUI#4 w/ Letrozole = BFN). Our second IUI (5th overall) w/ Letrozole + acupuncture resulted in BFP! We scheduled our NT scan at the very earliest our OB?s office would allow - 11w5d. And, our baby looked perfect ? ?textbook? according to the ultrasound tech! The midwife offered us the MaterniT21 testing, but gave us reassurance that all indications pointed to us having a healthy baby. We received the results of the M21 test around 14 weeks and the test confirmed we were having a boy and that he tested negative for all the major trisomy disorders. Big sigh of relief!
So, here we are ? 17 weeks and happy! I have still have fears like all pregnant mommas probably have, but mostly I have faith that we are going to have a sweet, healthy baby boy in our arms in November.
Looking forward to sharing some more experiences with all of you!
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Welcome L&Z! You've had a rough road and I'm so sorry for the loss of your first son. I had a missed miscarriage at 16 weeks in March - I honestly have thought many times of women like you who went into the D&E with a living (very sick) baby inside them. I am so sorry you had to make that decision, but with Trisomy 13 and 18, my wife and I made the agreement early on that we would take the path you did. That had to be awful though, and I'm glad you've decided to move forward with another baby.
What great news however that you are KU'd again already, and with a healthy boy this time!!! How exciting and awesome for you. There is a pregnancy check-in each week on Monday's so be sure to add yourself. Lots of us who aren't pregnant yet check in on the TTC checkin also on Mondays. We call keep tabs on each other this way.
There are three others who check in regularly I know of who had losses and are now pg - so you are not alone in struggling as a PAGL mom. I hope to be one soon too but am totally terrified especially with a 2nd tri loss. It's great to have the reassurance and support of the board and I'm sure you'll be happy here!
Congrats again!!
Me (43) and J (45) - same sex couple. And we don't feel 40+!
June'12 - First RE Visit
Sept. '12 - Tubes removed
Dec. '12 - Donor Egg/Donor Sperm IVF Cycle - 4 good embies!
Dec. '12 - Fresh transfer, BFP! EDD 8/29/13
Mar. '13 - Missed m/c at 16w1d, baby boy stopped growing at 15w4d
Loss due to umbilical cord clot...baby was perfect.
Jul '13 - FET#1 - c/p
Sept. '13 - FET#2 - BFN
Dec.' 2, 2013 - FET#3 with our last chance embie - BFP!!!
Dec' 26, 2013 - hb!!
EDD 8/20/14 with a baby girl!
Little S was born on 8/21/14 - 8lb, 14 oz and 20 inches long.
We live in Seattle and used SRM for our donor egg IVF cycle
9 IUIs = 9 BFNs
IVF October 2012: 22 eggs retrieved, 17 fertilized, 5 frozen
ET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Blighted ovum discovered at 7w5d; D&E
FET #1: 1 blast = BFP; Missed m/c discovered at 9w5d; D&E
Karyotyping: normal ~ RPL Testing: normal ~ Hysteroscopy: normal
FET #2: 1 blast transferred 10/25; BFP 10/31!
EDD 7/13/14 ~ Induced at 37w4d due to pre-eclampsia ~ Born on 6/28/14
*Everyone welcome*
Me - 30, My wife - 31 , Together for 10 yrs - Married August 2012
5 medicated IUIs w/ RE (March - July 2013) = BFN
Fresh IVF Cycle in September 2013 resulted in 18 mature eggs, 16 fertilized, 12 made it to day 5. Transfer of 2 Grade A blastocysts on 9/15/13, and 10 embryos in the freezer! *****BFP on 9/25/13 - betas: @10dp5dt = 232; @12dp5dt = 465; @15dp5dt = 1,581 *********William George born June 4, 2014*********Baby Oliver born 11/27/13
TTC stats with donor sperm...
IUI #1 with trigger, 1/4/13 - BFN
IUI #2 with trigger, 2/1/13 BFN
IUI #3 with tigger, 2/28/12 BFP EDD 11/21/13
Married 7/7/10 - Provincetown MA on the beach -
Reception October 23, 2010 - Martha Clara Vinyards, North Fork Long Island
5/12/13 - 5/13/13 IUI #1 - BFN
6/14/13 - IUI #2 - BFN - 7/17/13 - IUI#3 - BFN Clomid cycle 100mg 08/13 - cancelled bc produced too many eggs. Clomid cycle 50mg 10/13 - IUI#4- BFN. Clomid. Switched Dr in November. IUI#5 11/20 and 11/21 with trigger and clomid. -TWW {\rtf1\ansi\ansicpg1252 {\fonttbl\f0\fswiss\fcharset0 Helvetica;} {\colortbl;\red255\green255\blue255;\red51\green51\blue51;\red255\green255\blue255;} \deftab720 \pard\pardeftab720\sl280\partightenfactor0 \f0\fs22 \cf2 \cb3 \expnd0\expndtw0\kerning0 \outl0\strokewidth0 \strokec2
Thank you for the warm welcomes!
2Mamaz - I'm sorry for your loss. I'm glad this board is able to provide support to you and others who have experienced a loss.
mwagner - according to your ticker, it looks like we have the same due date - 11/21!
Welcome to the board!
First I want to say that your story caused water works here, good thing my office door was shut! I am so sorry for all you have experienced in your TTC journey.
ALSO, a big congrats on your baby boy!
My partner just had our little boy in March. He has been challenging and amazing all at once!
Good Luck
A
Thank you for sharing this with me. I know many mommas who have lost babies, but not any others who have known of a confirmed chromosomal abnormality. I definitely felt very lonely at the time (even though I had great support). Congrats on your new little one!