CS mamas how will you do it next time?

Whittyone12 · June 2013

I have been reading a lot of birth research lately for my continuing education at work, and it got me thinking about next time. I am still very much on the fence about how I'm going to give birth next time.

On one hand with my abruption, and the blood loss and unexpected emergency c section this time, going in at a set time, for a scheduled procedure, knowing that in a couple hours I will have my baby would be really nice. But I kind of feel like I missed out on an experience this time. Part of me would want to try for a VBAC, but I don't want to end up in a scary emergency situation like that again.

So what will you do for your next one RCS or try for a VBAC?

TechieGirl1 · June 2013

I would probably go for a RCS. Mainly for the same reasons you stated, not wanting to be in labor for 2 days (like I was the last time), to end up having a c section anyways. Lo's head was too big and was wedged in my pelvis to go any further, that doesn't make me want to try for a vbac.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

I'm on the fence.

thepretzelchick · June 2013

I'm having a RCS. Because of how soon I'm having #2, I don't think I'd be a candidate for a VBAC anyway.

Even if I wasn't pregnant so soon, I really don't want to go through 3 weeks of prodromal labor again, get induced again, have pitocin contractions again, and have another baby get stuck and its head start swelling again, and end up with a c-section anyway again. Also, again. I don't think I said it enough. Wink

My OB already alluded to a RCS. With his hand up in my business, his words were, "You're measuring right at 8 weeks, so that'd put you at the middle of January. But since we know 9lbs 14oz doesn't fit through here, we're looking at the first week of January." Thanks, doc. Now kindly remove your hand. I like knowing approximately when I'm going to have 2.0. My bro and SIL and nephew are coming out to visit again and I'd like them here for more time after I have the baby rather than before. They were here for two weeks last summer and I only got one day at home from the hospital before they had to leave. Even though we don't have a date set in stone yet, we have a general enough idea so they can buy plane tickets in a few months. That makes me feel better.

rp-chicago-mom · June 2013

thepretzelchick:
I'm having a RCS. Because of how soon I'm having 2, I don't think I'd be a candidate for a VBAC anyway. Even if I wasn't pregnant so soon, I really don't want to go through 3 weeks of prodromal labor again, get induced again, have pitocin contractions again, and have another baby get stuck and its head start swelling again, and end up with a csection anyway again. Also, again. I don't think I said it enough. [;]My OB already alluded to a RCS. With his hand up in my business, his words were, "You're measuring right at 8 weeks, so that'd put you at the middle of January. But since we know 9lbs 14oz doesn't fit through here, we're looking at the first week of January." Thanks, doc. Now kindly remove your hand. I like knowing approximately when I'm going to have 2.0. My bro and SIL and nephew are coming out to visit again and I'd like them here for more time afternbsp;I have the baby rather than before. They were here for two weeks last summer and I only got one day at home from the hospital before they had to leave. Even though we don't have a date set in stone yet, we have a general enough idea so they can buy plane tickets in a few months. That makes me feel better.

Your agains are similar to mine. I don't want to push three hours and have another failed forceps delivery and then tear but STILL have a c section. Recovering from a second degree tear plus c section felt really wrong. Plus, my poor boy's heart rate would skyrocket with every contraction because he was in pain. He had a black eye from it. I felt really guilty about that.

vic8504 · June 2013

I would like to say vbac this time but I wasn't so sure about it the first time and kind of like the idea of knowing exactly when the next one will come. Plus I am not sure if my doctors will let me vbac after a cs....

Andreabks · June 2013

i'm one and done, but should it happen i'd do one of 2 things.

1. if baby is not sunny side up this time, try for vbac w/o epi.

2. if baby is sunny again, RCS it is.

SJandVA · June 2013

I'm done at 2. But I would do another c section. After my bad vaginal birth with DD1 a csection for DD2 was always an option. All pregnancy I went back and forth. Then at 35 weeks we found out she was breech. I was seriously relieved that the decision was made for me. My csection was a way easier recovery.

AmySmolos · June 2013

RCS for me! Another emergency c sec due to ds heart rate dropping to like 8 due to his cord being wrapped around his neck and body. My mom lost her firstborn that same way and maybe it's a fluke but I'm too scared to risk it.

stlmomma27 · June 2013

RCS for me!

nicnac817 · June 2013

I have been researching VBAC friendly doctors in my area. I was pushed into a C-section after a long labor that stalled. It was a mess... my epidural wasn't done properly and I felt everything. They were pumping Pitocin into me for hours. I was contracting for a minute every minute for hours. I wanted them to turn it off but they wouldn't. DISASTER. I see no reason that I won't be able to at least try for a VBAC next time. I feel cheated. I truly believe the only way for me to get over it is to try again. This time without an Epidural so I can move around.

