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In-Laws

WanderingAWanderingA member
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Hey ladies,

In case any of you were considering temporarily moving in with your in-laws at 35 weeks while you wait to close on your new house, don't.

 

 "Wow, you look SO huge and uncomfortable"

"Would you mind running to the store and getting supplies for a dinner party?  We have 12 guests coming over tonight and will need all the help we can get!"

"Can you watch your 7 month old niece for the day while I go fabric shopping for my new curtains in the city?"

To top it off, when we moved in last week my father-in-law stood in the doorway and watched me carry boxes in from the car until my husband finally told him that he should probably not be letting his 8 month pregnant daughter-in-law be carrying boxes.  

 

This extremely useful public service announcement brought to you by a very tired, irritable pregnant lady sitting in the basement of their in-laws house.

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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member

    That kind of sucks, but are you there rent free? If so, I think helping them out with some things (even while pregnant) is not a crime to ask. If I were living/eating with my in laws they would expect some help on every day things too. 

    The box thing-- yeah not cool. As I say, I see where you are coming from but some help isn't too bad. All of it together? A little much.  


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    Oh absolutely!  I don't mind helping out at all and pulling my weight.  I've been grocery shopping for them, cleaning every other day (in 15 minute increments before my feet swell), and helping my MIL with watching my nieces (who she babysits for), I am just so very tired all of a sudden and really craving my own space! 
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  • PrimRoseMamaPrimRoseMama member

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    Oh absolutely!  I don't mind helping out at all and pulling my weight.  I've been grocery shopping for them, cleaning every other day (in 15 minute increments before my feet swell), and helping my MIL with watching my nieces (who she babysits for), I am just so very tired all of a sudden and really craving my own space! 

    That's understandable. Hopefully your house is finished soon. Did they give you an estimate? Hopefully before baby arrives! 


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  • Liz4444Liz4444 member
    I wouldn't move in with my inlaws not pregnant.
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  • applesandorangesapplesandoranges member
    My husband and I live in Egypt but I will be in the states a total of six months living with my in laws. I love them and am eternally grateful for everything, but I told DH that I will not be doing this for the next kid. I love them better in smaller doses just like my side of the family.
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  • kmc217kmc217 member
    imagekdasr:

    I hear you loud and clear. We're temporarily living with my parents and I'm quickly going out of my mind. We're here rent free too, so I get helping out and all that but they seem to think we're live in servants. I get scolded- literally, like a child- at least twice a week when they tell me to go run an errand for them and I remind them that I'm on BED REST with strict orders not to drive (I've been fainting. Not the best thing to be doing when behind the wheel of a car). Which then leads to the "you live here rent free why won't you do anything" fight. And my DH does EVERYTHING on top of working full time and taking care of his pregnant, sick, stuck in bed wife. They haven't shopped, cooked, cleaned or even taken out the freaking trash since we got here (Yesterday I walked into the kitchen for some water to find the my SD had put an empty dog food bag next to the overflowing trash can because he didn't want to walk the 20 feet to the front door to put it in the outside can). DH and I do their laundry, clean their rooms (they have separate bedrooms) etc, it's ridiculous. My parents are extremely lazy people, always have been, so I was prepared for a tough road when we moved in but we literally had no choice or I would have chosen anything else. I'm extremely grateful to have somewhere to live, especially rent free, but I feel like I'm dying.

    Here's hoping we survive this with half our sanity!

    OMG this is insane. I cannot even imagine. You are on BED REST and still cleaning your parents rooms? I'm sorry but maybe it's from how my parents raised me and how my mom STILL is with me but no way in he!! would my parents ever expect this of me ever, let alone at a time when you have doctors orders not to do so for the health/safety of their unborn grandchild.  

     

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  • lew1466lew1466
    You're a saint...I could never live with my mil! Never!!!
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    imageLiz4444:
    I wouldn't move in with my inlaws not pregnant.

    I like my fianc?s parents but I can't even imagine living with them! Good luck OP!

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  • summerchildsummerchild member
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    imageLiz4444:
    I wouldn't move in with my inlaws not pregnant.

    I'd live in a box on the street first.

    Sorry, OP! That sucks. I mean, I can understand them wanting you to help out a little since you're there rent free, but the box thing would piss me off. 



    I completely agree. It would take a lot for me to move in with my in laws. They are wonderful people but I can see how quickly the welcome would fade.
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  • shara3333shara3333 member
    imagekdasr:

    I hear you loud and clear. We're temporarily living with my parents and I'm quickly going out of my mind. We're here rent free too, so I get helping out and all that but they seem to think we're live in servants. I get scolded- literally, like a child- at least twice a week when they tell me to go run an errand for them and I remind them that I'm on BED REST with strict orders not to drive (I've been fainting. Not the best thing to be doing when behind the wheel of a car). Which then leads to the "you live here rent free why won't you do anything" fight. And my DH does EVERYTHING on top of working full time and taking care of his pregnant, sick, stuck in bed wife. They haven't shopped, cooked, cleaned or even taken out the freaking trash since we got here (Yesterday I walked into the kitchen for some water to find the my SD had put an empty dog food bag next to the overflowing trash can because he didn't want to walk the 20 feet to the front door to put it in the outside can). DH and I do their laundry, clean their rooms (they have separate bedrooms) etc, it's ridiculous. My parents are extremely lazy people, always have been, so I was prepared for a tough road when we moved in but we literally had no choice or I would have chosen anything else. I'm extremely grateful to have somewhere to live, especially rent free, but I feel like I'm dying.

    Here's hoping we survive this with half our sanity!

     

    i can't. This is beyond.  

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  • Fitnessteach2010Fitnessteach2010 member
    I could never EVER live with mine! I do not get along with mine. They are awful. We could however live with my parents. My H tells my parents all the time to move into our house....We have the room....
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  • mrschristinaloumrschristinalou member
    That's rough. Done of the things they are asking are reasonable, like watching the 7 month old. The boxes thing isn't good...abs you just need to tell them that you need to be safe, too.
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