JessiP613 · June 2013

I'll be doing a RCS. My pelvis is too narrow for a baby's head to fit through (although DD was trying- she still came out a conehead!) I am kind of sad that I won't ever get the surprise of not knowing when my babies will be born, since I was induced with DD, but I would rather have safe deliveries.

shakinros · June 2013

Really don't know. If there were a way to be guaranteed that I could VBAC without being induced and without pitocin and without being in labor for two days, I would definitely go for it. I feel like I missed out on a vaginal birth.

But then I get scared about having the same birth experience again and I think RCS would be fine. It might be nice to know and to plan.

I don't know.

Whittyone12 · June 2013

I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. Pretty much everyone I know IRL, is all "WHY WOULDN'T YOU VBAC?????" When I tell them. Like I'm a crazy person for not wanting to go through that again.

PurrCrasher · June 2013

Whittyone12:
I'm glad I'm not the only one that feels this way. Pretty much everyone I know IRL, is all "WHY WOULDN'T YOU VBAC?????" When I tell them. Like I'm a crazy person for not wanting to go through that again.

I run into that a lot, too. People don't realize what some of us went through just to get our children here alive. I honestly think that after the trauma of the birth of Vivian and Samuel I would be terrified to try anything other than a RCS. I would be too afraid of another abruption or something equally traumatic or worse.

That all said. I don't think I'll be having any more regardless. That thought has been nagging me lately and it makes me sad. I do feel like I missed out on a traditional birth experience but after nearly losing all three of us I'm starting to feel more content with what I got.

fastcarsandfreedom3319 · June 2013

Man, I really love this board. I love knowing that I have all you ladies who had very similar experiences to my own.

Sappiness aside, I feel exactly the same as most of you. I feel like I was jipped on a vaginal birth, but honestly I got through everything and was about to push when they had to do my e-cs. I also was induced due to a failed u/s stress test, so I didn't get that "it's time" moment, but I am a planner-not knowing when he was going to come seriously messed with me. I think I'll be going to a RCS when it comes time for #2, especially with our families being so far away, maybe with a RCS they could actually be here for the birth, which would be amazing.

ETA a while back someone mentioned a "natural" cs where they take the baby out slowly, let you see the baby come out, direct to skin-to-skin time, much more like a vaginal birth. I would be all about that and when the time comes, I will definitely be asking my doctor if she would do it.

SpruceGrouse · June 2013

I didn't have a C section so perhaps I shouldn't comment, I was about to have one though. I was prepped and they were about to start when DS finally decided to arrive. I remember thinking as they wheeled me into the OR that if I had another baby I will just go ahead and do a RCS.

Reilly626 · June 2013

I'm not having another but if I did I wonder what kind of cut they would so as I was vertically cut for the twins. Maybe I would end up with a giant plus sign! Ugh!

ks3pink · June 2013

I had planned to vbac this time but with twins my doctor wouldn't let me. We are done now but if I were to get pregnant I have no idea which way I would go. I kind of feel kind maybe its not meant for me to deliver vaginally and I don't feel like I missed out on anything.

thepretzelchick · June 2013

Thanks to this thread, I had dreams about RCS all night.

MoFree · June 2013

My c / s was because Lila was premature and in a transverse lie. Assuming that condition doesn't present again I most definitely want to attempt a VBAC. In fact I will not use an OB who will not consider it.

I may get flamed for this but I'm sad do many women have lost confidence in their bodies. Also most OBs will understate risks of RCS and focus on the risks of VBAC.

Whittyone12 · June 2013

2ag:
MoFree:
My c / s was because Lila was premature and in a transverse lie. Assuming that condition doesn't present again I most definitely want to attempt a VBAC. In fact I will not use an OB who will not consider it.

I may get flamed for this but I'm sad do many women have lost confidence in their bodies. Also most OBs will understate risks of RCS and focus on the risks of VBAC.

If it wasn't for my OB I wouldn't have a baby. If she isn't comfortable with a VBAC I'm okay with that because I trust her to make that decision. She met me multiple nights at the hospital to admit me for PTL, visited me twice a day even on weekends and when she wasn't on call. When Kate's hr dropped, even though they got it back up by giving me turb, she knew something was wrong and she needed to get her out. She was right. I trust her judgment completely, and she's the only MD I'll ever say that about.

My OB saved Keith and I both. Neither of us would be here now if it wasn't for her. I'm thankful she did it, and if she said I needed another CS. I'd do it, without question.

CLeigh03 · June 2013

If we go for #3 - c-section all the way!

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